Dating, Relationships, and Disability

Register here for the upcoming free workshop on May 12,  The Real Work of Dating with Disability:  What No One Else Is Teaching.  I'll be reviewing how to use a skill set approach to dating with a disability. The workshop will be geared toward  professionals but anyone is welcome to join. Today will be more of a personal episode as the day this podcast publishes, is my parents'...

Emily Beecher is a 50-year-old single mom and certified coach who specializes in working with neurodivergent individuals, particularly those with autism and ADHD. She was diagnosed with ADHD at 44 after her daughter received her diagnosis. With a 25-year career in media and arts, Emily discovered her passion for developing people and transitioned into coaching. Understanding Rejection Sensitive Dy...

The Five Stages of Dating Success is a rigorous, sequential curriculum for navigating the dating world. This isn't a feel-good framework—it's a skills-based approach addressing real challenges that many daters face. If you're tired of surface-level dating advice and ready for a strategic system that builds genuine confidence, addresses internalized doubts, and creates sustainable success, this fra...

Friending App: Combating Loneliness Through Authentic Connections Gabor Kadas, founder of Friending Inc. , appeared on the "Dating, Relationships and Disability" podcast to discuss his innovative friendship-focused app launching in March 2026. The app addresses a critical social issue: 50-60 million Americans report feeling lonely. Key Features: Friending differs fundamentally from dating apps by...

The Five Stages of Dating Success: What Transformation Actually Looks Like Dating with a disability isn't luck—it's a learnable skill set that can be developed, refined, and mastered. Here's what real transformation looks like through the Five Stages framework. The Foundation Problem Most people start dating without inner work, bringing unexamined negative beliefs, unprocessed shame, and desperate...

Keri Green is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 20 years of experience and a certified sex therapist (AASECT). She specializes in relationships, sex, and intimacy, working daily with individuals and couples on their most vulnerable topics around dating and sexuality. Why Sex Therapy? Keri saw a need to normalize sex and validate sexual identity. Whether someone grows up in a sex-s...

The Five Stages of Dating Success: A Complete Roadmap Most people skip straight to action—download apps, create profiles, go on dates—then wonder why rejection stings so much or why they keep attracting the wrong people. For those with disabilities, add layers of disclosure anxiety, accessibility challenges, and navigating others' biases. Sustainable dating confidence can't be built from the outsi...

Marrying America isn't another dating app—it's an intentional courting website designed for people seeking their forever person. Founded by Jeremy Nelson, the platform addresses a critical gap: too many dating platforms mix people with completely different intentions, leaving serious relationship-seekers frustrated by matches who aren't looking for commitment. How the Match System Works The platfo...

Being overlooked in dating—especially when experiencing sexual ableism—hurts deeply. Your pain is valid. But understand this: being overlooked reflects others' limited perspectives and society's narrow view of desirability, not your actual worth. You're not the problem; their inability to see beyond surface judgments is. Recognize Your Own Value First Stop questioning if you're "dateable enough."...

About Amy Reiley Amy Reiley holds a master's degree in gastronomy and is a nutrition coach who has authored 5 cookbooks. She runs EatSomethingsexy.com, where she explores the connection between food and sexuality, having studied aphrodisiac foods for over 20 years. The Food-Sexuality Connection Amy explains that food affects sexuality through multiple pathways: nutrition, physiological effects, an...

Action #1: Create Your Personal Belief Statement Write one belief statement for each of the 5 areas. Choose ONE to focus on weekly. Set a daily reminder to repeat it aloud 3 times—morning, midday, and before bed. Why it works: Repetition rewires neural pathways. Speaking your new belief aloud, even when it feels untrue, trains your brain to believe something different about yourself. Action #2: Li...

Feeling hopeless in dating stems from negative beliefs about yourself, not actual flaws. Your mindset about your worth and what you offer influences dating success more than any other factor. When results don't come—no matches, no second dates—it's easy to spiral into "I'm not enough" thinking. The solution is shifting your core beliefs. Mindset Shift #1: Your Self-Worth Old belief: "No results me...

