Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

They're texting every day, replying quickly, and making plans...everything's running smoothly until one day it just stops. In this week's #brunchtalk, we're discussing one of the most common dating dilemmas: inconsistency. We're discussing the reasons behind this behavior, why we have to communicate our needs and expectations effectively, and how to establish standards that hel...

What if there were benefits of underthinking in dating and relationships? Yup, you heard us right. Julie's sharing a low light from her trip to Italy and how the anxiety and overthinking started to creep in related to her relationship. And also how overthinking has caused issues in the past and why thinking a little less can actually be of greater service to us all. Don't worry, we're...

Could your subconscious actually be the missing ingredient for your love life? We're diving into everything from lucid dreaming to dream interpretation as talk with expert Charlie Morley about how we can use our dreams for insight and discovery into our love lives. We're discussing how much introspection can happen in our subconscious state, the best ways to start understanding your dreams...

When you have a not so cordial breakup and you start seeing different sides of the person you dated...is this their true self coming through or just a response to the pain they're going through? And have you ever experienced a side of yourself that you didn't recognize? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing why breakups reveal underlying issues that were previously h...

With marriage rates on the decline....do people still want to get married? And why does it still hold the significance it does? We're joined by Allison Raskin, who just published a book digging all the complexities of modern day marriage, inspired from her experience overcoming a broken engagement to tying to knot with her now-husband. We're chatting about the societal expectations and imp...

Dating should be fun! But it also should be intentional....especially if you're looking for a life partner. With all these conflicting messages, it's hard to know the expectation of a first date anymore....especially when you reach your 30s and people are looking for something more serious. We're breaking down the difference between self-imposed pressure and the organic evolution when...

We tend to be so focused on commonalities when dating...but what if that wasn't actually what mattered in finding a compatible partner? Yue's breaking down why focusing so much on shared interests can lead to a false sense of connection and what's more important to look out for. Also she's sharing her newfound love of quickies – from this type of episode to you know, the real deal....

Why do we expect everything to happen so damn fast when dating? From the need to feel that instant chemistry to freaking out if someone doesn't text back within 20 minutes, this need for speed is one of the biggest traps holding us back. We're discussing the reasons this mentality sets us up for failure, how to reduce the need to fast-track to the end, and why slowing down a bit can actual...

Anyone else seen this phenomenon where people on dating apps are checking that they're looking for something fun/casual and also serious/long term? So which one is it? Or does it need to be an either or? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to have conversations to clarify someone's intentions, how to not get so hung up on reading between the lines on someone&#3...

We're not talking about what to wear or how to look, but rather how to elude that contagious energy that just attracts someone to you. And what better expert than Mat Boggs, who shares his own turning point and all the knowledge he's gained in his 20+ years of dating coaching. We're discussing the turn offs and turn ons that either kill attraction or spark it, how to understand what ty...

Sure you want someone interested but can they be too interested? Or has anyone every told you that you come off too eager? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing the perception of interest in dating, how to move forward if someone shares this type of feedback with you, and ways that you can evaluate your own approach to dating based on how you evaluate interest levels. Got a...

What's better than coming across letters you wrote to your ex(s) years later? Julie's diving into how this practice has helped her process the past so she can move forward. No, you don't need to send the actual letter (in fact, it's recommended you do not). And yes, this absolutely will give you the closure and clarity you need. And one day, you'll be able to see how far you&#3...

If dating like a feminist means embracing your desires while also valuing independence and equality....then sign us up! Whether you identify as a woman or not, this is a must-listen discussion with the incredible Lily Womble about breaking dumb dating rules and shifting the current societal expectations filled with shame and pressure. We're discussing all the ways the patriarchy has messed wit...

What happens when someone wants to date you (or even be in a relationship!) yet there's something going in their personal lives that's preventing you from being together? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to navigate this tricky situation, when it's more of an external factor keeping your relationship from progressing. We discuss the pros/cons of waiting...

With the feeling that dating is harder than ever before and people outright giving up on love, we believe we're in a love crisis. But what does that even mean? And better yet, what do we do about it? Have no fear, as we're discussing the 5 most prominent – and some surprising– cultural shifts that got us to where we are today, why daters are feeling an increased sense of disillusionment ar...

If you feel like you've been falling into the friend zone, or looked as someone more 'casual' yet you want something real, we're breaking down why people may not be taking you as seriously when dating. In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing the impressions formed quickly when dating, ways to take stock of the vibe you may be putting off, and how to show a more...

You've heard the theories about the first 6 months of a relationship and how it's a marker if the relationship will last. Yue's breaking down what she's learned about the 6 month period – what typically happens and how she's doing things differently this time around. Also, she's sharing some updates about her 'new' relationship after crossing that 6 month barrier an...

If you're looking for a raw, real, non-sugar coated look into dating and relationships, we got you. We're chatting with Todd Baratz – therapist, author, eharmony relationship expert, and IG account you're probably already following – about why you will lose your mind when it comes to love (and how this is totally normal). We're discussing the reality of relationships, a different w...

When you just start dating someone and you really, really, REALLY like them, it may even feel like love...but is it? And what happens when one of you says those three big words early on....did you actually mean it? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to differentiate between love and infatuation, ways to navigate these conversations, and why it's more important at...

If you're feeling stuck in dating or your relationship, maybe the solution is a....no man diet. Wha? We're chatting with Kylie McBeath about how despite having an incredible partner (ahem Mark Groves who we talked to last season), there was something standing in her way of moving forward with him– so much that it caused her to end the relationship and enlist in a no man diet to get to the...

With so much happening in life, it can be hard to stay motivated to date –especially when you're not meeting the right people or having the results you want. In our first #brunchtalk of the season, we're discussing how to create a dating consumption strategy that's balanced with the right of life, how to better integrate dating into your life, and ways to manage both your time and ener...

It's hard not to take dating personally – especially when someone can't commit or doesn't want to see you again. But what we've learned is that it often has nothing to do with you, despite what we may think. Julie's diving into this topic as it's something that's been a challenge for her while dating – and even into her current relationship. Hopefully this will help you...

Dateables! We're so excited to be back start Season 19 with a bang, diving into the many contractions with modern dating and relationships that completely baffle us every day – and what action we can actually take with this information. We'll discuss what to do when it feels like there's no one good out there, why we're so afraid to settle yet we settle for situationships, and how...

How much do you need to share about yourself, your upbringing, or your past relationships in the early stages of dating? In this week’s best of brunch talk we’re chatting about the line between oversharing and not sharing enough, how you can spin conversations you’d rather veer away from, and why the last thing you want to do is trauma dump on a first date. And PS get your questions in because all...

We're back with our last episode before Season 19 begins next week!!! And this is a good one as we reair an episode we did with Damona Hoffman on her podcast, Dates & Mates, about how you can date with intention in a world that makes dating harder than ever before. We discuss why dating is harder than ever before – but also what you can do about it and have the best relationships of your l...