Courtship Code

You hold so much value when you’re in your authenticity and femininity but if you’ve been attracting from neediness, clinginess, or other low value behaviors and communication you’re pushing the right men away, fast. You don’t want to be needy AND you don’t want a man to NEED YOU. You want to be valued, desired, and cared for...and all of this is available to you. Here’s the inside scoop...checkou...

If you’re struggling with vulnerability, self worth, and your feminine energy it’s pretty hard to maintain a deeper connection with man that allows them to feel connected to you and one that inspires connection and commitment. Embodying these powerful energies as a high value woman transforms your love life and draws men to you in a way that leaves you feeling highly desired, pursued, and protecte...

Therapy is really important and a valuable aspect of personal development and growth. However, it’s not the same as coaching. While therapy is excellent for helping you talk about your problems or where they stem from...it’s not the go to tool to help you move the needle forward and create a different experience, that’s the benefit of coaching. If you’ve been sitting on the fence about coaching an...

Have you ever been called needy or combative? What about a ghoster, avoider, or that you withdraw? If so, this is a form of sabotage and low value communication that’s triggering unpleasant experiences, keeping you frustrated, and repelling the high value men you want to commit. The key is learning to inspire connection instead of sparking conflict. Let’s break this down and why the power of your...

Want tips on how to make your online profile pop? As a previous owner of a matchmaking service one thing I’ve spent years doing and mastering was building attractive profiles. Your online profile is the #1 most impactful aspect to your online match experience. You MUST have an attractive profile and know other hacks that will help you get seen faster and by the right people. If you’re looking to u...

It’s time to get past your past and give up the power that heartbreak and rejection has had over you.  Hard truth: Your past CAN define your future. That sounds harsh, but it’s reality IF you allow your past to dictate and sabotage your present and future.  So here’s what you need to do to reset your past and create a dynamic and loving future. Www.captivatingcourtship.com/playbook

I want to share a secret with you: there’s a direct connection between your love and money mindset. Even if you’re an amazing woman with a successful career, there may still be money blocks that are showing up in your life that are a direct reflection of your love blocks. I’ve seen it time and time again. These blocks are sneaky and are running on autopilot in your life and have a direct impact on...

If you feel frustrated, yet, scared to seek help with your love life you’re not alone. When women come decide to join coaching a few things they often express is: Not having a strong support system to guide them with relationships and love. Desiring not to have the same relationships as the women around them. If you can relate, what I’ve found is this drive and desire you have to break generationa...

Wait, before you listen to this episode I want you to know you 100% ARE a high value woman...but, you may be displaying low value behaviors that has you attracting and showing up in your love life in a way that’s repelling the types of men and relationships you desire instead of the high value woman you truly are. When I created the Captivating Courtship Code it was intended to help you learn how...

Pull out your pen and journal as we embark into the New Year together. On this week’s episode we’re going to dive into 5 actionable tips that can move your love life along this year and begin to take action to create better experiences in your love life. This year DOES NOT have to be the same as last year. There are real steps you can take and real results you can get, and you don’t have to strugg...

Do you want to know a major mistake you may be making that’s keeping you stuck for years and years? It’s taking on other people’s issues.  By living through other people’s relationship experiences you’re operating in a state of fear and panic where you’re overly consumed that you may go through some negative experiences like the people around you, or you’re so worried about making mistakes you’re...

If you’ve spent most of your life trying to be “good” you probably have deep wounds around people pleasing and trying to prove you’re a good woman and that’s the reason why men should choose you. Only being good is not a reason a man wants to commit to you.  Do men want a good woman? Yes.  Do they want a woman who is their emotional blanket and feels she needs to prove just how good of a woman she...

There’s some major challenges a woman who’s emotionally unavailable may experience in relationships, especially when committed. Oddly enough, they may have an easy time attracting relationships in the beginning because they appear to be so easy going. The downfall is when they enter a commitment they continue to struggle with expressing and showing emotions. This often leds to major disconnects in...

