Curious Fox

Are you curious about non-monogamy? Did you give it a go thinking it would be fun or freeing, but instead it stirred up questions, fears, frustrations, or heartbreak? You are not alone. In this two-part series dedicated to consensual non-monogamy 101. In Part 1, Effy and Jacqueline share their personal relationship stories of heartache, discovery, and joy. They explore lessons learned (often the h...

Our emotions provide insight into what we want to experience in pleasure. If we are tapped into these emotional clues, we can amplify our connection as well as our erotic experience.  On this episode Effy and Jacqueline talk to Shadeen Francis about how our emotional intelligence leads us to our erotic wisdom. And how erotic wisdom guides us into our fully embodied pleasure. Listen in to this expl...

All mental health providers are not equal. That doesn't mean good or bad, but simply different training, specialties, and personalities.  In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla sit down with Dr. Thomas Whitfield to discuss the best way to find a therapist for your sexual and mental health needs. They explore everything from key phrases to google, the distinction between the types of...

Religion can be a source of strength, community, meaning and purpose for some people while it can be a tool for oppression, control and exclusion for others - especially around sex and relationships. For those who grow up with or around ultra-religious families and communities, it can be hard to tell dogma apart from facts as they embark on a journey of self-discovery and expression. In this episo...

As COVID-19 begins to surge in states like Texas, Florida, California, and Arizona - it is becoming increasingly clear that our lives will not be returning to the way it was any time soon...if at all. This reality has meant that everyone from business owners to parents to partners to those who live alone have had to strategize around how they will survive and thrive in the coming months. Effy And...

Globally, we are confronting oppressive systems of race, class, gender-identity, and sexual orientation. As we fight in the streets and in our minds to overcome these archaic systems, how can challenge the oppressive narratives that we have been prescribed around love, sex, and relationships? Angie Gunn returns to the Curious Podcast and joins Effy and Jacqueline for a conversation on oppression,...

What would it be like if you were fully present for the grief in your body? What if you didn’t push it away and promise to come back later? What if you actually sat with it, witnessed it, and invited it to be present - or even expand? What would it be like if you brought pleasure to be with your pain?   Effy and Jacqueline sit down with sacred intimate and Tantra teacher Adam Bee about accessing t...

Is porn art or a menace to society? What's feminist porn? How can we be a responsible porn consumer? Effy and Jacqueline catch up with feminist porn producer, actor and author Madison Young to chat about her journey to being one of the most recognised porn actors in the country; what makes porn art; how to be a responsible porn consumer; and her new show Submission Possible where she exopler...

What are the first steps when exploring non-traditional relationship structures? How can we design a relationship that meets our needs and desires? Effy and Jacqueline discuss the importance of strengthening the relationship we have with ourselves while considering non-monogamy and how we can better communicate our vision, reflect on the past, and design our future. For tools to help you reflect o...

We are taking a pause from our usual programming to join the country and the world in exclaiming that Black lives not only matter - that the Black community deserves to feel safe, valued, and free from the violence and systemic barriers that have held them back for centuries.  We are highlighting educators, facilitators, speakers and thought leaders of color in our field through our social media c...

How can we gain deeper understanding and insight into our pleasure? How do we communicate our erotic needs and desires, and our pathways to pleasure to our lovers and partners?  Effy and Jacqueline sit down with certified Sex and Relationship Coach Jessie Fresh to discuss the Erotic Blueprints™ and how with a clear understanding of how we are wired, we can get to pleasure mastery.   Want to find o...

How do our early relationships with our parents impact our adult relationships today? How does the way that we relate to one another impact our sexual expression?  Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla sit down with Angie Gunn to discuss what are attachment styles and how we can lean into our relationship with ourselves and others to heal past traumas and develop a sense of safety. Find more about Angie...

Riddled with shame, secrecy, and stigma, can masturbation be reclaimed as a self-care and self-love experience? Too often a utilitarian act for relaxation or release, masturbation wields the power to connect us with ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Stella Harris to discuss all of the ways in which we can indulge ourselves through self-touch and...

