Conversations We Need To Have

In this episode, Andrea dives into one of the most personal and powerful topics in therapy — how we see ourselves. From the moment we wake up, we’re surrounded by messages telling us what our bodies should look like, how they should perform, and what’s “good enough.” It’s no wonder so many of us end up in battles with the mirror. Andrea explores how self-talk, body image, and self-compassion shape...

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In this episode, Andrea breaks down the science behind how your body keeps you safe — even before you realise it. We’re diving into The Polyvagal Theory, a simple but powerful way to understand why you sometimes feel calm, anxious, or completely shut down for “no reason.” Sources Polyvagal Theory in Therapy – Deb Dana The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory – Stephen Porges Hosted on Acast. See a...

In this episode, Andrea explores one of the hardest — but most important — conversations couples can have: how to overcome an affair. What counts as an affair? Why do they happen? And what does it really take to heal when trust has been broken? Affairs don’t always mean the end. For some couples, they become the start of something more honest, intimate, and real. Resource: After the Affair — Janis...

In this episode, Andrea breaks down one of the most popular — and often misunderstood — relationship concepts: love languages. We all give and receive love differently, yet many couples end up feeling unseen or unappreciated — not because love is missing, but because it’s being expressed in the wrong language. Andrea explores the five love languages — and explains how understanding both your own a...

In this episode, Andrea breaks down the myths around lubrication — because using lube isn’t a sign of a problem, it’s a sign of confidence and care. We cover: Why natural lubrication varies (and that’s normal) The best types of lube — and which to avoid How to use lube safely with toys and condoms Why flavoured and warming lubes can cause more harm than heat Why communication about comfort is the...

In this episode of Conversations We Need To Have , Andrea explores Attachment Theory and how our earliest relationships can influence the way we connect, communicate, and cope in adult relationships. From constantly seeking reassurance to pulling away when things feel too close, attachment patterns often show up in ways we don't immediately recognise. This episode breaks down the four main attachm...

Safer Sex Is Still Sexy In this episode, Andrea breaks down the myths, excuses, and outdated attitudes around condoms — and reminds us that protection is not up for negotiation. Its important because STI rates are rising and condom use is at an all-time low. Great sex is about communication, care, and consent — not risk. Resources: Sexwise UK – Condoms and Protection Brook.org.uk – Sexual Health E...

What Is Sex Therapy? Sex therapy. It sounds intimidating — clinical, serious, maybe even awkward. But in reality? It’s simply a safe, confidential space to talk about sex with a trained professional — without shame, pressure, or judgement. In this episode of Conversations We Need To Have, Andrea breaks down what psychosexual therapy actually is, who it’s for, and what really happens in a session....

In this opening episode, Andrea explores what we can learn from our primate cousins — bonobos and chimpanzees — and what their behaviour says about us. Chimps represent dominance, hierarchy, and power. Bonobos represent empathy, cooperation, and play. So what happens when we start leading our relationships — and our conflicts — more like bonobos? This episode sets the tone for the Conversations We...

Hi, I’m Andrea — a licensed professional counsellor specialising in relationship and psychosexual therapy. Before we dive in, there are a few important things I need you to know. I don’t know you personally, which means I’m not your therapist. Everything I share here is general information, not individual advice. I’m a licensed therapist — but I only provide therapy to my lovely clients here in Su...