Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

We're talking about a different relationship today: friendship! Not only how your friends can be there to support you while dating – but more importantly, the immense value this type of relationship brings in itself. We're talking with friendship expert Danielle Bayard Jackson about everything from why friends are so important for our mental health, navigating the different stages of frien...

Do you have a tendency to overthink dating situations? What's the healthy line of thinking things through to be intentional and even cautious – but not to the point of analysis paralysis or driving ourselves crazy thinking about what *could* happen? We unpack the major difference in this episode – how to lean into Thinker ways so it serves you, but also make sure you are taking action in your...

We have a confession: we have a love / hate relationship with the word flirting. But we absolutely loved the energy of our guest Benjamin Camras aka the gay libra aka the flirt coach – and he 100% changed our outlook of what flirting can look like. We discuss how to flirt in a way that feels natural (even the introverted or socially anxious folks, we see you!), the biggest misperceptions of flirti...

Dun. Dun. Dun. It's about to get creepy...or maybe just cringy as we talk about all things exes: what's your reaction to finding out your ex is engaged, what happens when you run into an ex, and the case for rebound relationships. Join us as we dish and unpack what it means to move on....and when your ex moves on. Enjoy! Listen today and share your thoughts via email, or leave a message on...

We've talked about dating in your 20s and 30s....but now we're diving into dating in your 40s – and beyond. We're joined with return guest Kimmy Seltzer who shares her insights as a dating coach and her own personal journey from divorce to self-discovery in 'the second act' as she likes to call it. We're discussing the more divergent differences of lifestyle that happen whe...

With so much discourse lately around the gender divide of men and women, we wanted to share our POV a bit more and open up the convo more on Dateable. From the recent Wall Street Journal articles of Why Women Are Giving Up on Marriage to the popular Diary of a CEO's masculinity discussion, it's no mystery that both genders are feeling discouraged. So what do we do about it? How do we raise...

We're back with a topic that's near and dear to our hearts: how to know if the person you're dating is right for you. We're giving you the ultimate gut-check so you know who to keep investing more time and energy into – and when to cut someone loose. We're discussing the only 7 things that matter when evaluating a partner, what to do when if someone isn't measuring up, and...

We got a meaty one for you today....as we're talk about the best (and WORST) ways to ask someone out, the system to rejection-proof yourself, and how to get your friends to play matchmaker (that goes beyond, you're both single, you should meet). We're also recapping some of our 'How to Be Dateable' book events from last week with some of the popular questions asked, balancing a...

Who else is ready to heal their relational trauma, become securely attached, and attract their available dream partner? We're feeling inspired by the convo we had with Dr. Morgan Anderson about how she did just that – and how she had get vulnerable in the process. We're discussing the anxious or avoidant patterns that protects us from vulnerability, how to share your needs and boundaries i...

Can we all make a pact? Can we just opt out of situationships as it seems like a lot of people are starting to do? We're discussing why situationships happen, why people won't commit, and how they actually destroy our self-esteem causing small cuts of rejection over and over (instead of just getting our answer or ripping that bandaid off!) Whether you're currently in a situationship or...

We’re talking breakups…but more importantly how to move forward, and not only reclaim your life…but live an even better one. And we are joined with our fantastic guest Cole Zesiger who has been through it himself – only to come out stronger, coach others, and meet the love of his life (his now wife). We're discussing the do's and don't of no contact, ways to spot if someone may not rea...

If you're anything like us, we've been obsessed with The White Lotus as we head into the big finale. So much that we've decided to analyze the relationship patterns of all the major characters....with our dating archetypes of course! We also talk about girl (or guy) code around hooking up with someone your friend was kind of into or you suggested they get with (i.e the Jaclyn to Laurie...

This is a question we often get but we never thought we'd get it from America's favorite stepmom aka porn star Ryan Keely (who you may even recognize from Eminem's Houdini music video). But this shows you that ANYONE can feel this way! We're diving into what makes people feel undateable, the impacts of being oversexualized (or undersexualized), and the actual thing that does limit...

This weeks's brunch talk has us all hopped up as we chat about surprising results from our archetypes quiz that are counter to how we all *think* people are dating, plus the ultimate way to say you're not interested in someone. Not going to lie, this may have been one of our favorite brunchtalks in awhile as we were doing it live (and maybe sound like we've had a bottle of champagne or...

We're back with the guest of our #1 most listened to episode and this time with his mentor for more insights...more science...and more facts – that you can all apply to your love lives. We're chatting with Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkle, professors at UC Davis & Northwestern, about what romcoms get right (and wrong) about finding love, the myths of relationships we've been told to...

With all the buzz about dating intentionally...what does it even mean? Because we've seen some definitions that aren't helping – and may actually be limiting us – in the way we think about putting our best foot forward when dating. We talk about surprise run-ins with Dateable listeners, if it's even possible to use dating apps intentionally, and why it may be more intentional to get ri...

How ready are you for a relationship? Like truly ready? We're diving into what it means to actually be ready for a real, long-term committed relationship – and how you can spot if someone else is too. We're discussing the signs of relationship readiness, the red flags to watch out for, and how you can find out your relationship readiness score to become more relationship ready. Take the Re...

There's so much to unpack this week as we chat about everything from air fryers to Mark Zuckerberg's mid-life crisis. But most importantly, it brings us to the age old question: how many people should you date at once? And when is it better to date one at a time versus multiple people. We're going in deep as we dissect when to disclose you're sleeping with others, when to double do...

You’ve probably seen his quotes all over the internet or maybe read one of his many bestselling books but we have the man behind it all Diego Perez aka Yung Pueblo here to share how to love better and treat love like the skill it truly is. We're discussing the three green flags to look out for in a relationship, why attachment is the greatest enemy of love, and how to lean into the growth that...

We're back together chatting about a relevant topic: burnout. Whether it's from dating or just life in general, we're discussing the stages of burnout and how we can minimize going over stage 4 and not having toxic hope, but actual hope, throughout the dating process. We're also chatting about bachelorette parties, wedding dress hacks, the definition of a term that will be banned f...

It's so hard to not be focused on the milestones, but Julie had a reality check recently that she wanted to share on this quickie with you. Because as Dr. Laurie Santos discussed in this week's episode the arrival fallacy is exactly that – a fallacy. And the reality is that we're never out of the middle (even if we've hit said milestones), so do we not just embrace the middle, but...

Do relationships make us happy? If so, why are unmarried and childless women the most happy cohort of people out there? Because happiness is more than milestones as we chat with Dr. Laurie Santos about the complexities and common misperceptions when it comes to our overall well-being. And that's certainly not to say social connection and relationships aren't important! We'll dive into...

We're chatting over brunch recapping some of our SF together time, from dinners out together with friends to the types of questions we got from daters at our book launch events. We're talking about the only hack for having better dates, the benefits that come from finding your person "later" on, and how sending that text may lead to that second date (or if nothing else, the answers...

If you feel like you've had a string of *almost* relationships that haven't quite turned into the real deal, then this one's for you! We're chatting with Ali Jackson about her journey through the world of dating – from when she was documenting all her dates in Notion to meeting her now-boyfriend. We discuss the various forms of not-quite-relationships, the foolproof way to know if...

We're catching up after a whirlwind trip to LA discussing how we failed on the brunch front but had one heck of a time at our first book launch event. We take a trip down memory lane recapping some of our past events that resulted in concussions and almost shattered doors with the tech elite, the real problem with dating, and thoughts around the taxi cab theory if it really just comes down to...