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We hear a lot about physical fitness around New Year's, but what about mental fitness? Particularly — making the most of your mental ENERGY? Today we're covering 3 ways you're going to  save mental energy this year, so you can redirect it to things worthwhile (you know...like your hopes, dreams, health and dog cuddles). Here are three mental energy wasters you're going to let go of (and...

We all love a good goal-setting sesh at New Year's, right? But are you setting the BEST goals?  And are you setting yourself up to succeed or fail? There are 4 keys to setting goals you'll truly love achieving this year - Here they are! 0:00 Why the "How" Matters 2:12 Key #1 - Set and Specify 5:37 Key #2 - Don't Scale Down! 10:00 Key #3 - Take Action 12:26 Key #4 - Use Your Calendar   LI...

Want to know my biggest lessons (as a Decision Coach) this year?     Here they are! And they can all help YOU too. From people-pleasing to defining success, from boundaries to self-trust - Starting next year with these lessons in mind will put you ahead of the game! 0:00 How to Find Your Year's Lessons 2:00 Lesson #1 - Boundaries 4:37 Lesson #2 - Go at Your Pace 8:30 Lesson #3 - Self-Tru...

Get ready to revisit this episode ANY time you need, friend. Too much to do with not enough time? Stressing about all of it?  These are the questions to ask yourself! Make sure to listen to all 16 minutes to know how to use them best 'cause when you do, THEY WORK.  What's the goal ? Does this  have to get done? (Right now / Today?) Do  I  have to be the one to do it? What...

Whether you're worried something will be hard,  convinced it will be terrible, or just nervous about how it'll go... Deciding in advance is a skill you want! Visualization, confirmation bias and target fixation have powerful influence over what we experience in reality. And they ALL begin in our minds. This week, I'm teaching a skill I've used to help countless clients not only adopt a more p...

Ever agonize over how people will react to what you say? Does the anticipation of people's reactions ever cause you to change what you share...or even what you do? I've worked with so many people who make inauthentic decisions because of this fear of what people will think of those choices. Today, I want to equip you to feel more empowered in these situations - so you can make the decisions you re...

Happy Thanksgiving, real-time listeners! Today, and going into the final season of the year, I want to give you two of the most accessible and life-changing tools in the Decision Mastery arsenal: "Inquiry" (aka "The Work" aka deflating stress) "Savoring" (aka emotionally & neurologically maximizing a good moment) Gratitude can be easy to dismiss as "a habit I never started and won't today, so....

Thinking through my recent BIG decision to move (which I made quickly with relatively little friction*), I realized I need to call out some BIG mistakes people can make in situations like these. *Note: "little friction" does not mean "zero emotions or stress"...those are normal human experiences and we're not selling snake oil here Here's what I didn't do, that I don't want you to either: I DIDN'T...

Meet the final two Cognitive Tendencies and Biases in our series! Perspective-Taking and Delayed Gratification. 🙌 This episode will help you better understand: Why you misinterpret other people's meanings Why  other people misunderstand what  you mean Why seemingly harmful or illogical choices "make sense" And how to account for these biases so you can make clearer, more intentional cho...

Ok...we have a pretty good sense of Negativity Bias at the surface. Negative information has a greater impact than positive information, when it comes to cognitive processing. But do you know exactly how and why this is affecting your decision-making? Let's continue our series on Cognitive Biases, pulled from a workshop I ran with a previous Coaching Group, to dig into: The Framing Effect Loss Ave...

How often do you assume you know WHY something happened? How quickly do you land on a conclusion about why something DIDN'T happen? Turns out, we humans are great at assigning "causes" to things.  We're just not great at getting it right! In this quick episode, I clue you into the cognitive tendency of Causal Attribution, including where it comes from, how to spot it, and how to make con...

You might be familiar with Confirmation Bias. But do you know how to use it to your advantage? What about a quick, easy way to make sure you're not being blinded by it? I've got you covered in this episode. 👍 Listen now to feel instantly more in charge of your thinking and decisions!   LINKS! What's your DECISION STYLE?   Take the Quiz! Need to say NO?   Here's your 11-minute Crash...

