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We had a chat about New Year's Resolutions today and recorded it. Advice for you here about how you can relate to changes and resolutions that might be a bit kinder and more useful to you. By the way, come and take part in a workshop with us at the Barbican on Thursday 17th Jan. https://www.barbican.org.uk/whats-on/2019/event/modern-couples-make-your-own-relationship-rules

Coming out at Christmas, or telling friends and family big news about us at holiday or other important times.

Hello dear listener. We had a chat with Dr Rachel O'Neil (@DrRachelONeil on twitter) about her book 'Seduction. Men, Masculinity and Mediated Intimacy' which you can buy here http://politybooks.com/bookdetail/?isbn=9781509521555 So we chatted about what the seduction industry is, why it's not seduction 'communities', what it is that this industry offers (and doesn't offer men)and why men are attra...

Over the summer we recorded a nice chat with the lovely people at Whistledown Productions for a documentary about consent on Radio 4. Presented by Jameela Jalil the New Age of Consent was about consent, sex and relationships post #MeToo and you can hear it here https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0bh4361 (we're mostly in this second episode). The kind folk at Whistledown let us have the full audio o...

We had a look around the Modern Couples exhibition at the Barbican https://www.barbican.org.uk/whats-on/2018/event/modern-couples-art-intimacy-and-the-avant-garde which is all about the relationship between art, avant garde and relationship models. We went round it to chat about the relationships and considered just how radical they were and what we can learn about this for ourselves. Here’s the b...

This time we explored the theme of relationship diversity, that is the range of different styles of relationships that exist. People often think about diversity when it comes to sexuality - and increasingly gender - but assume there’s only one or two ways of doing diversity. We could see relationship diversity on a number of different dimensions. For example, there’s diversity in terms of where we...

This week we answer a question from a listener. "My sex therapist is talking about solo sex as part of our work - but I only want to do things with my partner." Here our response and whether we should be having solo sex. You can see our summary blog about this at our website https://megjohnandjustin.com/sex/sex-therapist-talking-solo-sex-i-want-partnered-sex/

More about this episode at our blog https://megjohnandjustin.com/writing-our-own-scripts

This week on the podcast we discussed whether self-care was a relationship responsibility and - if so - how we go about doing it. We started with the fact that self-care is very challenging in our current world. It’s either put forward as quite a banal form of pampering which doesn’t require any self-reflection, or it’s put forward as ‘self-improvement’ which suggests that you need to perfect your...

Content note. We chat about different kinds of pain and also talk a little bit about injury and trauma. This podcast is all about pain and sex, with a focus on how to ensure that sex isn’t painful in ways that you don’t want it to be. We’ll do a future episode about how to bring pain or strong sensations into sex if that is something you want to do.

Here we chat about how we might go about enjoying penis in vagina sex more. Which is a bit of a radical departure for us, so we hope you find it useful. Listen to this in tandem with the Enjoy Non-Genital Sex https://soundcloud.com/megjohnjustin/enjoy-non-genital-sex and you'll be on to a winner. Also our Being Present For Sex video which we mention is here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8oYaDYX8...

Trans and the GRA This week we spent the podcast talking about trans and the Gender Recognition Act (GRA) given that this is in the news so much at the moment. More details (and links) at https://www.megjohnandjustin.com

This week on the podcast we tackled the issue of jealousy in answer to the following question… Is jealousy healthy in a relationship? Or else, is the absence of jealousy unhealthy or even possible? If it is, how do we get there? If it's not, what do we do to manage it? And how do we know whether it comes more from us or the behaviour of other person? Head over to megjohnandjustin.com to read our b...

Cosmopolitan x Instagram created #AskMeThisNotThis campaign, which was created in collaboration with influential LGBTQ+ figures and explores the outdated and often offensive questions they’re sick of being asked. We were asked to record one of our podcasts at their final event. We thought it might be a nice thing to do for Pride Month so we did (we didn’t get paid, though we did have a couple of v...

Here we chat with Alex Iantaffi our mate, who now hosts the wonderful podcast Gender Stories. You can search for this through the usual podcast platforms. He can also be found at http://genderstories.buzzsprout.com/ and on the twitters https://twitter.com/GenderStories and also on the instagrams as GenderStories. It's a long one, but we didn't want to break it up because of plugging references (yo...

In the podcast this week we talked around a topic that a listener had emailed in about: the wisdom of getting back together with somebody you’ve broken up with. They rightly pointed out that a lot of relationship advice says this is never a good idea, but that there are plenty of circumstances where it could work pretty well, for example if your needs and desires have become more compatible or if...

Staying with feelings in relationships In the last podcast we ended with a point about how it’s always okay for people to have the feelings they have, and that it’s important to cultivate the ability to stay with other people’s feelings: whether that be our friends, partners, or other people in our lives. Staying with feelings is an idea MJ has written a lot about including this zine which goes th...

Changing relationship agreements over time We were inspired to do this podcast by a Dan Savage podcast where Dan suggested that a non-monogamous person starting a relationship with a monogamous person could always try a monogamous agreement for a while and then shift to a non-monogamous one. We liked the ideas of seeing monogamy to non-monogamy as a spectrum that people could move around on over t...

We tried to think of a really easy question for us to answer like 'what do I do if I need to fart whilst getting a blowjob?' But this being us, we unpacked this to talk about how we might navigate our use of the toilet when it comes to sex and relationships

This podcast covers the different ways to go about getting laid - having unpacked what that means, and how it might mean different things for different people of course.

Here's a bonus podcast with our hot take on Queer Eye (which is a show on Netflix that's right up in our wheel house - although Justin has no idea what a wheel house is, a house made of wheels?). What does it open up and what does it close down? This is one of those 'chatty chatty chats' rather than a 'trying to answer a question chat.' We'll be back with another more regular podcast next week.

Content warning: In this post - and podcast - we discuss deliberately non-consensual behaviour. We don’t give any detailed descriptions, but we do touch on things like rape culture, the low conviction rate for sexual assault, and how people often make excuses for other peoples’ non-consensual behaviour. If these things feel live for you at the moment do please think about how to engage with this i...

Hear our panel discussion with Girl On The Net about how to give sex advice (full title, how to give *responsible* sex advice). Read the blog here http://megjohnandjustin.com/sex/give-sex-advice/

We discuss how we might feel better about our bodies. So we touch on the social messages we get about bodies and this includes us talking about fatphobia, diets, 'health', disablism, but we don't go into much detail. It's a long one -- sorry about that.

In this podcast we decided to unpack romance… and kind of put it back together in a different form. By the end of the podcast we realised we’d followed a similar line to the line we follow with sex in our book Enjoy Sex (How, When and IF You Want To).