Culture Sex Relationships

First of all, there's an announcement about the show and why we've re-branded from 'Meg-John & Justin' to 'Culture Sex Relationships' Then we have episode 3 of Sex Jams! This one is about 2 Become 1 by the Spice Girls. We discuss consent, heterosex gender norms, courtly love, intimacy vs sex, intentional relationships. In the extended Patreon cut at patreon.com/culturesexrelationships we discuss h...

In episode 2 we chat about One Minute Man, by Missy Eliot, featuring Ludacris and Trina. We discuss the narratives around premature ejaculation, desire, masculinities, objectification, and oral. Eleanor raps the Ludacris verse, which is amazing. Justin soberly reads out the Trina verse, which is perfunctory at best. The video for the 'dirty' version of the song is here https://www.youtube.com/watc...

A new podcast as part of the Meg-John & Justin universe! 'Sex Jams' is where a sex educator and a sex historian discuss songs to do with sex. Justin and Eleanor this week start with George Michael's 'I Want Your Sex'. There is some singing and one of us is clearly better at that than the other. If you want to familiarise yourself with the song first, the full 'monogamy mix' is on YouTube https://w...

This time on the podcast we attempted to normalise the tough feelings that most of us are having at this phase of the Covid-19 pandemic (going into Autumn/Fall 2020). Using the ‘Phases of Disaster’ model we framed our current moment as the long ‘disillusionment’ phase which may last months or even longer. We talked about why it’s really okay to not feel okay right now, and what we might do with ou...

Here's us chatting about consent in romantic relationships. We originally did this for our Patreon feed, so they've been able to listen to this for ages now. Lucky them! Join now from just $1.20 a month patreon.com/culturesexrelationships

This time on the podcast we discussed kindness. Here on our free feed you can listen to our overview of what kindness is and why it’s so important. Then please check out our Patreon to listen to part two of this conversation where we chatted more about how to be kind. patreon.com/culturesexrelationships

[Sorry the sound isn't as great as usual] Earpal Questions This time on the podcast we answered four listener questions. Here’s a few notes on the questions and our answers. They relate to (1) changing support dynamics in friendship, (2) navigating a reconnecting relationship with an ex, (3) dealing with intrusive thoughts, (4) unhelpful friend’s responses to a shift in gender of partner. patreon....

Bonus episode mid-week episode where we talked about our awesome new bingo card, put together by the fabulous Katie Green. Katie is a wonderful illustrator, and podcaster and zine-maker, who touches on similar themes to us at times, but also writes about knitting and sewing. You might enjoy her most recent comic about ace joy and relationship hierarchies. Feel free to play bingo along with our epi...

Sociological review playlist: The Meg-John and Justin desert island discs This time on the podcast we talked about our desert island discs - the songs that we most relate to our Meg-John and Justin project. The prompt for this was that the online journal The Sociological Review asked us to be part of their ‘Music and Sound’ themed month (July 2020) where twelve sociologists provide them with a 'so...

We talked about sadness, sorrow, grief, mourning and melancholia. How can we be with sadness and use it to help us to connect with ourselves and others, and mobilize us towards justice? And how can we avoid shutting down on sadness, or giving up in the face of overwhelming grief? Full blog post and links at https://megjohnandjustin.com/you/sadness/

In this edition of the podcast we thoroughly unpacked the recent TV show Normal People. For an overview of advice about sex, relationships, and ourselves - based on the show - check out Justin’s post over on BishUK. We agreed that we felt ambivalent about the show. While it depicted some things beautifully and profoundly, it also reproduced and reinforced some normative narratives - and engaged in...

This time on the podcast we talked about anger. How can we be with anger and use it to help us to hold our boundaries and mobilize us towards justice? And how can we avoid reacting out of it in ways that manifest as aggression, violence, or hatred (whether turned inwards towards ourselves or outwards towards other people)? Read the full article over at megjohnandjustin.com patreon.com/culturesexre...

This time on the podcast we answered a listener’s question: What is this neoliberalism (that we often mention) and how does it relate to sex and relationships. Read the full show notes / blog at the website megjohnandjustin.com patreon.com/culturesexrelationships

Justin was joined by Joana Ramiro, a freelance journalist. We chatted about a concept which Joana calls Radical Hygge. About how in this moment of coronavirus we might think of ways to collectively organise our lives so that we can have the flexibility, capacity, and opportunities to have better lives. The twitter thread that started this conversation is here https://twitter.com/JoanaRamiroUK/stat...

This time on the podcast we went through the different kinds of love - as suggested by the Ancient Greeks - to consider how each of those might be done in the time of Covid-19. patreon.com/culturesexrelationships

Special bonus episode for this week. Today on the podcast we talked about how to deal with the stress that a lot of us are experiencing around Covid-19. Read more about this at our website megjohnandjustin.com patreon.com/culturesexrelationships

This episode of the podcast was a Corona virus special where we reflected on the issues that the virus raises for consent, from the micro level of self-consent to the macro level of wider culture and societal systems and structures, and everything in between. The podcast should be useful whenever you’re listening to it though as most of our points are generally applicable to sickness and consent r...

A while back a listener asked us to do a podcast to help people who were worrying that they might be a sex addict. MJ decided to do an interview with their friend Dominic Davies - the head of Pink Therapy - who has a critical perspective, and lots of expertise, about sex addiction. In the podcast Dominic updated MJ on where the diagnostic terms relating to sex addiction were at, why he is still ca...

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We're having a couple of weeks off the podcast to catch up with other stuff #gentleness. In the meantime please enjoy our first ever episode for our Patreon feed, a watch-along of Four Weddings and a Funeral. Listen to us chatting about relationship hierarchies, love, and how boring Charlie and Carrie are. If you want these Patreon specials you need to sign up at patreon.com/culturesexrelationship...

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In this (long) episode we chatted about disagreeing with people. Firstly we talked about the differences between disagreements and challenging prejudice. Then we chatted about how to disagree with people, why disagree, when to disagree, and when it's okay to not argue with someone. patreon.com/culturesexrelationships

We chatted a bit about what's been going on for us personally this year. Then we went through some of the podcasts titles we've done this year (both here and on our Patreon)to see whether we have taken our own advice or not. After that we chatted about what we'd like to do with the podcast and our plans for 2020. Here are a couple of our other New Year's Eve related podcasts https://soundcloud.com...

This week on the podcast we spoke about our feelings after the recent UK election, and about how people might cope in the aftermath of cultural events like this which can leave us feeling very precarious indeed.

In this show we talked about how you can be accountable when a friend or other person in your life comes to you to say that they’ve been hurt in some way by your behaviour or choices. Head to our website https://megjohnandjustin.com/relationships/how-to-be-accountable for a blog post with all the links