Dating in your 40's

After countless low-effort matches, ghostings, and confusing conversations, I’ve finally met someone who feels different . In this episode, I share what it’s been like to date someone who is sweet, emotionally present, physically confident, intellectually stimulating (hello, PhD in humanities!), and genuinely invested in getting to know me. He plans dates. He calls. He brought flowers on our first...

Some dating conversations feel like an interview , others feel like a monologue , and some… just leave you confused. In this episode, I share my bizarre exchange with a former Marine—who went from serving his country to selling Tempurpedic mattresses—and how the conversation took a sharp turn when I dared to have thoughts and opinions. 💌 Ever been unmatched for a ridiculous reason? Tell me about...

If you’ve ever had a guy assume your profession for absolutely no reason , this episode is for you. First, I talk about a guy who confidently decided I was a librarian —based solely on the fact that I read books. Then, I dive into the painfully slow fade of someone who seemed interested… until his response time went from thoughtful messages to one every two days . Spoiler: it ended with an underwh...

I’ve been wracking my brain over the shockingly low level of effort in dating where I live. Is it just me ? Or is this an actual cultural thing ? A friend of mine said that women in my area have just accepted that this is how things are—so men don’t need to try. And honestly? That blew my mind. In this episode, I unpack the frustrating reality of modern dating, whether we set the bar too low, and...

Ever had a conversation so good that you knew it was going somewhere… only to be completely ghosted the next day? In this episode, I talk about my five-hour-long phone call with a guy who seemed like he was actually interested—until he wasn’t. I break down what happened, the odd red flags (including a weird entitlement about speaking Italian in Italy), and the way I tend to dwell on these moments...

Dating in my 40s sometimes feels like a high-stakes action movie , and honestly? I am thrilled to be dodging these emotional bullets. In this episode, I break down one of my latest dating encounters—a guy who seemed promising until his insecurities started screaming through his messages. We went from a decent conversation to him over-explaining his financial success, subtly dismissing my concerns,...

Another one bites the dust

Year-end summary of my dating in 2024

Boundaries are a critical part of any healthy relationship, especially when it comes to dating.

You deserve more than a relationship that leaves you feeling empty. You deserve more than settling for less than what makes you truly happy. You deserve to be with someone who respects your boundaries, values your needs, and wants to see you thrive. It’s not selfish to want more for yourself—it’s necessary.

It’s about rediscovering the person you are outside of a relationship so that when you enter one again, you do so as your authentic, empowered self.

We all have those people in our lives who come and go with such irregularity that it’s hard to know what their intentions are. These are the people I call "the boomerangs." 

the next time someone pops up with that vague, “How’s it going?” ask yourself: Do I really want to continue this ambiguous dance? Or is it time to let them drift away for good?

Third love is something to embrace fully. It’s about trusting your instincts and your heart while also allowing yourself the freedom to choose what’s best for you.

Dating can be challenging, but it’s important to recognize when someone isn’t giving you the effort and attention you deserve.