Courtship Code

In this episode we have a chat with CCC client Amirah about having the courage to dive into the challenges of the inner work in order to quickly transform her Adapter Love Loop pattern and attract her relationship. We discuss healing from past relationships, trust, and fully opening your heart to receive love after trauma and disappointments. Amirah shares the impact CCC has made on her love life...

If you are a high achieving woman that's anxiously attached you may find yourself overthinking interactions with men, having a hard time balancing your career and love life, or attracting emotionally unavailable men. You may find yourself subconsciously trying to control the outcome of the relationship and rushing the courtship process whenever relationship anxiety creeps in. This keeps you on...

What are your courtship blindspots? Are a lack of boundaries holding you back from the relationship you deserve? In this episode you will learn about how your courtship and dating blindspots are keeping you frustrated and from the relationship you want and how you can turn them around. Links mentioned in this episode: Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching program www.captivatingcourtshi...

If you have achieved success in her career but struggle with feelings of inadequacy in your personal life, you may be a Self-Worth Sarah. When it comes to Self-Worth Sarahs, despite your accomplishments, you battle with low self-worth and often attract emotionally unavailable partners who reinforce your negative beliefs about yourself.  This may lead to codependency in relationships and feeling bu...

Are you an Anxious Ava? If you are a woman who values your spiritual beliefs and is actively seeking a long-term committed relationship, however, your anxious attachment style leads you to overthink every interaction with potential partners, then you may be an Anxious Ava. Your anxiety causes you to appear clingy or needy. Despite your desire to find love, you struggle with managing your emotions...

Are you an overwhelmed Olivia? If you are successful with a demanding career, balancing life and love can feel very overwhelming, and your romantic life may even take a backseat to your career.  Despite your professional achievements, you struggle with relationship anxiety and constantly finds yourself emotionally attached to men who are unavailable or unwilling to commit.  In this episode we disc...

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Are you stuck in a courtship loop? If you have been meeting men and it feels like you are attracting the same experiences over and over again or if you feel clueless about why you feel stuck in your love life, you may be in a courtship loop. Courtship Loops are a connecting pattern in your relationship experiences that shows where you have been settling, shrinking, or not in your value. Once you a...

Over the years of working with clients and helping them o shift their patterns and find love, one thing that's for certain: No journey to love is the same. Every client success story has come with their own path and ups and downs. By understanding that no journey to love is the same you will be able to better embrace your unique circumstance. You will gain a deeper appreciation for your own jo...

If you often feel weighed down with anxious thoughts, fears and doubts when it comes to relationships this episode is for you. Feeling insecure and anxious is one of the most common sabotaging behaviors that breaks promising relationships. Although it's totally normal to feel insecure at times during dating and courtship, when insecurities become a constant problem in your love life, you will...

When you start your journey to partnership you may think you should focus on where to meet men, how to create emotional connection, or how to allow a man to pursue you so that you go from single to committed. You may think your biggest challenge is avoiding men who are time wasters so that you don’t fall into the situationship trap or get emotionally attached too soon to a man who isn’t ready to c...

For many high achieving women, despite how confident you may be on the outside, you may feel very indecisive and uncertain when it comes to dating and relationships. This uncertainty creates major insecurity. Insecurity leads to feeling very hesitant to make decisions in your love life that actually creates the outcome you desire. Then, your go to solution will be to vent to your friends or family...

In this episode we reflect on courtship lessons of 2023, what to expect from Captivating Courtship, and new services and programs in 2024. To get the 2024 service guide, email or DM "MORE" @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram or book a consultation. Book a 30 minute consultation: www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Love Loops mini course - Disco...

Oftentimes when I'm working with clients who find themselves repeating relationship patterns, anxiously attached, or fearful of getting hurt their main focus during dating & courtship is to change the man. Your love lens is so intensely focused on him that you may not realize your subconscious fears are causing you to show up as controlling, needy, or simply less attractive.  This is the o...

One of the biggest triggers you may face on your path to partnership is the concept that you are the problem in your love life. When you embrace the idea that you may be PART of the problem, you open the door to change your current relationship status that no longer serves you. You will now have the opportunity to explore aspects of yourself that may feel uncomfortable to own. Which means you have...

One of the scarier aspects of dating & courtship is opening yourself up to making new connections, feeling excited about the relationship, then fearing disappointment. When you finally meet a new man that you share a connection with, you so badly want the relationship to work that you subconsciously begin looking for all the reasons why it won't. This cycle is exhausting and a pattern you...

Are you feeling burnout from hot-cold relationships, situationships, and feeling like you are always on the edge of commitment? If so, there's a secret you are missing in dating and courtship that took me years to discover. In today's episode you will learn how anxiously attached women can get off the hot-cold relationship treadmill and finally attract commitment. Not only will you have a...

Want to attract commitment yet find yourself feeling burnout, in situationships or breakups? If you find yourself anxiously overthinking then your relationship patterns are sabotaging your relationship success. In this episode we explore the biggest gap in your courtship and dating process, the commitment bridge. You will learn why you have a difficult time crossing the bridge to commitment, why w...

Do you find it difficult to stop anxious overthinking during the courtship process? If you find yourself getting deeply emotionally attached whenever the need for security and validation surface and it's sabotaging your love life, this episode is for you. Oftentimes, when you find yourself feeling fear and other emotions around a potential relationship going left, you may emotionally react and...

Do you have difficulty allowing yourself to be fully authentic, vulnerable, and feel safe connecting with a man's heart? When you are attempting to attract commitment from sabotaging relationship patterns, child trauma, or unhealed wounds you will have a hard time communicating from your heart without fear of rejection, disappointment, or being judged. This is way, learning how to communicate...

Have you been selling yourself on settling? In this episode we discuss what it actually means to sell yourself on settling, why you do it, and how to stop so that you can attract the healthy relationship you deserve. Too often, women confuse settling with status, accolades, or even ego driven desires. However, actual settling is much deeper and has a greater mental, emotional, and spiritual impact...

Have you been feeling burnt out with courtship and dating? The feeling of "burnout" is often linked to deeper emotions that's causing you to want to shutdown, avoid or simply do nothing with your love life. While it's understandable to feel frustrated or disappointed at times, being burnout is typically the result of managing your beliefs, emotions, and actions during the courtsh...

If you haven't felt sure about what steps to take to meet new men this episode is for you. Today, we're discussing Captivating Courtship's signature 5 step Love Links strategy and how you can use it to self-assess what actionable steps you can take to meet quality men and attract an authentically aligned partner. The Love Links strategy is a simple road map shared with The Captivating...

The relationship pattern known as the LoveMe Love Loop is known for self-sacrificing during courtship, dating and relationships in order to people please and meet their potential partner's needs. The hopeless romantics of the 8 Love Loops, their willingness to prove their worth through people pleasing and shrinking their voice is their strongest form of self-sabotage that keeps them from havin...

Do you have the Trophy Love Loop? One of the biggest challenges with the Trophy Love Loop is having difficult keeping boundaries due to a fear of missing out. This fear is rooted in survival emotions that not only causes low value behaviors in relationships and your personal life, but it also causes you to attract and work to keep relationships that are low value and less than you deserve. All of...