Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

You thought you were past this. You had more good days. You weren’t thinking about him as much. You finally felt like maybe… you were moving forward. And then out of nowhere— the heaviness comes back. You’re thinking about him again. You feel shut down, exhausted… maybe even defeated. And the question hits: “Why am I here again?” In this episode, we unpack the moment so many women experience in di...

Moment 2,374 in divorce no one prepares you for... You’re sitting there—staring at the email, the paperwork, the numbers—and your whole body says: I can’t do this. Your chest tightens. Your stomach drops. Every instinct in you says: run away. But the deadlines don’t stop. And you are too responsible. And suddenly you’re caught in that impossible space between:  – what your body is begging for  – a...

There’s a moment after leaving a marriage that is hard to prepare for... It’s quiet. Disorienting. And often filled with a question that feels impossible to answer: “Did I just make a mistake?” In this episode, I’m joined by Nicole Sodoma, a marriage-loving divorce attorney with over two decades of experience—someone who has seen behind the scenes of thousands of relationships, and lived through d...

Good morning, you beautiful badass! Beautiful Badass Mode: Activated. This Thursday Premium EP is your quick 3-minute power shot to flip the switch and step fully into your power. You are the most powerful woman — full stop. Any thought today that says anything less? Kick that shit to the curb. Call deep upon your power and step into the truth of who you are: a wild, growing, expanding woman who c...

Your labs are “fine.” But your body feels anything but. If you’ve been feeling exhausted, foggy, inflamed, or just… not like yourself after divorce—this episode is going to land in a very real way. Because what you’re experiencing isn’t random.  And it’s not just “stress,” “aging,” or something you need to push through. It’s your body responding to something deeper that hasn’t been addressed yet....

This Behind the Mic episode goes deeper than Tuesday’s conversation ever could. Once the public recording stopped, the three of us got brutally honest about the parts of post-divorce sex and desire that most women feel too ashamed, confused, or exposed to say out loud. We talk about: The intoxicating “drug” of being wanted again — and why it can feel like medicine (until it doesn’t) Using a transi...

There’s a kind of loneliness after divorce that no one really prepares you for. Not just emotional loneliness… but physical loneliness. The absence of touch. The absence of affection. The absence of being desired. And in that space, something can sneak in quietly: I just want to feel wanted again. In this episode, we go straight into the tension most women feel but rarely say out loud—how attentio...

There’s a moment after divorce that almost no one prepares you for. Not the chaos. Not the legal process. Not even the grief. But the moment when everything finally gets quiet… and you realize: “I have no idea what my life is supposed to look like anymore.” In this premium episode, Coach Tiffini steps in with something different. Not more advice. Not more overthinking. But a guided experience desi...

Divorce isn’t just emotional. It’s legal. It’s procedural. And for many women… It’s where everything starts to feel like it’s unraveling. In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary , we’re talking about something that doesn’t get enough attention: 👉 What divorce litigation actually does to your nervous system. Because the women we work with who are still in active litigation?  They’re almost always th...

Many divorced women quietly carry the same fear: “What if I can’t trust my own judgment?” After a relationship ends, it’s common to question everything — your choices, your instincts, even your ability to recognize what’s healthy and what isn’t. But for many women, that loss of self-trust didn’t start in the marriage. It started much earlier. In this premium coaching episode, Tiffini works with on...

Divorce grief isn’t always about the person. Sometimes it’s about the future you thought was guaranteed. In this episode, Dawn, Producer Joy, and Coach Tiffini unpack one of the most disorienting parts of divorce recovery: grieving the life you thought you were building. The marriage. The identity. The future that felt certain. Because when divorce happens, many women don’t just lose a partner — t...

Divorce doesn’t create just one version of you. It creates many. One moment you’re grieving. The next you’re furious. Then suddenly you’re nostalgic for a relationship that hurt you. Then you’re trying to pull yourself together and be the strong one. Many women think this means something is wrong with them. It doesn’t. It means your nervous system is trying to process a profound emotional rupture....

