Heather aka Nookie

Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast

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Welcome to Curiouser + Curiouser , the daily podcast where love, sex, romance, and kink get real. I’m Heather aka Nookie—author, educator, relationship coach, and professional truth-teller. Every day, I send a message to my community: part story, part confession, part “holy hell, that’s exactly what I needed to hear today.” Now, I’m bringing those daily messages to your ears. Each episode is 3–10 minutes long—short enough for your morning coffee, deep enough to shift how you think about connection. I talk about the conversations I’ve had, the questions people ask, the mistakes we all make, and...

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October 30: Lonely is welcome. Attacking isn’t. 30.10.2026 4:07

“It’s Made up by rejected feminists.” Just one of the comments on Wednesday’s post. So I cleared house. https://my.curiouser.life/post/103026-blocking

October 29: What art keeps teaching me about love and life (and what it can teach you). 29.10.2026 4:21

I am an artist. Took me decades to say it. Here’s what art keeps teaching me about love and life (and rules): https://my.curiouser.life/post/102926-arts

October 28: 200 swipes for one coffee? 28.10.2026 4:05

Sure, but what about the lonely women on the other side of those swipes? https://my.curiouser.life/post/102826-loneliness

October 27: A guy actually said this out loud. Then I remembered Craigslist. 27.10.2026 3:59

I believe most people aren’t shitty—they are just confused. https://my.curiouser.life/post/102726-hopeaganda

October 26: Are you giving, or being taken from? 26.10.2026 3:28

There’s a big difference between receiving and taking. Here’s what tantra class reminded me about that: https://my.curiouser.life/post/102626-receive

October 23: Far from 365. Farther from zero. 23.10.2026 3:47

One year ago today I started my daily podcast. 216 episodes. Not 365, but way more than zero. What daily practice would change YOUR love life? https://my.curiouser.life/post/1002326-564

October 22: You are someone’s worst person. Me, too. 22.10.2026 4:02

Probably several someones’. And I’m totally OK with that. Here’s why (and why it matters for your love life): https://my.curiouser.life/post/102226-worst

October 19: When was the last time you were wrong? 19.10.2026 3:24

Neil deGrasse Tyson couldn’t answer. My friend couldn’t either, and it cost him everything he was building again. https://my.curiouser.life/post/101926-right

October 16: I’m OK with losing those people. 16.10.2026 3:55

What works for you doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else. Married 62 years, lived next door to each other the whole time. Here’s what Do What Works really looks like. https://my.curiouser.life/post/101626-dww2

October 15: Blocked, ignored, and still winning? 15.10.2026 4:00

Depends what game you’re playing. https://my.curiouser.life/post/101526-dww

October 14: Over or under? Choose wisely. 14.10.2026 5:29

🧻 The Great TP Debate is really about power struggles. https://my.curiouser.life/post/101426-tp

October 13: TFW your feelings get BIGGER when you have to defend them... 13.10.2026 3:54

Ever notice your feelings get BIGGER when you have to defend them? https://my.curiouser.life/post/101326-feelings

October 12: “Hi” works. Sometimes. 12.10.2026 3:37

One word changed a man’s whole day last June. Online, that same word gets crickets. https://my.curiouser.life/post/101226-hi2

October 9: “When I stop giving, I don’t know what to do.” 09.10.2026 3:18

What’s the opposite of jaded? Somewhere between closed for business and no guardrails. https://my.curiouser.life/post/100926-jaded

October 8: "If 99% come back with crickets..." 08.10.2026 5:21

Let's talk about why. AKA: Nice Guy Math

October 7: Why "hi" gets you nowhere (and sometimes blocked)… 07.10.2026 3:14

Someone asked me why "hi" isn't a good first message. Here's my honest answer, plus two openers that actually worked on me: https://my.curiouser.life/post/100726-hi

"If I'm authentic, people think I'm an asshole." 06.10.2026 4:29

If being "authentic" keeps getting you called an asshole... maybe check your shoes. https://my.curiouser.life/post/100626-beyourself

October 5: Are you editing yourself out of your own love story? 05.10.2026 3:28

Someone told me last week they've never had friends they could be fully themselves with. What they said next made me cheer. https://my.curiouser.life/post/100526-authentic

October 2: The fight can wait. (Really.) 02.10.2026 3:11

"Never go to bed angry" has done more damage than you think. https://my.curiouser.life/post/100226-rush

October 1: "Oh yeah? Well YOU..." 01.10.2026 4:18

Leave the kitchen sink in the kitchen. Today's topic: the one fair-fighting rule that turns fights into conversations. https://my.curiouser.life/post/100126-first

September 30: You shouldn't have to teach someone to love you. 30.09.2026 3:29

Some people fit. Some you have to force. https://my.curiouser.life/post/093026-dont

September 29: Of course it wasn't one of us… 29.09.2026 3:34

Funny how the person behaving badly is never from our group, right? I shared some thoughts on othering from Bliss Boogie weekend in today's episode. https://my.curiouser.life/post/092926-othering

September 25: Two in October, one in November. That's it. 25.09.2026 2:41

Bring me one real question. Let's see if we fit. https://my.curiouser.life/post/092526-open

September 23: Stop grading masculinity on a curve against femininity. 23.09.2026 3:46

"Healthy masculinity" needs stoicism, someone said last week. True. Just not the whole truth. Here's why. https://my.curiouser.life/post/092326-nickblum

September 22: YES! Please vet me. 22.09.2026 3:28

Vetting me is smart. Here's what it actually does... https://my.curiouser.life/post/092226-vetme