Courtship Code

If you have been single for years or find yourself experiencing the same types of relationships, men, or courtship and dating experiences you may be in a Love Loop. Love Loops are the signature 8 sabotaging relationship patterns that makes it difficult to build a happy, healthy relationship that leads to long-term commitment or marriage. Each of the 8 Love Loops has different experiences, beliefs,...

In this episode we discuss how you can take the leap to captivating courtship this year. Zara opens up about challenges, pivots, and changes needed in order to create the most aligned vision and ways to assist women transform their relationship patterns so they can improve the quality of their love life and attract a healthy relationship. You will learn about new programs, services, and coaching o...

Do you need to heal to attract a healthy relationship? This episode is a special live coaching episode that dives into questions about making the decision to heal and prepare for marriage instead of waiting until you are in the marriage and working with your spouse to heal from past trauma. We discuss the impact itself -esteem and self-worth on your ability to attract a healthy relationship, along...

This episode is from Captivating Courtship's monthly live training hosted by Zara J. Come join live and learn with us about the latest tools, tips, and information in the dating and relationship industry.  In this episode, we discuss practical steps to find a spouse, blocks that may be holding you back, and the main focus to increase potential options if you have not been courted by a man for...

In this episode, we dive deep into the world of courtship and dating, focusing on successful women aged 28-43 who have a burning desire to find love and get married within the next 12 months. Join us as we unmask the most common courtship and dating mistakes that may be hindering their path to marriage and provide a roadmap for success. We begin by discussing the importance of setting clear relati...

When you are in survival mode being in your authenticity and attracting a man who shares your authentic values in courtship is a challenge. This is because when you are anxious, fearful of getting hurt, or trying to control the outcome of the relationship you aren't focused on building meaningful connections. Instead, you will simply focus on securing the man or the relationship, even if he is...

How do you push past an ex and deal with interfaith relationships? In today's coaching episode, we'll have an insightful conversation about how to do just that. In relationships and specifically interfaith relationships, it's important to understand why we feel the way we do and process our emotions. In this episode, she admits that she still misses her ex because he had certain qualit...

You don’t need to go through pain and relationship issues for months or years on end to find a valuable man who is worthy of you. Today’s episode brings to you freshly brewed stories for the Captivating Courtship Code which are examples to tell you How and why to stop wasting time with a relationship that’s going nowhere. Many high-achieving women rush into the dating and courtship process, focusi...

Humility in your spirit is a beautiful virtue to have but it can make you shrink in your courtship process in a way that is unhealthy for both your partner and most importantly, you. Take a deep dive into this episode to know why humility does not serve successful women during dating and courtship. Since time immemorial women have been taught to be less, speak less, and express less. It has never...

If you have been dedicating 10-15 years of your life to education, growth, and self-development, you deserve a partner who understands you and is authentically aligned with your values. Today’s episode brings you an in-depth dive into the 3rd and 4th mistakes of the Courtship Mistakes series of episodes in our podcast! If you find yourself jumping into situations that don’t go too far, it is becau...

Being committed is defined as being devoted to seeing it through. It means when you know you’re in it to win it. Today’s episode works through understanding commitment readiness levels, in not just your potential partner but also yourself. A relationship starts with you looking inward first. Before questioning if the man is commitment ready, it is essential to work on yourself and get to the point...

In todays's episode of the series, 6 courtship mistakes successful women make and how to correct them, we dive into courtship mistake #1: Successful women not focusing on valuable and authentically aligned men. Many accomplished and successful women don’t know how to identify and attract valuable men.  Over my 8 years in the relationship industry, we’ve worked with a spectrum of professional w...

You come to bed tired from home, you switch between the dating apps, you get drained from introducing yourself to men who don’t match your energy, before you drool to sleep. Now imagine finding men you can authentically connect to, men who are willing and eager to create a deep, heartfelt connection with you without being hesitant or having their walls up. Spend time with this image in your head,...

DID YOU KNOW that YOUR BIRTH CONTROL could impact the kind of partners you’re picking or decisions you’re making in your courtship process? This episode is eye-opening for millenial women who are trying to balance busy careers, love and wellness. Hormonal health directly affects how your relationships and potential body image issues, anxiety, fatigue, emotional management and how you feel about yo...

If you’ve been feeling like you’re running on a treadmill and not making any real progress, it is because you don’t yet know who you truly are in a relationship - what your relationship patterns are, what works for you & what doesn’t and what you want in the future of your love life. If you’ve ever had the thought of marriage and a family in your future, know this: it is 100% available to you...

Of the top three relationship pattern types (The Too Goods, The Love MEs and the Trophies), which one are you? Most people fit into one dominating pattern type and one or two other sub pattern types. Not knowing and owning your authentic value in a relationship may be happening because your inner girl is still choosing your partners and making decisions in your relationships. So, you seek validati...

In this episode, Zara breaks down why discovering your relationship patterns will be the turning point of your love life- not just for your love life but your other relationships, your career, your finances, your health and your self image. What takes you from being a Wounded Princess to a Captivating Queen is healing your inner child. Your inner child has felt insecure, abandoned, ignored, unhear...

If you attract emotionally unavailable men there may be a chance you are also emotionally unavailable. Do you want to know how to build and turn a long distance courtship into marriage? Maryama says “Don’t wait until things get worse. The sooner you take action, the better your life will be!” If you’re a successful millennial woman and you have been actively courting and dating and you don’t know...

YOUR BRAIN IS NOT WIRED TO FIND LOVE! The good news is that you can rewire it. Do you feel like every time you take one step forward with attracting a partner, you go three steps back in your love life? Do you at this point question your desirability or ability to find love? We are all operating on negative thought loops and patterns we default to because they feel familiar and safe. The way out o...

Do you feel like no matter how close you get to commitment & marriage, you still are far away? Do you find it difficult to communicate your needs or are you often subject to hiccups, conflict and drama in commitment conversations? If yes, this podcast is made for YOU! It has that one secret that could be holding you back from commitment. Conversations about commitment need you to have your defense...

Did the man you were dating/courting take all your attention and not commit to you? What if you knew the exact reasons why, and what steps you can take to lead to different outcomes in your courtship process so you can actually attract commitment? You wouldn't waste time on a non committal or emotionally unavailable guy again, right? High-achieving women like you don’t need to hand over all contro...

Twenty-three percent of Americans aged 30-49 are single. With millions of Americans looking to attract a relationship and committed partner you may ask yourself, "Why am I still single?" This episode will bring clarity and help you take intentional action towards a high quality love life so that you can attract a compatible partner for marriage. We delve into the three beliefs of Desirability, Ava...

If you’re someone who struggles with inconsistent communication with men, over-investing in someone who is not ready yet or find it difficult to maintain your boundaries, then this is an episode tailor-made for you. This episode reflects on the importance of communication. There can be different types of communication like articulate and effective. Being good at one doesn’t ensure the other. What...

Do you feel like no matter how consistent you are with dating, your love life isn’t moving forward? Well, that could be because of love blocks. Love blocks create relationship patterns in your life. These love blocks could look like childhood wounds, triggers, self sabotage and abandonment. Many high achieving women let relationship anxiety, communication issues, disappointment, or low self-worth...

In this episode, we dive into setting clear boundaries and knowing when and why you need to lean back to build a sustainable, stable relationship. Join us for this Monday’s Coffee Chat as we explore things you can do before reacting to disrespect in your relationships. One key to attracting your ideal partner is being clear on your own relationship needs. The more clear you are on your relationshi...