Curious Fox

What about the children??? Can children thrive in a polyamorous family? What are the downsides to raising children with an open construct?  In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak to Dr. Eli Sheff, doctor of Sociology, the author of “The Polyamorists Next Door” and “When Someone You Love is Polyamorous”, and more. They discuss Dr. Sheff's book “Children in Polyamorous Families: Research Fi...

Valentines' Day sweeps the nation this weekend. Are you smothering your loved one in love hearts and chocolates or are you denouncing it all together?    In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline dig into the history of Valentines' Day, discuss alternative ways to celebrate and get on their Soap Box about Instagram.  Support the show Connect with us on IG and more: Curious Fox @wearecuriousfo...

How do know where your boundaries are -- especially faced with new experiences?  Can our body give us clearer direction than our mind when it comes to knowing what feels good and what doesn't? Often considered to be an intellectual exercise, boundary setting is a key skill for life -- yet one most of us struggle with. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Seza Aslanbas, a yoga an...

HAPPY SELF-LOVE MONTH! Riddled with shame, secrecy, and stigma, can masturbation be reclaimed as a self-care and self-love experience? Too often a utilitarian act for relaxation or release, masturbation wields the power to connect us with ourselves physically, emotionally, and spiritually. In celebration of Self-love Month, we are reposting this interview with Stella Harris where Effy, Jackie and...

What are YOU curious about? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline answer listener questions. How should you prepare yourself and your children when families begin to blend? Is polyamory different for demi and asexuals? How do you manage the jealousy and hurt when opening up? Should you wait to find your career or get financially stable before starting a relationship? What if you want poly and they...

You know your love language, do you know your bonding style? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak to Dr. Eli Sheff, doctor of Sociology, the author of “The Polyamorists Next Door” and “When Someone You Love is Polyamorous”, and more. They discuss Dr. Sheff's most recent collaboration, The Bonding Project. This quiz "helps people identify their bonding preferences and connect with p...

How can we approach newness in love, sex, and relationships in the new year? How can we reflect on the year gone and embrace change?  In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline look back to the year gone and reflect on what they'd like to avoid, preserve, and create going forward. They also discuss how they will personally challenge the status quo in the way they love, approach sex, and relate to o...

As the new year rolls in, can we renew and expand our ideas of love, parenthood, and family? Can we rethink how we approach pregnant people and the assumptions we carry around about motherhood?  On this New Year episode, Effy and Jacqueline continue to talk to Ryan DiMartino who kindly shares the story of their family. In this second part of a two-part story for the family like no other, we hear t...

On a day where we often think about family the most, can we think about family differently? Can we untangle pregnancy from motherhood; motherhood from womanhood and blood from family?  On this Holiday episode, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Ryan DiMartino who kindly shares the story of their family. In this two-part story for the family like no other, we hope to warm your heart and challenge yo...

What happens when you break up with one partner to focus on the other and remain in each others' social circles? How do you know you are ready to date? Can you ignore hypocrisy in a partner?  In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline answer questions submitted by our Foxy listeners. Support the show Connect with us on IG and more: Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxes Effy Blue @coacheffyblue Jacqueline...

If new relationship energy (NRE) can be intoxicating, how do we avoid falling in love with the potential of a person or the possibilty of a relationship? How do we separate the noble intention to grow together from the incidious wish that our partner will change? In this episode, Effy and Jackie celebrate the 50th episode, discuss why love distorts our view of the other person, and seemingly dimin...

Could there be a miracle hobby that can help us stay connected to others, be creative, be physically active, and put us in a better mood? Effy and Jacqueline consider turning sex into a hobby, and explore ways to build sexual experience, become more sexually creative, and practice new sexual skills alone or with a partner(s). Looking for something to do in the comfort of your air conditioning? Sex...

When society and cultures pack so much meaning to certain times of the year, what does it look like for those who have multiple relationships? When a simple premise of "spending the holidays with loved ones" seems not so simple, how do avoid putting your relationship(s) on trial? In this episode, Effy and Jackie talk about ways to navigate holidays when you are managing multiple relation...

Amidst culture wars, identity politics, and the evolution of relationships as we know it, what does it take to bring up children who understand differences while remaining true to themselves?  In this very special episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with Jackie's 9-year-old daughter about what it's like to be a part of an open family as well as discuss sex-positive parenting, tips for anyo...

Can friends with benefits arrangement really work? What does it take to maintain a friendship with people you have sex with?   In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline explore if friends with benefits are a good option given the struggles around meeting new people during COVID and discuss best practices when approaching such topics with existing friends.  Support the show Connect with us on IG and mor...

Given the current state of affairs, how do we manage anxiety so it doesn't trigger our attachment struggles? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline talk about how our anxieties about the election, COVID, and subsequent worries can trigger our attachment systems and impact our relationships; how we can cultivate a sense of safety, self, an joy so we can show up for our relationships and our part...

If change is the only constant, how can we be prepared for it in our relationships and in our lives?  In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline talk about all the ways change can be experienced, managed and felt that aligns with our thriving state; frameworks to think about change, and what gets in the way of smooth transitions. This episode also sees the inauguration of a new segment we are calling Th...

Can a caretaking dynamic and the erotic exist in the same place within a relationship? How can you be caring without slipping into co-dependency?  In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla talk about how leaning into caretaking in relationships can erode both a sense of self and eroticism within relationships and what people can do to disrupt old patterns.  Support the show Connect with us o...

Can you reconcile your faith with your sexual expression? Can your spirituality be an inspiration for celebrating your body and pleasure? In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla talk with De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson about the ways in which spirituality has been separated from sexuality and how you can be a person of faith while celebrating your sexual expression. To find more about De-Andre...

Can you reconcile your sex-negative culture and your sexual expression? What does it take to get to your pleasure and your body? How do you do discover the parts of your body that arouse you? In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla chat with queer, Latinx sex educator Jocelyn Silva about reconciling culture, religion, and sexuality; getting to know yourself and your body, and discovering t...

Can you heal trauma through storytelling? Can your biggest fears be your hottest fantasies? What can you women learn from having sex with another woman? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with Krystyna Hutchison about fighting slut-shaming and healing trauma through storytelling; embracing fears through exploring kink; and encouraging all women to consensually experiment with other women. T...

What does it mean to be a highly sensitive person or an empath and how does it affect the way we show up in our sexual expression? Being highly sensitive can be a blessing and a curse - especially when it comes to sex and sensuality. You can be aroused by a look from across the room or shut down by breath on your skin.   In this episode, Effy sat down with certified Sex and Relationship Coach Jess...

Open relationships have a unique set of challenges and it’s often hard to know how to resolve them as open relationships have no specific roadmap. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline explore some of the common #PolyProblems that people face and share insights, tips, and personal stories for how folks have navigated through those challenges.  Listen in as they explore common misconceptions that we...

We are told that communication is the most important skill to have within a relationship, however, we are never given a script or tips for how to have important or difficult conversations with our partner(s).   On this episode Effy and Jaqueline talk with Shanae "HonestlyNae" Adams about the three conversations that everyone needs more practice with: vetting a person to see if the two of...

Are you curious about non-monogamy? Did you give it a go thinking it would be fun or freeing, but instead it stirred up questions, fears, frustrations, or heartbreak? You are not alone. In this two-part series dedicated to consensual non-monogamy 101. In Part 1, Effy and Jacqueline share their personal relationship stories of heartache, discovery, and joy. They explore lessons learned (often the h...