Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

Are you ever feeling crushed and overwhelmed by intense emotions? Do you ever feel like you've done so much work and yet you still get so much anxiety, sadness, loneliness, frustration and so on? Do you ever feel like it's too much and there's no way out?? I get it! I felt that way for a long time, and I get days like that still. None of what you feel is your fault, none of what happened to you s...

Are you finding it challenging to maintain no contact during the holiday season? Does your mother use holidays and special events as an excuse to contact you and you have enough of it? Maybe you are thinking of going no contact but don't know how to go about it, especially with the upcoming holidays... In this episode I answer questions I received from some of you amazing women about how to keep a...

Are you dreading the approaching holiday season, with all the family gatherings, obligations, and so on? Do you feel a lot of anxiety around it? Or perhaps this feels like an unhappy time because of your mother? Maybe the sense of loneliness and isolation is stronger for you at this time of the year? I get that! In this episode we explore the ways a narcissistic mother can weaponize the holidays,...

How do you describe yourself when asked to? How many things do you regularly say about yourself that do not feel so good? Until now, were you even aware you were using words to describe yourself that feel diminishing, limiting, boxing...? When did you start feel that way about yourself? How many of the labels your mother used for you have you made your own? By slowing down and getting to know who...

Over my 15 years working with women, and indeed in my own personal experience, I’ve observed how despite all that we go through, despite the pain we feel daily, despite life not going our way at all, despite all the suffering and unhappiness, we still hesitate when it comes to do something for ourselves.  Do you feel that way? Does that ever happen to you? To know something would truly benefit you...

Do you feel comfortable among people? Or does interacting with others leave you drained and exhausted?? Would you describe yourself as introverted, shy, not a people person?? Or are you the soul of the party, yet somehow still feeling lonely on the inside?? Growing up with a narcissistic mother truly impacts the way we relate to others, leaving us with the biggest pain yet... The pain of trying to...

A narcissistic mother imposes her own truths and beliefs, and not empowering ones of course, on her children, as a very effective way to keep them in her control and fill her tank.  By controlling your beliefs, a narcissistic mother controls you.  My mother didn’t miss a chance to box me and define me, so I could be more manageable for her, and manageable means easier to control. Let's look at how...

Have you tried everything to keep a relationship with your narcissistic mother but the pain is too much? Are you thinking about going no contact but you don't know where to start? Are you no contact already and finding it truly challenging? In this episode I speak to my experience being no contact with my mother for the past 2 years, all the challenges of this decision and how to go about it in th...

Do you find yourself procrastinating?    Do you find yourself avoiding those actions that you know would be good for you or important to achieve your dreams?    Do you severely judge yourself for that?    In this episode you gain clarity on what procrastination means, how it can be linked to maternal narcissism, and most importantly 8 steps you can implement form now to support you.    To know mor...

Have you heard the say "It didn't start with you"? So when did it all start?? In this special episode with Debra you get to gain clarity on how far in the past the patterns started, on how to break the cycle of family trauma and wounding,  and what is necessary when you decide to give birth to a child or a project that is close to your heart. You will also gain some wonderful insights on how to re...

If all that has happened to you is not your fault, then who's fault is it?? Being a podcast about maternal narcissism, it is easy to assume that the fault falls on our mothers.  Who here has not blamed their mother for something or another?! And yet, this can lead us into a trap... Right into a very disempowering place, where we keep the cycle of pain going on and on... Today we look into Blame, a...

Do you find friendship with women to be challenging? Is it easier for you to make friends with men? As daughters of narcissistic mothers there are a few factors at play when it comes to opening up and be truly safe in trusting women, and it is important to be aware of all that before jumping to judgement both of yourself and others.  In this episode we explore all that in depth offering a differen...

A provocative title for a provocative episode today! Don't you have enough of proving you narcissistic mother right?! I certainly do!! To know more about what I mean by proving her right, listen to the full episode! To know more or to apply for Reclaim Your Fullness Women Circle here is the link: https://womenreclaimingtheirfullness.me/women-circles/ To know more about the offer of a 10 weeks Inne...

