Crowned & Cancelled

As we emerge out of the pandemic, we have the unique opportunity to remake things into a new normal, from our job situation to our friendship. I’ll tell you how to rejigger dynamics that are/aren’t working, plus talk to a Shalligator who worries that she may have followed “Why Men Love Bitches” a little TOO closely! 💜GET “WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES” 💜  https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE...

We can’t control what happens to us in life, and it doesn’t seem like we can control our subsequent bitterness either – but we can. This week I’ll talk to Shalligators dealing with unfair situations at work, and also in the realm of sexual trauma, and share some practical, easy tips to help them let go of bitterness Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and use code girlontop for 20% off Flex Disc Starter...

This week will continue our spring cleaning series on tossing out thoughts and behaviors that belong in the trash heap. Will help a Shalligator in a toxic fight-loop with her boyfriend of four months. Are his criticisms valid? Or are they squabbling about surface level topics and not core issues? I’ll break it down and give you three ways to fight fair! Go to HelloFresh.com/shallon12 and use code...

As life (sorta) starts to return to normal and the weather shifts, it’s time to take stock of who we’re keeping in our lives—and why. This week, I’ll talk to two Shalligators who don’t know whether to keep or toss old friends who’ve turned into frenemies. 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜WATCH MY FLAZE VIDEOS 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stat...

Are you oh so independent and confident…until you catch feelings? I’ll help a Shalligator who finds herself morphing into a clingy girlfriend and isn’t sure how to stop it. But is there such a thing as TOO independent? I’ll break down how to stop feeling desperate in a relationship and uncover what the fear voice is telling you!  Go to FlexFits.com/GIRLONTOP and use code GIRLONTOP for 20% off Flex...

This week on the YouTube channel we’ve been talking about how to say no and set up boundaries, but sometimes bellowing NO causes more stress than just doing the thing...or, doing the person. If you’re struggling with this concept, I’ll give you some practical real world examples of how to turn someone down, and why The Ick is a terrible byproduct of a boundary-less life! 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 h...

This week, we’ll hear from an exasperated Shalligator Who is stuck on vacation with a complainer. When dealing with an emotional and social terrorist, do you fight fire with fire? Do you ignore them and walk away? I’ll tell you the best way to deal with a victim mentality that protects your peace—not politeness.  Best Friends with Nicole Byer & Sasheer Zamata comes out every Wednesday, on Stit...

This week, I’ll help a Shalligator sort out whether or not it’s wise to have a joint bank account with a man who doesn’t respect your cash flow. And, since Shallentine’s Day is coming up, I’ll give you some pro tips on picking great (cheap!) lingerie and what guys really think when you wear it!  Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and use code girlontop for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your...

This week we tackle two seemingly unrelated issues—ruined birthdays and STDs—and explore why a lack of boundaries can lead us right into both! 💜READ “ESSENTIALISM” 💜  https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜  https://stationhead.live .shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcast...

If a friend vanishes out of your life, do they deserve to get let back in? I’ll help a Shalligator who is wondering if a long lost pal wants another chance or if it’s time to let things go. ALSO! Listen to XO Radio every Wednesday on the Stationhead app (free!) where I play my fave tunes and break down their lessons. AND! Subscribe to my intimate new blog, Eat Prey Love.  💜READ EAT PREY LOVE 💜 ...

This week, a Shalligator is at her wits end with guys who seem to break up with her because they “can’t give you what you need.” But the gag is, she doesn’t really need that much! Is this just a line guys are handing her, or is she portraying herself has way more high maintenance than she is? I’ll decode it all! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜  https:// shallonlester.com  💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/Tik...

When you are a bad ass chick, as we are here in the Shallontourage, it can be hard to focus on just one career or even just a manageable handful of hobbies. I’ll help one Shalligator sort through her maze of interests and explain why recklessly spending energy will leave you bankrupt! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜  https:// shallonlester.com   💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING I...

To kick of 2021, I'll help you embrace the past (yes, even 2020) and tackle a question by a Shalligator who thinks she's starting absolutely from scratch after a tough and trying year. I'll give her some tough love but also 3 actionable, science-backed steps to improving her self-esteem, getting back to her authentic self, and leaving the misery behind!  💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜  https:// shall...

