Curious Fox

What is conscious uncoupling? How is it different from breaking up? How do you go through the process of uncoupling with intention and kindness? What if the other person does not want to go through this process, can you do it on your own? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that all relationship transitions end in shouting matches and slamming doors. They take a deep dive...

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are hanging out with the author of Plucked: A History of Hair Removal Prof. Rebecca Herzig to talk about hair removal and sexual self-esteem . They are curious about:  What is the history of hair removal and what role have race, gender and age played in it? What caused the medicalization and then industrialization of hair removal and why? How does what we know...

As a part of their sexual self-esteem kick, Effy and Jacqueline revisit an episode from the archives where discuss erogenous zones, religion, and their impact on our sexual self-esteem with sexual empowerment coach Jocelyn Silva.  Guiding us this week is Jocelyn Silva : Jocelyn Silva is a Sex and Intimacy Coach that works with women and femmes to break through their sexual shame and embrace their...

This week Effy and Jacqueline revisit an episode with Jessie Fresh all about aligning with your Erotic Blueprint to nurture your sexual self-esteem. They are curious about:   Why is pleasure important? What gets in the way of pleasure & fulfilling sex? How to increase sexual satisfaction? What are Erotic Blueprints and how do they affect our sexual self-esteem?  Guiding us this week is Jessie...

This week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are curious about colorism, featurism, and texturism and they are joined by Dr. Donna to chat about: What are colorism, texturism, and featurism? Where does it come from? How does it show up day today? How does it impact sexual self-esteem? How does this impact relationships between people of color? What can we do now that we know this? To guide us in our e...

This week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are curious about couple privilege and hierarchical relationships :  What is couple privilege? How does it differ from hierarchy in relationships?  How does it affect relationships? How can we design our relationships with privilege and hierarchy in mind?  Support the show Connect with us on IG and more: Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxes Effy Blue @coacheffybl...

This week Effy and Jacqueline are curious about the purpose of jealousy:  What is jealousy? How do you characterize it? What are the evolutionary roots of jealousy? And what purpose does it serve in the emotional portfolio of the human species?  What are the distinctions between the biological sexes and jealousy, based on existing research? We are challenging the status quo that jealousy is bad an...

This week Effy and Jacqueline are curious about friendships and jealousy :  What defines a friendship? What distinguishes a friendship over other relationships?  Are female friendships different from male friendships?  Is friendship jealousy different from romantic jealousy?  We want to challenge the status quo that romantic relationships are more important than friendships and female friendships...

What happens when a traditional ceremony like a wedding honors the queerest of relationships? What are some other ways to celebrate a relationship(s)? What is it like to celebrate a break-up? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline hang out with queer wedding planner Ambyr D'Amato to challenge the status quo that  Weddings are the only types of relationship ceremonies  Only traditional relations...

Is magic and witchcraft for fairy tales? Can magic, witchcraft, and rituals be a way to connect with our bodies and tap into our intuition? Can tarot be used to help us get clarity on the choices we have and the decision we have to make? Effy and Jacqueline hang out with Pleasure Witch Haylin Belay to talk about how magic and tarot can provide a framework for us to get in touch with what we know i...

How can a couple in an open relationship deal with a new crush or new relationship energy?  How can someone deal with the shame/guilt of exploring a non-traditional relationship or sexual path? How can you figure out if someone is a good match for a kink experience? How to make addressing fears fun? How can I tell my child that I/ we are opening up our relationship?  Effy and Jacqueline kick off t...

Effy, Jacqueline, and the Foxy team are taking a break for the holidays. Listen for their holiday wishes and some recommendations on what to listen to while they are away. HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO ALL. Support the show Connect with us on IG and more: Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxes Effy Blue @coacheffyblue Jacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com Joi...

How much does evolutionary wiring impact the types of relationships we seek? Does it really come down to nature vs nurture? How much of whom we are attracted to impacted by our ancestors? Is there such a thing as free will? Effy and Jacqueline get nerdy with evolutionary psychologist Dr. Adar Eisenbruch - whose research centers around cooperation, friendship, and behavioral endocrinology - to talk...