When someone dies, there’s a script. When you get divorced, there isn’t. No ritual. No defined role. No socially approved space to grieve someone who is still alive. In this episode, we unpack why divorce grief is neurologically and socially different from death — and why so many women feel stuck for years without understanding why. We talk about: The three ways divorce grief disrupts the nervous...

Hi love. Have you ever felt like no one listens…until you lose it? You ask calmly. You explain clearly. You regulate yourself. And nothing changes. But the moment you explode? Suddenly, everyone’s paying attention. In this premium Behind the Mic episode, Tiffini, Joy, and I unpack the dynamic that hit a nerve in the office this morning: Why do some systems only respond to anger? We talk about: – T...

You’re either eating everything in sight to numb the ache… or staring at food like your body forgot how to be hungry. Welcome to what so many women quietly call the divorce diet. After divorce, your nervous system is on high alert. Grief, resentment, fear, and mental load don’t just affect your thoughts — they change your biology. In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary , we unpack: • Why cortisol a...

One line from Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart hit me like lightning during my own post-divorce unraveling—exposing the exact shame trigger I’d carried for years, the hidden identity fueling quiet resentment, self-criticism, and that exhausting push-pull of “too much” versus “not enough.” In this powerful episode, I take you straight into the moment it landed (page 30, in the section on resentment...

Divorce isn’t just an ending—it’s a sacred disruption, a call to reclaim what’s been missing: true polarity, grounded masculine leadership, and the feminine surrender that lets you finally soften without losing yourself. When I read GS Youngblood’s The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman , my nervous system exhaled. I felt seen in wa...

This is us. Moms who’ve lived it — sitting together having a real, unfiltered conversation about the one thing that keeps so many of us stuck: the feeling that it’s all so damn unfair. We talked about the hard parts of co-parenting after divorce — the uneven load, the chronic illness with no support, the special-needs kids mostly on one parent’s shoulders, the guilt, the waiting for him to step up...

You keep it together. Calm texts. Steady schedules. Polite handoffs. But every time his car pulls up, your body betrays you: heart races, chest tightens, breath goes shallow. That’s not just “leftover divorce stuff.” That’s anxiety living in your nervous system—and it’s been quietly growing every time you swallow the unfairness to stay the “bigger person.” He’s got the new life. You’re carrying th...

This Thursday, you’re invited into something sacred and real. One of our most cherished community members — the one who shows up honest, even when life feels like a rocket ship up her ass — sat down with Coach Tiffini for a live, unfiltered IFS coaching session. She came in carrying the familiar post-divorce exhaustion: extra work responsibilities dumped without warning, barely time to eat, resent...

Hi, love—welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, where midlife women move beyond talk therapy to process grief held in the body, release what's braced inside, and reclaim the confidence divorce tried to steal. I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, integrative healer, and the woman who once lay awake thinking, “I should feel better than this… but my body never got the memo.” Toothpicks holding your eyeli...

Thursday episodes are for when your body won’t do what your mind understands. If you’re exhausted after divorce but still feel like you can’t drop the ball…  If rest makes you anxious instead of relieved…  If part of you believes that if you stop managing everything, it will all fall apart… This episode gives you something to do in that moment. Not a mindset shift.  Not a pep talk.  Not “just rest...

After divorce, women are often told to “step into their masculine energy” — be strong, decisive, productive, self-sufficient. But what if you’re not choosing strength at all? What if your body simply doesn’t expect help to arrive? And, do you know what to do about this ? In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary , we talk about why so many women feel stuck in over-functioning after divorce — and why w...

Behind the Mic is where we slow the conversation down. In this premium episode, we speak candidly about dissociation during and after divorce —not in clinical terms, and not from a distance, but from inside our own lived experience. This is a quieter, more intimate conversation about the ways women cope when life becomes overwhelming… and how easy it is to miss what’s really happening while you’re...

If you’re in divorce recovery and keep reaching for food, screens, or emotional numbness, it’s easy to assume the problem is discipline. It’s not. In today’s episode, we talk about what’s actually running underneath those patterns: everyday dissociation — the high-functioning, easy-to-miss kind that hides inside coping, productivity, and “getting through the day.” Divorce doesn’t just end a relati...