Conversation with Batemates

In this episode, Dan opens up about his journey into bating — from online rooms to real-life experiences — and how it’s shaped his mental health, confidence, and sense of self. We talk community, kink, and what it really means to feel connected without shame.

In this episode, Johan and Mike dive deep into their journeys within the bator communities, exploring their experiences, community events, and the cultural dynamics they navigate as men of color. 

In this engaging conversation, Johan welcomes Will, new to the bator community, (but not to masturbation), discussing personal journeys, the importance of connection, and the dynamics of the Batemates app. Will shares his experiences with bating, the challenges of body positivity, and the significance of friendships formed within the community. They delve into the differences between bating and go...

In this episode, Johan and his guest explore the multifaceted world of bating, discussing personal journeys, the dynamics of long-distance relationships, and the differences between in-person and online experiences. They delve into the intricacies of edging, orgasm control, and the concept of ruined orgasms, while also highlighting the importance of educational spaces within the community. The dis...

In this episode, Johan and Scott dive into a candid conversation about identity, self-discovery, and the unique experiences within the bator community. Scott shares his journey of coming out, the challenges of embracing his true self, and the profound connections he's found through bating. They explore the dynamics of masculinity, the importance of community, and the joy of celebrating one&#39...

In this episode,  Neptune Simone  — Batemates team member and proud bator — opens up to  B8tem8te  about coming out as a bator to his life partner, introducing him to the practice, and navigating self-acceptance along the way. Together, they talk about finding happiness within the community, the early days of Batemates, and how the app continues to shape the bating world as it grows day by day.

In this conversation, Joel Benjamin discusses his journey in the world of Tantra, the significance of sexual energy, and the importance of mindful practices such as masturbation as a form of self-care....

In this episode, Nick Woof and B8tem8te discuss the evolution of the Bator Bro community from an online masturbation group as the BMC, to in-person events that foster deeper connections among participants. The conversation explores the structure of these events, the importance of creating a welcoming environment, and the unique experiences offered, such as the Tug Rug. The discussion also touches...

BatorBalm anyone? Few are the ones who have never heard of the famous masturbation grease in the Bator community. But do you know about Alex, its founder? In this episode, get the privilege to be a part of the journey of the man who created nothing but a pillar for the community, as he opens up about his personal struggles with shame and the role of supportive partnerships in his journey of entrep...

The hottest conversation on the podcast yet. You might wanna find yourself a confortable couch or bed to listen to this one bro cause things could get a little hard on your side once the conversation shifts from theory to practice. I mean..what could happen when 2 bators find themselves talking about bating and start hitting that bottle while putting their rings on? We’ll let you guess…Men will be...

Bros, it’s time we talk about HIV. I had the longest conversation to date on the Batemates podcast because there was so much to learn from JBator Goon about being open about one’s HIV status—and of course, lots of hot talk about kinks, poppers, rivalries, and the connection we all share as bators doing our best to respect everybody in our community. This one is good and interesting and important,...

In this episode, B8tem8te explores the meaning of gooning—both as a personal experience and a cultural expression within the bator community. Joined by Chris, a dedicated bator and online host, they dive into the significance of gooning, its impact, and what it represents for those who embrace it.

In this engaging podcast episode, host Simon interviews Johan, also known as B8tem8te, a product designer and passionate member of the bating community. Johan shares his personal journey with masturbation, discussing how it has provided him with control and self-discovery, especially after experiencing a toxic relationship. The conversation delves into the perceptions of the bating community withi...

In this engaging conversation, b8tem8te discuss the upcoming Batemates app, its features, and the excitement surrounding its launch. They delve into the importance of community within the bator world, exploring personal niches and the journey into gooning. The discussion highlights the vulnerability and self-exploration involved in gooning, as well as the impact of mainstream culture on this pract...

In this engaging conversation, SnifferBroSF shares his journey into the world of bating, discussing his experiences, kinks, and the importance of community. The dialogue explores the evolution of bating from high school to the pandemic, the mental and physical health benefits of masturbation, and the dynamics of relationships within the bating community. The conversation also touches on cultural p...

In this conversation, B8tem8te and BateBanditXL (X/Twitter) discuss their experiences with masturbation and the importance of community. They talk about how masturbation has evolved for them over the years and the role it plays in their sexual exploration and self-discovery as black men. BateBanditXL shares his journey into baiting and the significance of creating a community for bators of color a...

In this episode B8tem8te meets with Paxx and Dré (@Paxx_and_Dre on Twitter/X), a Bators couple as they openly discuss their experiences as both bators and partners. They talk about how they balance masturbation with their sexual life and the importance of open communication. They also share their personal journeys of discovering and embracing their identities as bators. The conversation explores t...

In this episode, B8tem8te and Unexpected Pig explore the therapeutic and meditative aspect of bating, while our guest opens up about the sensitive topic of being a bator in a relationship. They delve into balancing this aspect of themselves with intercourse in the relationship. This leads to a broader discussion on finding confidence and authenticity through bating, emphasizing the importance of c...

In this enlightening episode, join B8tem8te as he delves into an intimate conversation with DV, a seasoned Bator hailing from the icy expanses of Alaska. Together, they explore the compelling art of vocal expression during masturbation, revealing how the power of voice can not only guide but also intensify the experience. They share insights on fostering connections with fellow men through masturb...

In this compelling episode, b8tem8te sits down with Coolb8trr, for an enlightening conversation that delves into a range of topics surrounding Masturbation and self-identity. Together, they explore masturbation not only as a sexual act but as a journey of self-discovery and liberation. Matt shares his personal journey of overcoming addictions, highlighting the unexpected benefits of bating and the...