Decision Ease

What Kool-Aid are decisive people drinking, and where can we get some? Look no further my friend. Today we reveal the "secrets" that give decisive people their superpower. Spoiler alert, they ain't hard, surprising or even out of your wheel house! Let's dig into these 5 things you're already doing (yes, you!) that make it easy to make firm, confident decisions in certain areas of life.  When...

Today we're diving into what you can DO differently in order to experience different results. Specifically: The results of not feeling *behind* all the time. If you want to be on top of things, prioritize on purpose, and feel good about how you use your time - this is the episode for you! In Part 1 (Ep 85), we explored how you can THINK differently (so make sure to catch that, since half our...

GREAT. You're on board with the decision to stop living your life "feeling behind."  Let's do it. This episode is a two-parter because calendars can feel chaotic enough — We need a simple framework to de-behind-ify them. So we're going to look at your schedule thusly: To change your results — in our case, not feeling behind anymore) — you can either change what you're thinking,...

There are two main reasons I want you to consider unsubscribing from the "I'm Behind" mindset: #1: What it does to your self-concept. #2: How it distracts you from real problems worth solving! Here's what we're covering in the first of this series on never living in this "I'm behind" story again: How your Mindset Atmosphere works (what letting one belief in can do to the entire system) Why this is...

As the chapter of 2023 comes to a close, you may feel compelled to reflect on the year — but if you're like me, you may also be too tired and forward-focused for a big "reflect sesh" to sound fun right now. So as to not miss out on any valuable lessons, but also to make reflection doable enough to, erm, DO...I'm offering a simple but powerful practice to look back and make a game plan fo...

Ever wondered what it's like to have a Coaching conversation?  What do we talk about? How's it look to talk through an issue or goal?  This is the episode for you! We talk a lot about the benefits of coaching (clearer head, easier decisions, less angst, yes please!) — but I haven't shared a behind-the-scenes look like this before.  In this episode, I walk you through examples o...

I like to think of goals as mountains we wanna climb. An obstacle "at the trail head" for a lot of people is this big misunderstanding. That you need a perfect routine and/or to go 110% HAM in order to achieve a goal. If you've been frustrated at your lack of progress on a goal (or starting, period) - but you also can't (or don't want to!) get into systematized daily routine, or tak...

MONEY. Love it? Hate it? Prefer to ignore it?  Today you're getting 4 Fundamental Tips to work through a money decision in a brand new way. So you don't have to a) wait 'til you find out later if it was a "good or bad" choice, b) keep making money decisions out of reactivity to fear, or c) limit yourself from things you really DO want to invest in. I'll walk you through: How to figure out wha...

Thinking it might be time for a career change?  Whether you're pretty happy but curious about venturing out of your Comfort Zone, or you're burnt out and one spicy interaction from quitting on the spot - this episode's for you. Listen in on my conversation with fellow Coach and Career Changer, Shyloh Brown, as we talk about: The messy, unsexy, real way a "pivot" usually looks (hint: it's...

Here's the truth about STUCK: It's a form of indecision that can become a habit. We can get so used to  not taking a step forward into "decided" that Stuck becomes a normal place to hang out! If you have an idea you really want to take action on (like...you're sick of hearing yourself talk about it and NEED to do the damn thing) -or- if you're worried the only way to get yourself into gear is...

Ahhh, holidays. The time of year when otherwise confident, assertive, boundaried people tend to switch into some other gear. This is when we can all of sudden become wildly susceptible to stressful decision-making! NOT THIS YEAR, friend-o. I'm cluing you into 3 mistakes you may be at risk of making in these final weeks of the year, so instead , you can have the best. damn. season. o...

When it comes to Decision Styles, People-Pleaser might be the one with the most  judgment attached to it.  In this series on the Decision Styles, and with the Decision Style Quiz , my goal is to help you make the MOST of how you operate. And in that spirit, I don't want to simply accept all the historical & societal criticisms we can assume about what it means to "be a peop...

How often have you put yourself down for your Perfectionism?  "UGH there I go again, needing everything to be perfect, SIGH." Ok, yes I agree sometimes this habit feels like a runaway train that costs you hours you never wanted to give to a project because who even is gonna notice that the background color of the PowerPoint is 4% off your normal brand colors........ But I want to help you loo...