Why does it hurt so much to feel lonely? How is it possible for us to feel lonely, even when we are not alone? How can we find our way back to connection with ourselves and others? As social distancing drags on, more people are experiencing loneliness - whether or not they are quarantined with others. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline take a deep dive into loneliness and speak with loneliness e...

What does sex look like when you have to stay six feet apart? How can you create intimacy and romance when you are feeling anxious? And how do our pre-COVID ideas about sex manifest during this time of social distancing? Effy and Jacqueline get personal about sex and dating during COVID-19, and how the messages we learned about sex as children can impact how we explore pleasure as adults. Support...

Talking about sex is not always comfortable...particularly in the midst of a pandemic. Effy and Jacqueline speak with Stella Harris, a certified Intimacy Educator and Sex Coach, about how the current pandemic is affecting the way we communicate with our partner(s), how to navigate having difficult conversations, and how to have intimate conversations that may feel uncomfortable. To learn more abou...

With many of us isolated with or away from our partners, communication can become strained and relationships might be tense. Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Clara Moisello about the fundamentals of non-violent communication, the distinction between needs and strategies, the importance of giving voice to our feelings, and creating room for self-empathy.  For more resources about NVC visit: https...

At a time of social distancing and self isolation, connection and dating can feel like a distant memory. But it doesn't have to be that way. In this episode Effy and Jacqueline chat with Steve Dean, a dating and relationship coach, about how to feel connected, keep dating and meeting new people in meaningful ways. To keep up with Steve's latest events: https://getvokl.com/channel/datewor...

Sometimes the hardest part of the conversation about non-monogamy is initiating it. Effy and Jacqueline speak to Karolyn who shares her experience of approaching her husband to discuss what non-monogamy might look like in the context of their existing relationship. Follow Karolyn's blog at: karolynsdiary.wordpress.com Support the show Connect with us on IG and more: Curious Fox @wearecuriousf...

Are you curious about kink? We have been conditioned to believe that kink can be painful or shameful, as opposed to a playful exploration of toys, power, and sexual expression. Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Midori - author, artist, educator, and “The Supernova of Kink” – to explore BDSM and kinky play. We dispel myths, rethink assumptions, and reintroduce kink as a fun and playful way to curio...

Is your relationship focused on creating, preserving, or preventing? Are you spending more time discussing behaviors or values? If a relationship is not defined by sexual or emotional fidelity, then how is it defined? Effy and Jacqueline explore the difference between rules, agreements, boundaries, and promises - and answer the question “If not fidelity, then what?” Support the show Connect with u...

Threesomes are often the first port of exploration for both couples and solo adventurers.  But how much of it do you plan and how much of it do you leave to chance? No one ever seems to talk about the uncomfortable parts of setting up a threesome, what makes a threesome good or bad, and what happens afterward.   Effy and Jacqueline invite Taylor to talk about her experience as a unicorn (the majes...

This time of year always brings pressure to let go of the old and embrace the new. Faced with a new decade ahead marked as the "decade of transformation," it can feel like a time of grand change. Transforming from one version of ourselves to another. We have decided to take a different approach to this thinking - to challenge the status quo if you will - and are focusing on evolution.  W...

From gift to family dinners to demands on our time and attention holidays are fraught with opportunities to feel frustrated and grateful. It can be a tender time of year as people gather in groups to celebrate the holidays.  Effy and Jacqueline explore the delights and complications nonmonogamy can bring to this time. Effy and Jackie focus on missing the people we love and feeling left out during...

In this penultimate episode of the year, we recap our annual conference Consider This: A Day of Challenging the Status Quo in Love, Sex and Relationships 2019. With speakers and panelists covering topics from living with an incurable STI to the impact of porn in our society to adoption and family, Consider This was bigger and bolder this year. Listen as Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla take you thro...