What does it mean to put effort into relationships? Does one person always show up more than the other? Is relationship maths is as simple as 50+50 makes 100%?  Effy and Jacqueline sit down to work out what is the right maths when it comes to the division of effort that goes into a relationship while comparing parental relationship dynamics to adult romantic relationship dynamics.  Not all relatio...

No matter your gender, orientation, or relationship construct, everyone has a butt. Booty play can be a subversive and fun addition to your sexfolio. Effy and Jacqueline chat with sex educator and pro-domme Lola Jean to get into the whats, hows, and whys of pegging. From tops and bottoms, to toys and hygiene, they go through the ins and outs (pun intended) of backdoor play.  Here are the links pro...

When society and cultures pack so much meaning to certain times of the year, what does it look like for those who have multiple relationships? When a simple premise of "spending the holidays with loved ones" seems not so simple, how do avoid putting your relationship(s) on trial? In this throwback episode, Effy and Jackie talk about ways to navigate holidays when you are managing multipl...

How does our sense of safety affect the way we show up in relationships? What happens in our nervous system when we feel safe vs unsafe? What can we do to promote a sense of safety? Effy and Jackie hang with sound healing therapist, meditation facilitator, and Somatic Experiencing practitioner Rida Kıraşı to talk about how we can heal trauma, cultivate a sense of safety, and learn to regulate our...

Is it ok to be in a relationship when you are chronically dissatisfied if there are no arguments? Why do people end up staying in relationships that are not making them happy? What do we need to make us pull the plug on lifeless relationships?  Effy and Jacqueline jump on the airwaves to challenge the idea that passivity is the same as peace. They discuss what Esther Perel calls stable ambiguity o...

Can psychedelics be more than a party drug? How are they used in therapy and why are they so effective? What does it take to get into a psychedelic treatment program? Effy and Jackie are joined by the Community Support and Integration Director of the Hudson Valley Psychedelic Society,  psychotherapist, and clinical supervisor Dee Dee Goldpaugh to discuss their work with psychedelics and their effe...

In this Halloween Special episode, Effy and Jacqueline create a house of horrors made up of their relationship fears.  From negative body image to feeling stuck on a relationship escalator, they imagine a terrifying room after a terrifying room of the gruesomest, the creepiest, and the most disturbing contraptions that represent their deepest dreads.  Support the show Connect with us on IG and mor...

Why is talking about sex so hard? How can we use creativity to approach these conversations so we don’t have to navigate through shame, defensiveness, insecurity, and general awkwardness? Can talking about sex creatively result in more interesting sex life? Effy and Jackie sit down with Jennifer Beman to discuss her work, the Graphic Sex Project where Jennifer offers a simple and creative methodol...

Let’s talk about “Daddy.” Why is it a hot turn-on for some and abhorrent for others? What does the “Daddy role” embody within a power exchange? Effy and Jacqueline are joined by professional and lifestyle dominatrix, BDSM educator, kinky life coach, Mistress Lucy Sweetkill, as they challenge the notion that “Daddy” is only for those with daddy issues. To learn more about Lucy Sweetkill, follow her...

Can sex work be a viable alternative for those who want to open up an existing relationship because they are looking for a specific sexual experience? How do you safely and ethically connect with a sex worker who’s not trafficked or coerced?  What is the best way to determine if someone is the right person to work with? Effy and Jacqueline are joined by pro-domme, kink educator and owner of Chez-L...

What is intersectional polyamory and how to find meaningful representation in the community? What is the impact of prescribed cultural identity on our relationships? How can we find and connect with online communities for support?  Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Michelle Hy of Polyamorous While Asian to discuss how different parts of our identity impact the way we practice non-monogamy, how rep...

What are the differences between rules and agreements and why does it matter? How do you go about figuring out what agreements will support us to thrive in relationships? Can there be room for delight and playfulness as you co-create agreements for your relationship(s)? On this week’s show Effy and Jackie were joined by Eri Kardos, the author of Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guid...