When you hear a woman speaking about her mother like she is her best friend, how do you feel? When you scroll on social media and see women that made it, that healed everything, that have the perfect everything, how do you feel? Do you feel truly inspired, or maybe happy for them?? Or do you use their success as a measure for your failures? When the result of meeting a woman that is doing very goo...

How many times has your mother criticised, dismissed or ridiculed your ideas? How many times has she told you what you think is nonsense? How often has she told you she didn't have time to listen to you? And what does that do to your confidence??? In this episode we look into the 3 main ways a narcissistic mother can destroy your confidence, but is it truly destroyed or....? Listen to the end and...

Do you ever feel super lonely even when you are surrounded by people?     Or maybe loneliness hits you all at once the moment things get quiet around you?    And maybe you have tried keeping busy, buying things, getting distracted by stuff, yet that crushing feeling is still there. You feel so alone...    Being brought up by a narcissistic mother leaves us with the belief we do not deserve love, o...

Are you confused by the meaning of narcissism? Are you wondering if the use of the word is truly appropriate for your personal situation? Words can be used and abused, and in time confusion on the real meaning of a word can come in, yet it is important to not get too caught with the word itself and understand the situation you are living and experiencing instead. In this episode my intention is to...

How do you feel after visiting your mother? Drained? Exhausted? Like she has sucked the life right out of you? I get it! And you are not the only one experiencing this right at this moment. If you find yourself in a position where you have to visit your narcissistic mother/family on a regular basis, you really need to listen to this episode. And indeed if you are still living at home, there's plen...

Can your narcissistic mother still control you by being a voice in your head?? Absolutely! And in this episode we are going to explore how that is, and how to break the pattern! Being a daughter of a narcissistic mother means having been trained from childhood to disconnect from your inner guidance system, so that you would follow what you were told. Growing up, instead of following your inner wis...

Do you feel responsible for your mother? Do you feel guilty when you are not able to answer her every demand? If the answer is yes, how is that affecting your physical and emotional state? Your energy levels? Your life in general?? A narcissistic mother has plenty of ways to make you feel responsible for her. It’s important to remember that a narcissistic mother will do anything to be at the centr...

How do you feel when you are not on top of things? Do you beat yourself up? Do you push yourself harder? Do you feel ashamed, guilty, unworthy? If you find yourself doing a lot, always feeling exhausted, yet despite the bone deep tiredness you can’t even sleep at night, and your body aches and your mind never stops telling you what you haven’t yet done, it’s worth taking a moment and explore why t...

How was/is your relationship with your other parent? having a narcissistic mother, chances are you suffered some degree of parental alienation without even knowing about it in most cases.  Today I want to talk about parental alienation, what it is, how it manifests and the effects of it.  A child who grows up being told by one parent that the other doesn’t love them and possibly never wanted them,...

Are you living your life to the fullest? Are you going for that dream close to your heart or have you given up long ago? Do you even know what you would love to do? As daughters of narcissistic mothers we have learnt early on in life that trying something new, that going for our own ideas, it's not a safe choice.  It's safer to conform to what was approved of, and often times we are not even sure...

Have you ever been told; "Because I'm your mother, that's why!" as if it justified every sort of behaviour from your mother towards you? I have, plenty of times! But what's the real why behind it all? Understanding why a narcissistic mother acts as she does, is not to justify her behaviour or to try to fix her, but is to help you understand, which in turn supports you detangling from many toxic pa...

Breaking the cycle of maternal narcissistic abuse is about boundaries. Yes, boundaries. A word that has scared me for the best part of my life. I truly believed I could die if I ever set a boundary for myself.  How do you feel about setting boundaries with your mother? Can you do it? Is it easy? Or does it come with a dose of anxiety, guilt, fear?? Narcissist will react very badly to boundaries, t...