Curious Fox

When the world feels like it’s tearing itself apart, how can we keep our relationships together? When the news feels terrifying, how do we revel in the erotic safely? When meeting new people feels like a health risk, how can we nurture new connections?  Effy and Jacqueline return from their Summer hiatus and kick off our Fall programming by talking about the impact of global current affairs, the h...

What is it like to love the same person? What kind of relationship is available for those who share a partner? Do you have to know your lover's lover? Effy and Jackie revisit an old episode where a panel of poly folks discusses their experiences connecting with their lovers' lovers. Support the show Connect with us on IG and more: Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxes Effy Blue @coacheffyblue J...

From ancient civilizations to modern times, why have people been going to play parties? Are they only all about hedonistic indulgences? What happens at a play party? Effy and Jacqueline talk about their first experience at sex parties, why they go and what they have learned from their experiences, and how to throw your own party while discussing Effy’s book Play Party Etiquette. You can get the bo...

Do you think that there is a correlation between attachment style and one's propensity towards non-monogamy? How are our sex lives affected by our attachment styles?  How those in a non-monogamous relationship can work towards secure attachment? Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, public speaker, and trauma and relationship expert, and the author of Polysecure:...

Why is it that when we feel comfy and settled, we suddenly long for passion and freedom? And conversely, why do a string of spontaneous adventures have us longing for stability? Is it possible for us to be both planted and to fly? Effy and Jacqueline discuss how to balance the comfort of being rooted and settled with the desire for variety and passion but not before they catch up on crushes, books...

Why do some asexual folks have sex? In a hypersexualized society, what is it like to be asexual? Can asexuality be an important factor for female sexual liberation?  Effy and Jacqueline are joined by journalist, editor, and the author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, Angela Chen to talk about the asexuality spectrum,  its role in identity politics, and...

We are planning a listeners' questions episode in the coming weeks. We'd LOVE to hear from you. You can submit your questions in three ways:  Old school - you can email us at listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com   High tech - send us an audio message at listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com   Radio tech - call us and leave us a voice message at 201-870-0063 Note that if you submit your question by...

How do you imagine a family that you have never seen before? How do you make it work? What is the difference between complexity and drama?  Effy and Jacquline are joined by Queers Next Door's Leigh Montavon to talk about managing the complexities of a family by design, bringing up children in a non-traditional family, and what it takes to make it all work. Effy takes her turn on the Soap Box...

The Curious Fox team has intentions of doing a new series we're calling Fox Tales, where we share stories of curiosity, struggle, and thriving.  We would love to hear from folks who are willing to share their stories. Specifically,  if you are dating a sex worker if you have a working relationship with a sex worker if you've come out later in life if you want to explore and talk about yo...

Is there a difference between queer dating and mono-normative dating? What are the main concerns and common strategies? What is one thing that we can all do to be braver in our dating lives? Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Queer Dating Coach Ariella Serur to talk about how to approach dating intentionally, navigate queer space when dating and remain connected to "feelings-based standards.&q...

How prevalent is bisexuality? What is it like to be attracted to all genders? Why don't see more representation of bisexual folks? Effy and Jacqueline continue to celebrate Pride month by talking about bisexuality, bi-visibility, and the erasure of bisexual identity. They bust some myths and share some action points for how to be inclusive, not intrusive. If you like the song at the top of th...

What happens when you discover your sexual orientation later in life? What does it mean to be queer? Is Pride still relevant?  Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride month by exploring experiences of coming out later in life, discuss what it means to be queer and how they each identify when it comes to their sexual orientation.  Support the show Connect with us on IG and more: Curious Fox @wearecurio...

Are we overuse words like codependency, trigger...etc? What does codependency look like and how can you move towards interdependency in your relationships?  Effy and Jacqueline start a conversation about codependency and discuss how it may show up as you explore non-monogamy. They discuss the difference between attachment styles and codependency and talk through what it means to be dependent. Supp...

People change. Relationships change. How can you navigate through those changes in a way that honors everyone involved? How can you and your partner(s) create an environment that supports evolution and growth? From monogamous to open, a couple to a triad, a partner to solo poly, to conscious uncoupling - what can you learn from other people’s experiences around transition? Effy and Jacqueline revi...

Why is money so hard to talk about? How do finances impact non-traditional relationships? What are some of the creative ways to approach finances that reflects your relationships design?  Effy and Jacqueline delve into the tough topic of money and money conversations within relationships.  They share how they have set up their finanes and give suggestions on different ways of thinking about money...

What would it take to have shorter arguments? Can relationship bliss be as easy as being able to name your emotions? Why do we have to work so hard for our relationships? Effy and Jackie are joined by Dr. Thomas Whitfield to understand more about Emotionally Focused Therapy and how it can help folks relate better, shorten arguments and provide insight into ourselves and each other. To learn more a...

Do we stay in relationships longer in our older age because we think we won't find a new partner later on in life? What would online dating look like if age wasn't a part of the profile? When we "eeeew" older people having sex, do we realize we are "eeewing" our future selves? Effy and Jacqueline are joined by author, speaker, and ageism activist Ashton Applewhite to...

What is Relationships Anarchy? Can it be a sustaining and nurturing relationship structure that one can thrive in? Is there anything we can learn from this niche structure?  Effy and Jacqueline revisit the most popular CF episode of all time where a panel of relationship anarchists share their stories and talk about their approach to relationships.  Support the show Connect with us on IG and more:...

Do you need a break from the heaviness of our last few episodes? Do you want to skip your next zoom meeting and talk about butt plugs and pickup lines instead? Do you need a new outlet to get some joy because the status quo isn’t cutting it? Effy and Jacqueline stick to their word and in this light hearted episode explore butt plugs and talk about pick up lines on online dating platforms. They rou...

Can your faith in the bible support your sexual expression? Is there scripture that encourages sexual exploration? Are we all going to hell because we like to give and get head? On this Easter special, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson as they embark on an Easter egg hunt to find passages and scriptures in the Bible that talk about sex not as a literally device for high...

Why do people cheat? Are the people who cheat always the villan of the story? Can you break your relationship patterns?  Effy and Jacqueline continue their exploration into infidelity through their own stories. In the final episode of the infidelity trilogy Effy tells her story of cheating. She explains why she cheated, what impact it had on her relationships and what she's done to break her...

Can jealousy be a revered teacher? Can you feel joy about your partner connecting with someone else? What does it take to cultivate sympathetic joy?   Effy and Jacqueline revisit a classic episode about jealousy and compersion from the days where we recorded live panel discussion from the Curious Fox Socials. They are joined by Clara, Eric and Ltee who share their stories, thoughts and wisdom from...

What does your relationship look like after a betrayal? What happens when you explore the depths of your experience of infidelity? What does it take to the authentically bare your soul?   In part 2 of our, now 3-part episode on infidelity, Effy and Jacqueline take a deeper dive into Jacqueline's story of surviving what feels like an earthquake when she discovered her wife was having an affair...

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Is an affair the end of the road? Can a monogamous relationship transition into an open structure after a transgression is uncovered? What kind of a relationship can you expect if "the other" person is now your metamour?  In this two-part episode, Effy and Jackie tell two stories of infidelity. One from the point of view of the cheater and the other cheated on. Both as painful as insight...