DBT and Me

It's time for a re-do! When Kate and Michelle first recorded this episode, it was during COVID which resulted in poor sound quality as they adjusted to recording virtually. In this special re-recorded episode, they explain opposite action all over again, providing new personal examples to help explain the skill. Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at chec...

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about when to learn coping skills for anger, questioning if DBT can work when there's resistance, obsessing over unresolved situations, and coping with getting fired from a job. Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer suppor...

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about moving past hurt feelings, disrespectful in-laws, betrayal by multiple people, finding a "gray area" with harmful behavior, how to get to know yourself, hypervigilance about a partner's change in tone, seeing a friend who has blocked you, and skills for being in a struggling marriage. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed fr...

Kate and Michelle are joined by fellow therapist Sara Abbott, host of the Bold Beautiful Borderline podcast, to discuss her journey with being diagnosed with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). Sara talks about early childhood experiences, difficulties with relationships as an adult, and what's helped her the most with finding her wise mind. Sara shares inspirational reminders and advice that w...

Michelle is joined by therapist Diana Ramirez who shares her incredible story of coming to the United States from Honduras when she was 13 as an unaccompanied minor. Having no idea what DBT was, she can look back now at her past and see how she was using DBT skills along the way to help her overcome the obstacles she was facing. She shares DBT skills that can be useful for other immigrants and tal...

It's time for a re-do! When Kate and Michelle first recorded this episode, it was during COVID which resulted in poor sound quality as they adjusted to recording virtually.  In this special re-recorded episode, they explain Check the Facts skill all over again, providing new personal examples to help explain the skill along with some updated strategies to make using it easier.  Interested in check...

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about making amends, manic symptoms that worsen with exercise, coping with panic attacks and the difference between feelings and emotions.  Support the show Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign...

Michelle is joined by Samuel Eshleman Latimer to discuss how DBT skills can help us feel more confident with navigating conflict. Samuel talks about what conflict actually is, how emotions impact conflict, what his go-to DBT skills are during active conflict and how to get through conflict with difficult people. If you want to learn more about Samuel, check out his website (https://www.fosteringgr...

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about how to regulate emotions instead of suppressing them, managing anxiety about work, what to do when a provider violates your trust, and the impact chronic pain can have on relationships. Support the show Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme If you want to sign up...

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about what to do when you feel like you're at your breaking point, helping teens understand opposite action, managing obsessive thinking, feeling like no one cares, telling others no, resisting googling medical symptoms, disagreeing on values with a romantic partner, and practicing non-judgmentalness.  Support the show Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford...

Kate and Michelle are joined by author and therapist Kate Mageau to discuss her new book "Rose Colored Glasses". Kate reads an excerpt of her book and shares some of her own personal experiences with being in a toxic relationship. DBT skills are also discussed that can help those who are currently in toxic relationships and those who have recently left.  TRIGGER WARNING: Please note material that...

Kate and Michelle are joined by Zelda Eli, author of "BPD: How Horror Genre Became My Borderline Therapy." Zelda openly shares her own history of mental health struggles and how far she's come since finding a therapist who was finally a good fit for her. She reads a chapter of her book aloud and speaks to the benefits that can come from engaging with horror content.  TRIGGER WARNING: Please note t...

In this mini-episode, Kate and Michelle discuss the revised editions of the DBT Skills Training Manual and the accompanying DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets (both by Marsha Linehan). They share their 15% discount code that is good on ALL Guildford Press books and discuss two other Guilford Press titles they recommend. Check out their book recommendations here:  Real Skills for Real Life...

It's time for a re-do! When Kate and Michelle first recorded this episode, it was during COVID which resulted in poor sound quality as they adjusted to recording virtually.  In this special re-recorded episode, they explain the ABC skill all over again, offering new insights and perspectives that they didn't share 5 years ago when it was first recorded.  Support the show Want to get 15% off of ALL...

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about feeling empty, feeling alone after a divorce, willfulness about using skills, and having a manager who acts out of alignment with your values.  To join Diana Partington's DBT for Life community, go to this link: https://www.dbtforlife.com/dbt-for-life-community Support the show Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code i...

Welcome to the first Mega Q & A episode where 8 listener questions are answered! Kate and Michelle answer questions about processing overwhelming emotions, irritability as a stay-at-home mom, taking a break from marijuana use, ruminating on previous conversations, coping with divorce, workplace trauma, practicing skills when not in a crisis, and if it's okay to learn DBT on your own.  Support...

Kate and Michelle each share personal examples of how they have noticed dialectics in their own lives recently and how their personal examples can be applied more broadly to dialectics that many people may experience.  You can sign up for Diana's online DBT community by going to this link: https://www.dbtforlife.com/dbt-for-life-community Support the show Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press...

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about feeling afraid to be happy, determining when coping skills are helpful, using DBT for gaslighting, and accepting strong feelings even when skills are being used.  Support the show Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.com/dbtme If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT pee...

Kate and Michelle are passionate about normalizing that there will inevitably be DBT skills that aren't a good fit for everyone and that you're not going to like every skill. In this episode, they each open up about 3 skills that they struggle to use and/or dislike. They went outside of their comfort zone to intentionally use each skill recently and they discuss what those experiences were like. T...

Kate and Michelle share how they are currently using wise mind in their lives before discussing 3 updates they want to make to how they originally spoke about wise mind in episode 2. They end the episode by sharing 6 new ideas for how to find wise mind that they have not talked about before.  Support the show Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkou...

Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about dealing with invalidation from others, positive attributes of DBT facilitators, conversations with family members who ignore boundaries, managing obsessive thoughts about health anxiety.  TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 24:00 to 25:17  Support the show Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this lin...

Kate and Michelle talk about limerence (the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person) by answering a series of listener questions about the topic and discussing how DBT skills can help when this is being experienced. Magic Mind is a mental performance shot designed to help you maintain focus and reduce stress with less caffeine than a cup of coffee, B vitamins and other all natura...

Accepting the ending of any kind of relationship can be extremely challenging and filled with grief. Kate and Michelle share personal experiences of struggling with and practicing radical acceptance with friendship losses they've experienced in recent years. They also each share reflections on how radical acceptance can be practiced when a relationship ends and other DBT skills that may help.  Mag...

If you've been using DBT for awhile, you know that it can become difficult to maintain momentum and desire to keep using skills consistently. In this episode, Kate and Michelle discuss four common challenges that can arise as barriers to regular skill use: not thinking about DBT enough, feeling willful about using skills, struggles to establish a consistent routine with skills, and feeling burnt o...

Kate and Michelle discuss active passivity and apparent competence by first explaining each concept in-depth, followed by sharing personal examples and skills that can help with shifting into a place of healthier balance when struggles with these states take place.  Support the show Want to get 15% off of ALL Guilford Press titles? Use this link (code is DBTME at checkout): https://www.guilford.co...