Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

Do you constantly second guess yourself? Do you go back and forth on your decisions, unsure if you are making the right ones? Is there a voice in your head constantly telling you how not good enough you are? Do you often feel like the least interesting person in the room, needing to work the hardest to be accepted? If your answer is yes, then you know how big an impact self doubt has on your life....

Has your mother told you she is coming to visit and you don't know how you are going to handle it? Does your mother visit often leaving you feeling drained and miserable each time? Does she demand your complete attention, making you feeling guilty if you don't give it to her? Here are 8 steps to navigate a visit from your vulnerable narcissistic mother. Step number 8 is especially important!! To j...

Do your emotions feel too strong and intense to deal with? Do you feel crushed by waves of anxiety, anger, jealousy, sadness...? If yes... Have you ever wondered if there's something wrong with you? If you are broken and unfixable?? I've been there and I truly get it! And as daughters of narcissistic mothers, many of us feel this way often if not all the time! Let me start with the most important...

Does your narcissistic mother ever use love-bombing to make you feel guilty or to get you to do what she needs of you?  What is love-bombing in the context of maternal narcissism?  How does it look like and how can you tell the difference between love-bombing and true motherly love?  When a narcissistic mother uses love-bombing, this can leave you feeling confused, crushed by guilt, alone, frustra...

How is your narcissistic mother behaving when around your children? Have you noticed her toxic behaviour now being projected at her grandchildren?  Do you feel conflicted between bringing your children to their grandmother and protecting them from her narcissism?  How can you even tell if your mother has become a narcissistic grandmother?  In this episode I share 14 signs to identify a narcissisti...

As promised, here is the birthday episode for those still In Contact. In this episode we go through all the main challenges that come up when it is your mother's birthday approaching and also when it's your birthday coming up, and also offer some clarity as to how to deal with it all while still being in contact with your mother. Share any questions or your experience with Matilde by emailing at m...

How does mother energy feel? How can you recognise it if you've never been modelled it by your mother? How can you be a second mother figure for someone else?   A very important part in the journey of healing from mother wounds is to learn to mother yourself, accessing the mother energy that is indeed within you. But not ever having received this energy from our mothers, that's easier said than do...

Whether it's your mother's birthday coming up, or your own, both these situation can be extremely challenging when you are no contact.  Strong intense emotions can be triggered, like guilt, anxiety, grief, sadness, loneliness, all causing you pain and to run into the risk of breaking the no contact.  Birthdays are also a time when flying monkeys can come to the attack, and use your moment of vulne...

Have you ever asked yourself: "Why is my mother nice at times and abusive other times?" "Why is she always nicer around others and then gets abusive behind closed doors?" "Why some visits/phone calls go ok and others feel terrible?" You may have noticed ups and downs and inconsistency in your mother's behaviour towards you, causing you confusion, conflicting emotions, guilt, feeling like the crazy...

Do you need days to recover after every call with your mother and yet you still feel the impulse to call? Do you feel the need to contact your mother when something challenging happens to you? Do you need to consult her every time you have a decision to make? Do you feel guilty if you decide something about your life, without talking to her first? If you answered yes to any of the above, I totally...

Have you ever asked yourself: "Why am I not normal??" "Why do I not fit in??" "Why do I have to go through all of this when other seem so normal??" If you have, I get it. I've been there many times and I've cried a lot over the feeling of not fitting in. I truly feel you. And my mother was no help with that... All she said to me has made it worse. But what is "normal"? Is there such a thing? In th...

Have you ever made arrangements to get help, to then pull back? If you were to book a call with me, would you feel nervous, anxious or even in a panic right before? Does a lot come up in your life that feel outside of your control and hold you back? If you answered yes, and if you have noticed this kind of a pattern in your life, this could be a sign of an avoidance pattern being active, coming fr...

Do you try your best to meet everyone else’s needs before yours? Do you get very upset if you think someone doesn’t like you or has a problem with you? Do you find it very difficult to say no to people around you? Do you get exhausted by having to interact with others? The pattern of People-Pleasing is one we can easily fall into as daughters of narcissistic mothers, as we carry wounds such as "I...