It’s our last podcast of 2020 and it’s time to set intentions for the new year. I’ll tell you my easy, 3-tiered approach to goal setting and manifestation. Plus, we’ll tackle the topic of guys who slide into your DMs, and how to craft the perfect Instagram! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜  https://shallonlester.com 💜GIVE BACK 💜  gf.me/u/za8h5d 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast!...

Whether you're in a small town, small college or small office, getting over someone you have to see all the time is an exercise in agony. I'll give you some practical tips on moving forward, and we'll talk to a Shalligator who's in a quandary about how to find a good therapist!  💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜  https:// shallonlester.com   💜GIVE BACK 💜  gf.me/u/za8h5d 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate a...

‘Tis the season to…go into debt making buying presents, right? NOPE. Not this year. We’re going to look at the silver linings of 2020, reset our attitude toward money, dial down expectations, and come out of the holidays feeling rich in every possible way! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜  https://shallonlester.com 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜BINGE 💜 4 new videos a week  h...

Is cheating actually cheating if it’s with a sex worker? And can sending a guy nudes prevent him from straying? I’ll explore this sexually tense situation, plus help another Shalligator sort out who exactly should pay for the date, and when to start pitching in! 💜 BINGE EVIL WEEK 💜 https://infstream.com/shallonlester 💜 ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜 BINGE 💜 4 new video...

This week we’re focusing on just one topic: turning yourself into an alpha female. Specifically, I’m breaking down the three major shifts I made in my life to go from cold blooded to independent, bulletproof, and ultimately, very happy and satisfied no matter what my circumstances. This weeks motto: “No thank you.”  💜BINGE EVIL WEEK 💜  https://infstream.com/shallonlester 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please...

Halloween may be over, but we're keeping the sinful fun going with an Evil Week bonus, where I break down easy tricks to gather information on your enemies and haters so you can craft the most effective strategy against them. Plus, I'll tell you some sanity-saving tips on surviving election season with this week's motto: Do Not Disturb.  💜JOIN EVIL WEEK 💜  https://infstream.com/shallonlester 💜E...

EVIL WEEK BONUS: How (and Why) to Embrace Wickedness Evil Week is in full swing but it can be hard to fully step into the shoes of sin, right? I'll give you a perditious little pep talk on how evil and intuition walk hand in hand. Plus: we'll sorting out what exactly makes for great sex (and how to get it!) and ranting about...Emily Ratajkowski? 💜JOIN EVIL WEEK 💜  https://infstream.com/shallonle...

Evil Week begins on October 25 on YouTube and Infstream, and the Shallontourage deserves a little...appetizer, don’t you think? This week I’m talking all about revenge — how to get it, who to tell, what it looks like, and the two different strategies for annihilating your enemies. 💜JOIN THE BOOK CLUB 💜 https://www.amazon.com/shop/shallonlester 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcas...

This week our mantra is: stay true to yourself. Sometimes it’s necessary to look at the reality of the situation, a person, or even a town and say… You know what? This just isn’t good enough for me anymore. Plus, I’ll tell you how to cultivate what I call celebrity energy to insulate you from beta males who neg you on dating apps and IRL! 💜JOIN THE BOOK CLUB 💜 https://www.amazon.com/shop/shallon...

This week we’re talking to a Shalligator who feel stuck in her current college circumstance, plus another trapped by a friend who just won’t listen to her advice, and another who ponders the age old question: if we sleep with a guy in the first date, is it the kiss of death? I’ll break it all down! 💜JOIN THE BOOK CLUB 💜 https://www.amazon.com/shop/shallonlester 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and...

This week, we’re learning how to see the reality of the situation — not what we hope it is, or what fear tells us it is. One Shalligator is getting ghosted by a guy with unclear intentions, while another is debating whether or not to cut off a toxic friend. I’ll sort it all out and give you a soothing new mantra! 💜JOIN THE BOOK CLUB 💜 https://www.amazon.com/shop/shallonlester 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 p...

We’ve all been there with the guy who felt like drugs—every text and every hook up gave us that dopamine insanity. One Shalligator offers her tip on how to clip the cravings, then another ask a crucial question: when we are finally finished with fuck boys, where can you find a hot quality nerd? I’ll tell you a fun and easy way to magnetize quality characters into your life and how to avoid potenti...