Culture Sex Relationships

This week on the podcast we addressed a listener’s question about how we might go about knowing whether we are on the asexuality spectrum or whether our lack of sexual attraction is due to trauma in our life which perhaps we should address. See the full blog post and further links at our website megjohnandjustin.com

Back in June we did a couple of episodes about how to make friends. We thought we’d follow up with one for our Patrons about being intentional in ongoing friendships, and one for everyone about friendship endings.

This time on the podcast Meg-John interviewed Elsie Whittington. Elsie is a researcher at Manchester Met Uni who did her PhD on consent and studies youth sexuality. For the podcast episode Elsie and MJ decided to focus on awkwardness because this was such a big theme in Elsie’s research that it ended up being a whole chapter of her thesis.

This week on Meg-John & Justin we podcasted about when to go to therapy. We covered the signs that therapy might be useful, what to expect from therapy, what it opens up and closes down, and how to engage with therapy once you get there. We’re using ‘therapy’ here to cover therapy, counselling, coaching, and these kinds of related practices where you sit with somebody - usually one-to-one - and ta...

This podcast we cover what journaling is, why people might do it as a form of self-care or self-reflection, and the different ways you can go about it. https://megjohnandjustin.com/you/journaling/

We chat about how to break up the band and how to manage endings. We also chat about our favourite band break ups in history. (Sorry about the annoying buzzing noise during it. That was Justin's neighbour's buzzer.)

The last two weeks on the podcast we tackled the subject of self-love, or loving ourselves. Last week we focused on what self-love means, why we often struggle to do it, and why it’s important. This week we talk about how you can go about bringing self-love into your life. More at our website https://megjohnandjustin.com/you/self-love/ If you are missing our weekly podcasts, you need to sign up to...

The next two weeks on the podcast we tackle the subject of self-love, or loving ourselves. This week we focus on what it means, why we often struggle to do it, and why it’s important. Next week we talk about how you can go about bringing self-love into your life. For the blog head to our website megjohnandjustin.com If you are wondering why we're quieter than usual on this feed, it's because we ha...

This is a brief preview of our Four Weddings and a Funeral watch along episode. Available now in full from our new(and affordable)Patreon patreon.com/megjohnandjustin Thanks!

Sex discrepancies or sexual incompatibility refers to having different levels of desire in a relationship: one person wanting sex more or less than the other/s. It can be about wanting different types of sex too - which is connected, but we’re focusing more on levels of desire for sex in this podcast. Head to our website for a really excellent blog on this too.

(We recorded this a few weeks ago - in a pub) This week on the podcast we unpack NRE: How it differs from a crush, what it closes down, and what it might open up - if we think about it differently. NRE refers to the kinds of excited, fizzy, loved-up, kiddy, somewhat obsessed, feelings we can have at the start of a relationship: usually a romantic and/or erotic relationship. It’s similar to the ‘ho...

And here's the second part of our 'How to Make Friends' podcast. In this one we try to be a bit more practical and reflect on some of the things we can do to make friends and to make it easier for others to do the same. We chat a bit about our origin story too. For more check out the blog https://megjohnandjustin.com/relationships/how-make-friends/

How to make friends: Part 1, why it’s tricky [I reuploaded this episode because the last two minutes were cut off. Sorry about that. Justin] This is a two-parter podcast and blog post about how to make friends. We realise at Meg-John & Justin we often follow a similar structure whatever we’re talking about which goes something like this: This stuff is really hard because wider culture gives us all...

We went to see the Kiss My Genders art exhibition at London's Hayward Gallery in the Southbank Centre last Friday and we had a chat about what we thought about it. We think it's an important show and well worth seeing. More details about it here https://www.southbankcentre.co.uk/whats-on/130821-kiss-my-genders-2019

Following from our ‘horny all the time’ podcast, this podcast explores what we might do if we are wanting to be more horny. Read more about this at our blog https://megjohnandjustin.com/sex/wanting-to-be-more-horny/

This time on the podcast we talked about an emotion that doesn’t get much coverage: joy. In wider culture there’s often a sense that it’s only okay to experience and express ‘positive’ emotions like happiness and joy (although we don’t spend a lot of time thinking critically about these feelings). That’s why when people ask how we are the default response is often something like ‘good’, ‘fine’ or...

This episode we responded to a listener question about PDAs. They were particularly concerned about how to navigate PDAs in a non-monogamous relationship: to what extent is it acceptable for their partner to be physically affectionate with another partner in a social situation when they are also around? Check out the website for a blog post about this too

We needed to do something fun for us, so we decided to watch one of our favourite rom coms together and record what we said. So think of this like us providing a commentary like what you get on DVDs. If you'd like to watch along with us (it's available on Netflix and Amazon Prime at the moment) we give you a countdown at the beginning. We watch it with the sound off so MJ does all of the singing....

This episode we addressed a question sent in by a listener about talking about sex with their friend. Specifically they wanted to know what to do when most of their conversations with their friend revolve around sex, sometimes around other people and in workplace contexts, and they would like to talk about other topics sometimes too. Full show notes at our website megjohnandjustin.com

On the podcast this time we talked about the importance of being aware of values in relationships, and how this can be challenging particularly when our values differ, or become more different over time. To read a neat blog about this, head over to http://www.megjohnandjustin.com

[Little content note: we mention rape but we don't go into any detail at all. Also it's a bit more sweary than our usual podcasts, if you or anyone near you doesn't like swearing.] We thought we'd create a thread of episodes where one of us chats with interesting people in the world of sex, relationships, sexuality, and gender. In the first of these, Justin chats with Dr Eleanor Janega, who is a k...

What do I do if I’m horny all the time? This time on the podcast we addressed the issue of what to do if you feel horny a lot of the time. The first thing we considered was whether it is a problem. We may get the message that there’s an acceptable level of horniness to have and that it isn’t okay to be more or less horny than that, but the reality is that there’s huge diversity between people in h...

In this special episode Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi answer a series of questions about all things non-binary posed by their publisher, Jessica Kingsley, to celebrate LGBT History Month in the UK and their upcoming book, Life Isn't Binary (to be published in May 2019). https://www.amazon.co.uk/Life-Isnt-Binary-Beyond-Between/dp/1785924796/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1550678081&sr=8-1&keywords=life...

Saying I love you (this was meant to be out a couple of weeks ago but between us we've been ill/injured. Sorry about that) In the lead up to Valentine’s day, on the podcast we discuss saying ‘I love you’ and how it can be done consensually. In wider culture it’s generally assumed that if somebody feels love they should say ‘I love you’ without thought of the potential impact, it’s regarded as a bi...

This time on the podcast we discussed ‘what’s love?’ and not just as an excuse to revisit eighties/nineties classic tunes. With Valentine’s approaching what do we mean by love, and why might we celebrate it (or not)? First of all we talked about love being biopsychosocial - not just about ‘chemistry’. Biological processes involved in the feeling of love are inextricably linked to the social messag...