We all want to make smart, thoughtful, "rational" decisions, right? But how do we do that when we're working with a biased brain? Today's episode is pulled from a Workshop I did for a Decision Masters Coaching Group, where we explored different cognitive biases and tendencies that impact our decision-making daily. You'll learn: How the Fluency Effect makes things seem easier than they are Why the...

Ok. So there's a problem. Maybe someone's saying it's your fault. Or they're implying it. Or you're just assuming it. What do you do? Well, if you're like a lot of folks, you go into Auto-Wrong Mode. You question your right to have an opinion contrary to others...to implement a boundary...to say no to a request You assume you're wrong, you've created the problem, and now it's your job to fix it Yo...

The idea of deciding something "as an experiment" is appealing because it implies lower stakes and easier commitment, right? But how do you "experiment" with big life choices that you can't just undo if you change your mind?  In this episode, I explain how you'll benefit from adopting the "Experiment Mindset" more -- and the most effective way to do it!   LINKS! What's your DECISION STYL...

How often do you set a goal - or create a plan to deal with a circumstance - only for it not to work  perfectly and for you to end up feeling like a failure who "should've planned better"? Whether you wanted to "get X done in Y time" or you thought you had a good strategy to deal with "Z situation" - if you don't end up with results you like, you might judge or resent your plan!  It...

Whether you're going through a big life change or you've simply experienced an internal "season shift," now is a great time to check in and update your Core Values. The best questions I can offer to make this easy are: What do I want influencing my choices right now? Three months from now, what will I be happy having done / tended do / avoided? In this episode, I walk you through my own conversati...

Is that a problem? Or is it, in fact, the plan? This question sparked a huge  aha for a client recently, and that's not the first time! When we'd LOVE everything to get done with perfection, it's difficult to fully commit to a plan that leaves things undone or only allows for things to be "good enough." So how do you fully commit to a plan, and execute it to success, when you don't ...

Sometimes, you get to map everything out, take all the time you want and still create big, beautiful change. Other times — not so much. Life surprises you, and all of a sudden, you're facing multiple opportunities to make BIG DECISIONS. But how do you keep a clear head and trust your choices when things are moving fast, or you didn't plan for any of this!? Well, speaking from real-time experi...

Periods of transition and uncertainty can upend us.  And when you're thrown out of your norms, it's easy to make impulsive decisions you don't  really love later on, get super overwhelmed and end up drained, wondering why that had to be so hard. This episode will help you do the smallest (read: most doable) planning possible for these periods of time, so you can set yourself up...

If you're in a period of overwhelm, or it looks like you could be soon, this episode is for YOU. I have 5 actionable, super practical things you can scan for and do to decrease the overwhelm you experience  this week .  In this episode, I walk you through: What to look for in your calendar How to edit your To Do List Ways to plan on recharging And the one tactic people are most likely to...

Want to feel more confident, unlimited and authentic? Happier? More "like yourself"? Have you considered how your style impacts all of this? After today, you will! Closet Coach Kelsea Neal is here to reveal just how connected your mental & energetic states and your STYLE are. It turns out, after you weed out the bogus societal expectations and unnecessary judgments and assumptions, your s...

This conversation is for you if: You think of yourself as "creative"  You absolutely do NOT think of yourself as "creative" You've struggled with the confidence to try something new  You've changed careers and hesitated to own your new identity You'd love to create more novelty in your life Paige Ray and I get into it, y'all!   Some highlights: "Don't let other people's doubt a...

Welcome to “I’ll Think About It” Part 3 🙌 A top contributor to the habit of delaying decisions for "later" is our fear of how people will react to them - yikes! Learning to effectively process this fear — and intentionally  muster the courage to communicate your decisions — can save you YEARS of angst, inauthentic people-pleasing and time spent doing crap you wish you had...

Welcome to “I’ll Think About It” Part 2 🙌 A  huge reason we put decisions off, drag them out, and end up making impulsive choices we don't trust (or just not making them at all) is our lack of a plan. Specifically: A plan for HOW you want to approach a decision. The good news? You're already making some choices with a plan — hooray! The news we gotta work on: You're used to re...