Couples Therapy In Seven Words

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/kristal-desantis/ . I (Bruce) have often observed that men these days seem to be at a loss in knowing how to be men. The old default assumptions about how we’re supposed to show up in relationships, especially with women, seem not to work anymore. Our guest for this episode, Kristal DeSantis, is a therapist who specializes in helping men fig...

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/artemisia-de-vine-2/ . We interviewed our guest in this episode, Artemisia de Vine, a few weeks ago in Episode 153 (this one is 162). Artemisia is an expert on sexual fantasies, and we had a fascinating conversation about it. Recently Artemisia discovered that Rina Trevi, a podcaster and coach, had plagiarized her work, and Artemisia confron...

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/the-f-word/ . In this episode we talk about a short film, “ The F-Word .” Besides being hilarious, this film touches on themes that often come up in couples work. What if parents differ about what constitutes appropriate conduct for their children? What if one parent thinks the other is doing something harmful to their children? We also talk...

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/laurie-groh/ . How can couples navigate conflicts and differences? What are some of the challenges couples face at different stages of life? Our guest in this episode, Laurie Groh, applies her training from the Gottman Institute, Terry Real, Esther Perel, Harville Hendrix, and others to help couples heal. Laurie’s website is https://shoresid...

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/eric-fitzmedrud/ . What leads someone to recognize that they are polyamorous? How can getting consent be sexy? How can men learn to “be a better asshole”? These are some of the topics we talk about in this episode with our guest, Dr. Eric FitzMedrud. His recent book is The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Se...

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/can-you-forgive-rape/ . What are the limits of forgiveness? Can you forgive even the worst sort of violations? I (Bruce) have worked with many people who are struggling with this question. In part, it depends on what you mean by “forgive.” Does forgiveness have to imply that you’ll try to restore your relationship? Or might you forgive someo...

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness-its-almost-here/ . Bruce’s book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again, is getting closer to its release. In this episode we talk more about various kinds of betrayal Bruce encounters in his work with couples. It’s often infidelity, but there are other sorts of betrayal as wel...

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.   What is betrayal? Why is it so painful? And how do you recover from the shock, get past the anger, and figure out how to move on? In this episode we talk about the kinds of betrayal Bruce encounters in his work with couples. It’s often infidelity, but there are other sorts of betrayal as well. We touch on secret...

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/marisa-flood/ . How can you turn conflict into connection? Our guest in this episode, Marisa Flood, is a relationship coach who specializes in helping couples learn the skills they need to thrive. Marisa’s website is https://conflict2connection.com/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us...

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/dene-logan/. How can we reclaim the healthy masculine and feminine aspects we each have within us? And how does reclaiming those aspects help couples? Our guest in this episode, Dené Logan, uses her understanding of depth psychology, informed by her own experience, to help couples along the path to more fulfilling relationships. Dené’s websi...

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/artemisia-de-vine/ . Our guest in this episode, Artemisia De Vine, is an expert on sexual fantasies, an expertise she developed through her work as a professional dominatrix. We talk about the meaning of sexual fantasies, and how understanding them can unlock deeper connection and spiritual growth. Her forthcoming book is The Spirituality of...

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/sarah-watson/. Sarah Watson is a sex therapist and educator. Having grown up with little education about sex herself, Sarah now works with parents to help them have age-appropriate conversations with their kids about sex. Sarah also cohosts a podcast about menstruation with a focus on people who have bleeding disorders or experience extreme...

The video of this episode is at https://youtu.be/OBA56wRhpI4. Our guest for this episode, Dr. Leanna Wolfe, was an anthropologist at heart before she knew the term. She tells us about her own experiences of sexual exploration, her anthropological work in Mexico, India, Papua New Guinea, and Africa, and her studies of polygamy, polyamory, and sexual violence. Do you have ideas for topics or guests...

For the video of this episode, visit https://brucechalmer.com/kathy-slaughter/. What is polyamory? What can people in monogamous relationships learn from the experience of people practicing polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy? Our guest in this episode, Kathy Slaughter, brings their own experience in a polyamorous family to their work with people considering and practicing polyamory....

For the video of this episode, visit https://brucechalmer.com/eft-allison-jayne-ewing/ . For women who find themselves dating at midlife, often because of divorce, the prospects can seem dim. Our guest in this episode, Allison Jayne Ewing, works with women to help them clear internal blocks to successful dating, and open up to the excitement of falling in love again. Allison uses an approach calle...

For the video of this episode, visit https://brucechalmer.com/can-you-forgive-the-unforgivable/ . What does it mean to forgive when you've been betrayed? And how do you get there? Dr. Chalmer talks about three steps to forgiveness: forgive yourself, forgive whoever hurt you, and forgive God. (Huh?) Don't worry, he explains that last one. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go t...

For the video of this episode, visit https://brucechalmer.com/nick-solaczek/ . What is Imago Relationship Therapy, and how can it help couples? Our guest in this episode is Nick Solaczek, who is certified as an Imago Relationship Coach, and has developed tools to help couples improve their relationships. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a...

For the video of this episode, visit https://brucechalmer.com/ken-schafer/ . We’ve done lots of episodes about sex, but we haven’t talked specifically about erectile dysfunction before. Our guest in this episode, Ken Schafer, has dealt with ED himself, and along the way has become an expert on the subject who helps other men avoid some of the pitfalls he encountered. Ken’s website is https://www.h...

For the video of this episode, visit https://brucechalmer.com/satya-lila/ . What is sacred sex, and how can couples explore its possibilities? Our guest in this episode, Satya Lila, teaches about sacred sexuality, its benefits for individuals and couples, and techniques that help it happen. Satya’s website is https://satyalila.info/. Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to ht...

For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/tantra-katrina-bos/. When people hear “tantra,” at least in Western cultures, they usually think about techniques for mind-blowing sex. Our guest in this episode, Katrina Bos, does teach about tantric approaches to sex, but she recognizes that tantra is a spiritual path for living life in all its aspects, not just the sexual. Katrina po...