➡ Have you ever felt you needed to perform in order to be loved or accepted by others? ➡ Do you lose your cool when things don’t feel in control? Like when something unexpected happens, or when someone surprises you, or you need to access a new environment?  ➡ Do you go back and forth in your mind when you need to make a decision, feeling the need for permission or validation?  ➡ When strong emoti...

I'm finally getting a window of electricity to upload this episode!! Thank you for your patience!! Do you ever ask yourself why your father never stopped what was happening between you and your mother? Or why did he stay with a woman like your mother? Or maybe why he left you with her?? Did he ever dismissed or minimised what you tried to tell him about how your mother hurt you? Or maybe he listen...

Does your job involve being in close contact with your narcissistic mother? Maybe you work for her, or maybe you work for the family business and she is also involved, or maybe you were meant to work for her and you decided not to but the guilt from your decision still haunts you...  Maybe you really want something to change but you feel stuck and don't know where to start... In this episode you g...

Do you feel confused about who you are? Do you feel so emmeshed with your mother that you don't know where to start separating what is you and what isn't? Do you find it hard to set boundaries? Growing up with a narcissistic mother has stifled the natural development of your own identity, which has led you to live a life where you are not truly yourself, and when you don't know who you are it's a...

How many times do you feel guilty where your mother is concerned? How often do you feel responsible for her situation? How often do you feel whatever she is throwing at you is your fault? As daughter of narcissistic mothers we were conditions from a very young age to suppress our needs and to feel responsible for our mother emotional state, activating the guilt pattern.  In this episode I share wi...

Do you feel an impulse to be creative (doing art, in your work, while cooking...) but feel blocked? Do you feel judged and not capable every time you do something creative? Does you Inner Critic put you down when you think about being creative? The trauma that comes from having a narcissistic mother can leave you feeling all that and more, blocking your creativity right out.  In this special episo...

Do you feel a rising sense of dread and anxiety as you come to the beginning of a new year? Do you look back on the year gone by and feel more like a failure than ever before? Do you compare what you've accomplished with others' achievements and feel like you come up short? Is your mother's voice loud in your head? Telling you how not good enough you are, how you should have done better?? I get it...

In this Special Episode with Meghan we spoke to: 🔸Accessing Divine Mother energy within, 🔸How to deal with intense emotions in an embodied way, 🔸Breath and movement as essential tools on your healing journey, 🔸The process of reclaiming your identity, disentangling from your mother And more! Access the Free Self-Love Guided Practice here⬇ https://womenreclaimingtheirfullness.me/ For any questio...

Do you ever feel like you are the only one that sees your mother's behaviour for what it is? Are you told by others that you are too sensitive or that you see too much in her behaviour? Do you feel isolated and not understood when it comes to speaking to the toxic patterns that seem clear only to you? A mother that is a covert, or more correctly, a vulnerable narcissist, can leave you feeling mise...

Do you find it hard to communicate with your husband/partner about the challenges you are experiencing because of maternal narcissism? Do you feel like you are the only "broken one" in the relationship? The only one with trauma to deal with? Does your husband/partner dismiss your pain or tries to fix you?? In this episode, our special guest Mark Usher, Relationship Coach for husbands, host of "Be...

Have you done a lot of work on yourself and yet intense emotions still show up? Do you feel like you've been healing forever and yet you still get triggered? Does that make you feel like you are still broken or there's must be something wrong with you?? First of all, I want you to know that there's nothing wrong with you at all, and if that is indeed what you are experiencing, that is a very natur...

"How do I know I'm not repeating the same patterns as my mother with my own child?" "How can I even become a mum when my mother didn't model anything good for me?" "Am I going to be the same as my mother??" These are the questions that can naturally come up when you realise your mother is a narcissist and you start recognising some of the patterns in your own relationship with your child... But wh...