If you like raw, real and inspirational AF, this interview's for you. I'm joined by  Lauren Balukjian, fellow Ivy grad and founder of the Ivy Sisters. She's the mastermind behind the Global Virtual Summit (that I'm lucky enough to be a Panelist for - see below). It's all about dropping the veil of perfection and getting real & raw about success, vulnerability, imposter syndrome and so muc...

Have you taken the   Decision Style Quiz   yet?  It'll tell you your default Decision Style, how to avoid its most common (most annoying) pitfalls, AND how you can use it to your advantage.  Welcome to Decision Style #2: The Procrastinator! Wait, Kirsten, procrastinating is bad, evil, and actually any human's most condemnable character flaw...Isn't it??? NOPE. Just because we h...

Have you taken the Decision Style Quiz yet?  It'll tell you your default Decision Style, how to avoid its most common (most annoying) pitfalls, AND how you can use it to your advantage.  Today we're delving into Decision Style #1, which happens to be my personal default: The Overthinker. Wait, Kirsten, are you telling me it doesn't have to be a completely bad thing that I overthink stuff...

How do we get ourselves to DO the things we wanna do? Today's episode asks you to stop looking at motivation as gasoline in a tank (is there enough to get where we want?) and instead, as an  emotion . It's easy to forget that  motivated is a feeling, just like grateful and irritated. And too often, we expect this emotion to show up on cue when it's time to do the things we've planned. Bu...

  "I don't have a choice" is one of the most toxic ideas out there.  And we believe it...even when we're not talking about impossibilities born of the laws of physics! In this episode, we talk about: How to detox this poison from your mindset  What that means about "liking your decisions" And exactly what to do when this thought comes up, to make sure you land on an empowered choice...

So many choices are influenced by our fear of eliciting certain reactions from other people. This is FOPO in action, right? Fear of people’s opinions swooping in to compel us to not say what we mean, not advocate for what we want, agree to stuff we don’t want to do... This mostly happens on a small scale. But when it becomes a decision-making habit, it can result in BIG life choices (where yo...

How do you tell the difference between "being polite / professional / etc" vs. making an inauthentic choice out of fear of people's opinions?  Short answer? You either feel in charge of your decision or you don't.  Even if the choice LOOKS the same (i.e...you agree to meet your weirdest family members in Vegas for Thanksgiving)... Your decision's motivation impacts the energy it takes to...

FOPO: Fear of people's opinions. Not just  super annoying and we wish we were over it by now... but also, a huge influence on your decision-making. Specifically? How empowered you do (or don't) feel in the choices you make.  This episode will tell you how to spot (often sneaky, subtle) signs that FOPO is costing you some of your agency — and how to get it back!   More Link...

Why does the act of  deciding   inspire such feelings of fear & finality? Well, turns out it's not just you being dramatic and/or indecisive...! Etymologically speaking, it actually makes a lot of sense that we take decisions so dang seriously. This episode explains why "deciding" really does inspire fear, and how  indecision becomes the norm when FEAR is your decision-making ba...

How do we make easier, better, more self-honoring decisions when it comes to FOOD and how we think about our bodies? Well, if you're like me, you have a lifetime of influences that makes this a complicated question. This year though, I decided I wanted answers (and good ones), so I hired Intuitive Eating Coach Victoria Yates! I gotta be honest - I had no idea what "intuitive eating" was (and frank...

You're unclear on your goals — but you still have time & energy you have to...use up on stuff. WHAT NOW.  This episode gives you actionable guidance for when you're in this super common, usually uncomfortable place. We go into detail on how to: 1. Remove the pressure to know ALL the answers RIGHT now   2. Use this sneaky question to get unstuck: “If you   did   kn...

Sometimes, there really is no tidy, perfect solution where everyone’s happy and you get everything exactly how you wanted it...😬 BUT that doesn’t mean you can’t still feel   totally in charge of your choices   and be intentional about what you do. If you feel backed into a corner, like you can't have one thing without sacrificing another —  or like you have to give up one...