Overview Marriage and family therapist Pasha Marlowe, with 32 years of experience, discusses relationships through the lens of neurodiversity and non-apparent disabilities. She reveals that 53% of Gen Z identifies as neurodivergent and/or disabled, challenging common misconceptions. Understanding Neurodivergence Neurodivergence is an identity, not a diagnosis, encompassing autism, ADHD, dyslexia,...

I recently pivoted my work in dating and relationships and began a new company, Relatability LLC. Our mission is simple but transformative: we believe love is for everyone, and we're dedicated to making relationships accessible for people with disabilities. We work at every level of the disability services ecosystem—training professionals, developing curriculums, and providing one-on-one coaching...

Dr. Robin Buckley, a clinical psychologist turned executive coach,  specializes in helping female executives apply business strategies to their personal relationships. Overcoming Negative Dating Mindsets Dr. Buckley addresses how people—especially those who've been divorced or experienced relationship failures—often believe they're "not the relationship type." She explains this self-defeating...

Dating isn't magic—it's a skill set. If you have a disability and feel dating is complicated or terrifying, know this: it can be learned with time, guidance, and resilience. I've dedicated my practice to helping people with disabilities transform their dating lives. If you're ready to stop feeling stuck, keep listening. The Reality Dating is hard. You'll face rejection. But every "no" gets you clo...

Joni Woods is the author of "Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever," a book about her divorce experience and re-entry into dating. She wrote the book while going through her divorce in 2016 after 15 years of marriage, exploring both the pain of separation and the unexpected joy of dating again at age 36. She is also a mother of two. The Breaking Point in Marriage Joni stayed in an unhealthy marria...

Dating with a disability feels impossible until you take action. The impossible becomes possible through perspective shift and meaningful action. Understanding Worthy Failures A worthy failure is an intentional attempt where you take a calculated risk and learn from the outcome. Rejection, awkward conversations, and unsuccessful dates aren't signs you're not good enough—they're data. From a growth...

If you're listening around the time this publishes, it's the holiday season—and if you're single, loneliness may be hitting hard. You're not alone. I recently asked single people with disabilities about their holiday feelings. Their responses: wondering why they're still single, missing loved ones, wanting someone to cuddle by the fire with. I remember feeling that same loneliness for years, watch...

Anil Gupta, known as the Love Doctor, has spoken in 18 countries across 4 continents, sharing practical relationship tools. He emphasizes that awareness is the foundation of everything in relationships and personal growth. Core Qualities for Healthy Relationships When choosing a partner, Anil identifies three essential qualities to look for: integrity (being truthful and reliable), being genuinely...

Download My Relationship Vision to help you identify your green flags. Importance of Green Flags While we often focus on red flags in dating, green flags are equally vital—the positive indicators of respect, compatibility, and emotional maturity that signal someone might be a genuinely good match. These are the qualities that make you feel seen, valued, and excited about building something meaning...

Kalindi Jordan is a sex and intimacy coach with 16 years of experience, specializing in helping people develop primary relationships with themselves before entering partnerships. Her work covers sexual intimacy, relationship dynamics, communication, and dating challenges. Personal Journey with Alopecia Five years ago, Kalindi lost all her hair—including eyebrows and eyelashes—within 10 days due to...

About Barb - Boundaries Coach Barb is a boundaries coach, speaker, podcaster, and author who hit a "codependent bottom" at age 52 in 2015. After decades of self-help and therapy, she entered 12-step recovery and discovered that learning to build healthy boundaries was the antidote to her codependency. She's now in her first healthy romantic relationship (7 years), which she attributes to both part...

You know how sometimes life can begin nudging you in a certain direction. At first you say, “Ut uh, I am NOT going there. I’m not doing that.”  But life persists. There are signs, indicators that maybe life is pointing you in the right direction. This is what has happened to me over the last few months. I have decided to close Radiant Abilities at the end of the year. This means the Dating Ma...

Conscious Love and Personal Transformation with Christian de la Huerta Christian de la Huerta, a personal transformation expert with over 30 years of experience, joins Kathy O'Connell to discuss relationships, self-worth, and emotional healing—particularly for people with disabilities navigating the dating world. The Foundation: Self-Worth Christian emphasizes that looking for love begins with rem...