Courtship Code

If you've been searching for answers and trying to figure out what you aren’t doing or what needs to shift in your love life to attract a compatible partner and an exclusive relationship that will lead to marriage, this episode is for you. You want to finally move into the next chapter of your life Yet, you think you're only meeting men who aren’t serious or ready for commitment and you feel cluel...

If you're meeting men and the relationships only last for a few conversations, weeks or short months but not fully moving into a secure, committed relationship then this episode is for you. When you've been in a cycle of this type of dating and courtship experiences then you will feel uncertain about where the relationship is headed and if your time is being valued with the potential for a real fu...

Today I’m sharing 10 courtship secrets of confident successful women. These women often do a great job of masking what’s really going on in their love lives and how they actually feel. If you are like many confident successful women are hopeless romantics who are extremely resilient with relationships. You will try again and again the same way you go after any career goal in life. The thing is wit...

Over my years of running a matchmaking service I had the privilege of getting the inside scoop of what commitment ready men actually want and have concerns about when it comes to making the decision for commitment. These men were actively looking for wives and would share their personal thoughts and feelings with me to ensure they were introduced to the types of women they'd want to commit to. In...

Regardless of how confident a woman may appear on the outside, many high achieving women have a deep fear of never being lovable. This leads to seeking validation, chasing unavailable men, and never feeling worthy or good enough to have the type of commitment they want. Surprisingly, many successful women have low standards when it comes to love. Yes, they may be attracted to and even enter situat...

After 8 years of helping women attract partners so that they can get married I’ve learned that courtship is actually a simple process. It’s not easy. But it’s simple. Right now you may think it’s difficult and complicated because that’s what your past experiences have taught you. So because you’ve been winging it for so long you have patterns that cause you to repeat past mistakes. In this episode...

Today's episode is a Monday Coffee Chat replay. Coffee Chats are living coaching calls in the CCC student community where students get to submit questions for live feedback and coaching. This call features insight on the first 30 days of courtship, the importance of being present during the first 30 days, and why it's more important to focus on intention vs attention in the early stages of dating...

“Choosing you is always the best option,” says mom and entrepreneur, Ceceily, of The Captivating Courtship Code coaching. In her thirties, with three children, she finally feels like she has full permission to be her most authentic self in relationships. In this episode, Ceceily details adjusting to life after divorce and rediscovering dating and courtship as a newly single woman. She discusses ho...

You’ve already tried therapy, reading books on attachment styles, and personal development so that you feel more confident, heal from your past, and invest in being a better you. Yet, you can’t figure out why all of the growth you’ve made isn’t working in your love life and helping you to attract better men? This is because feeling anxious and emotionally attaching to men too quickly, is due to yo...

If you anxiously attach as soon as you like a guy and put all your eggs and focus in his basket this episode is for you. When you are dating & courted for a few weeks or months, and then the relationship doesn’t turn into actual commitment, it may cause you take some time off out of frustration and disappointment. Then after some time you may work up the courage to do it all over again, and th...

A secret many high achieving successful women have is that they struggle with confidence and self worth. And society has made the mistake of confusing a woman with goals with a woman who isn’t fragile, fears rejection and failure, and a woman who doesn’t actually have it all together. So you’re often treated as strong, or expected to have all of the answers, or to figure it out on your own. And wh...

Being a matchmaker taught me there’s a luxury in the convenience of having help with love. The successful men and women I worked with as a matchmaker understood the benefit of accelerating their path to love. Yet they would overcomplicate finding a partner even with help. I realized there were key things happening: Overthinking, Anxiousness and Emotionally Attaching to Outcome Not Actually Being C...

If you reflect on the last 6 months and you have had some ups and downs with meeting men, yet you are feeling confident that there are men available then you may be thinking something is missing that’s blocking you from attracting the right relationship for you. Maybe you feel challenged with getting to 3 months and exclusivity, or had a breakup within the last 6 months and you are ready to move o...

Are you trying to figure out why your relationships aren’t lasting longer than 30 days? Do you want to know why after months of building an emotional connection the relationship isn’t moving forward to actual commitment or engagement? Do you want to actually take the next steps towards getting married? If you want to actually enjoy dating & courtship and you want to see progress in a relations...

Are you feeling clueless about courtship? If you've taken some steps towards attracting a compatible man for marriage but the relationships aren’t lasting or the men you are meeting aren’t fully committing and you’re not quite sure why, this episode is for you. Here's the thing, right now you may be taking some old outdated ways to date/court the men you’re meeting and it’s not working for you, es...

If you're meeting men and getting some good experiences, yet, you feel as though something is missing or not connecting during the courtship process, and your relationships with men aren’t leading to commitment and you don’t know why then this episode is for you. Not meeting men who are serious about commitment or you may thinking there’s something wrong with you and you aren’t good enough for a m...

One mistake you may be making that you need to avoid is treating the first or second conversation like a job interview. You may be doing this unintentionally, but pay attention to the flow of conversations whether online or offline and if you’re communicating with the intention to quickly eliminate a man as not a match.  When you first meet a man and you are asking questions to quickly qualif...

Juggling all the things in life and trying your best to balance career and finding a partner is doable, even if you’re not having much success right now. If you are having conversations and meeting men but the experiences aren’t lasting very long: hot-cold relationships, the men appear incompatible, and you put men on pedestals then this episode is for you. You already believe you can attract good...

If you're a successful woman and you're actively meeting men, but the relationships don’t last very long and you find yourself always getting to the same relationship milestone and then the relationship falls off, then this episode is for you. Right now, it may feel like you attract hot-cold, start-stop relationships or men who just won’t commit and although you may not feel completely dissatisfie...

This behind the scenes episode of the courtship code podcast features a Monday live coffee chat about staying aligned during courtship, boundaries in relationships with men, and aligning with your feminine energy. Every Monday in CCC, The Captivating Courtship Code Accelerator program, Zara goes live to answer Q&A directly in the coaching community for real-time feedback. This episode shares a cli...

Do you want to attract more love and money in 2023? In this episode you'll learn the energetics of attracting more love and money, and why many successful, high achieving women struggle with attracting love and more financial abundance, even if you're already living a great life. If you want to attract a relationship and improve your dating & courtship experiences you'll want to open your femi...

In this episode we explore the common question today's woman faces, "Should I relocate to attract love?" If this is a question you've asked yourself, the answer may be YES and NO. Yes, because we've coached lots of women in CCC to attract and court men in long distance relationships successfully, and for some this could help solve their marriage problem. Yet, for most there are many of other steps...

In this episode you'll learn about attracting a match for marriage as a successful woman and why you want to be intentional about attracting a match for commitment so that you aren't wasting time with men who are not ready for commitment. We talk about strategic matching and how to quickly identify and meet men who are compatible and a good fit for you. Do you want to learn how CCC can help you? B...

Behind the scenes two part episode of a Monday Coffee Chat about changing your relationship with rejection and learning to accept your journey as a single woman. Every Monday Zara goes live directly in the coaching community to answer questions and provide direct feedback in real-time. This episode dives into the necessary mindset shifts, actions, and beliefs around what it means for a relationshi...

Behind the scenes two part episode of a Monday Coffee Chat about changing your relationship with rejection and learning to accept your journey as a single woman. Every Monday Zara goes live directly in the coaching community to answer questions and provide direct feedback in real-time. This episode dives into the necessary mindset shifts, actions, and beliefs around what it means for a relationshi...