It may be a surprise for women who have figured out how to master their education, career, or business that those same skills don’t always mean they’ll figure out how to navigate courtship and relationships. The truth is I’ve worked with lots of women who are high achievers who never learned how to attract partners with intention or are unaware they need to change how they’ve been engaging with me...

Tired of chasing men? I hear you, sis. Here’s the thing, there’s a deeper reason why you feel the need to chase and pursue men instead of being in your feminine energy and allowing a man to show up and commit. This pattern is definitely sabotaging you from attracting the masculine man you desire and from feeling like the prize in relationships. You’re treating men like the prize, trophy, and the B...

Do you have commitment issues? Do you find yourself starting and stopping projects? Never fully showing up for yourself? Betraying your values and boundaries? If you’ve been struggling with commitment in your personal life you’re likely attracting men who equally struggle with commitment. Just by shifting this aspect of your life will quickly elevate and transform the types of men you attract. Thi...

You’ve been taught to pay attention to red flags and now you’re hyper focused and overthinking every time you meet a man on high alert for any sign he’s not the one. This is emotionally draining and backfires. When you’re in the mindset of looking for flaws you’re missing all the reasons for you to say yes to your future.  On this episode I’m sharing the importance of shifting this approach to cou...

Do you try to control the outcome? One of the most common things women tell me when they decide to join coaching is that they have a hard time not trying to control the outcome of courtship or relationships.   This is a major block and is wrapped up with all kinds of anxiety, control, and trust issues that either repels the right men or attracts less masculine men who will leave you feeling like y...

As we close out this Captivating Month I want to have a heart to heart conversation with you about the trust cost of courtship. It’s really easy to believe you’re safe and secure with the sabotage, frustration, and rejection you’ve experienced because what’s predictable feels certain. What’s scary is taking a calculated risk to decide you’re worth more than sitting on the sidelines feeling anxious...

Want to know how my clients transform their love lives, quickly? On this episode we break everything down and share an intimate testimony from former client, Najwa, and her new marriage. Ready to enroll in Coaching? Book a FREE Captivating Session and we'll discuss exactly what steps you need to take and what coaching option works best for you. Www.captivatingcourtship.com/apply follow Zara @zaraj...

Whether you’ve experienced divorce, a traumatic breakup, or years of consistent rejection it can truly start to break you down and make you question if there are any men available for you or if you’ll ever find love again? Most will get stuck with this paralyzing question and find themselves courting and manifesting relationships from this mindset or fearful and untrusting due to being stuck in th...

It's a Captivating Month! Doors to the Captivating Courtship Code group coaching program opens. You can book a Captivating Session and learn more about coaching at Www.captivatingcourtship.com/apply . On this week's episode we speak with Brittiany who shares how coaching has quickly shifted her love life and had freed her from relationship anxiety. We also discuss the law of attracting emotionally...

Is settling a REAL thing? When is it okay to settle and when are you simply being “realistic” about partners? This is a question so many women struggle with and something we dive into with Captivating Courtship Code coaching. So, I want to share with you all the deets on IF you should settle with relationships and how to think about your partner selection and courtship options. JOIN THE WAIT LIST...

Many women believe all their problems will go away if they just meet their match BUT I can say as an experienced matchmaker why that's probably not true and why coaching may be the better option. Join the Captivating Courtship Code Facebook group for additional content and a Free Captivating Courtship Code Playbook. Follow @zarajcaptivatingcourtship Want to Join the wait list? Www.captivatingcourt...

Security is a mindset that requires you to transform your beliefs and mindset around the things you feel insecure about in order to shift.  Your actions are a result of the beliefs you have and what you are or aren’t doing. Your issues aren’t your ability to invest in your upgrade. Your issues aren’t that everyone else or courtship makes you feel insecure. Your issue is you’re failing to provide s...