Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen

The episode delves into the idea of grace, drawing inspiration from a talk by Brad Wilcox titled "His Grace is Sufficient." Grace, as Heidi explains, is a gift given out of love, not fear or judgment, and it assumes worthiness without the need for earning it. She explores how grace applies to human relationships, emphasizing the importance of shifting our mindset towards others and ourselves. Heid...

Heidi Benjaminsen hosts "Confidence Coaching," a podcast aimed at supporting mothers in maintaining calmness and stability regardless of their surroundings. In Episode 174, titled "Building Core Confidence," Heidi shares a personal experience from a skiing trip in Austria to illustrate the importance of developing emotional resilience and stability. She describes how navigating challenging ski tra...

The fastest way to changing our life is SLOWING DOWN and examining situations we want to change.  When we pause and reflect on what we are thinking, we're able to change emotional patterns.  Our frustration, stress, and insecurity suddenly isn't needed because we see the situation from a different perspective. In episode 173 of Confidence Coaching, Heidi gives many examples from her own life of ho...

When we gain life experience, learn new information and see the perspective of how other people experience life, our opinions, our beliefs, our biases change.  Confident people WANT to change their minds over their lifetime.  To do so requires a lot of self-acceptance, integrity, discomfort, humility and emotional maturity. Our lower brains will resist us changing our opinions, for fear it means w...

As I end each year, I share with you important "thoughts" and beliefs that carried me through the year.  This year has been incredibly busy, and yet I've moved through the year without swirling chaos.  I've stayed anchored to what is most important and I've chosen how I want to feel and experience everything. Listen to hear how I've managed my thoughts around moving into a home and unpacking alone...

Tis the season to be invited to a lot of events, parties, gatherings, recitals, and more.  It feels great when we have the time and energy to say YES to as many things as we want.  There will come a time, though, when the best way to take care of our life, our lane, is to decline an invitation.  This may be uncomfortable - you and they may be disappointed you aren't able to attend.  Regardless of...

Overwhelm, stress, anxiety and worry are created when we're looking at a situation or person with the wrong perspective.  We may be too "zoomed out" and not seeing how to get anchored and calm, or we may be too "zoomed in" and not seeing the bigger picture with peace.   Listen to episode 169 to hear an important anchoring tool.  Learn questions to ask yourself to help your mind regain calm and con...

Gratitude does more than increase our dopamine and increase our mood, being grateful and expressing appreciation can heal our body and nervous system.  Gratitude is a super emotion that connects us to people, regulates our body and attracts more goodness into our life. Yet... expressing gratitude is a skill and muscle we can all build. Listen to Heidi describe how our brain and body might resist g...

We've all heard that the way we hold out body sends messages to other people about our confidence or insecurities, if we are open to conversation or want to be left alone.  Did you know our nervous system ALSO knows how WE are holding our body and ALSO sends signals of confidence or insecurity, of safety or danger? Listen to episode 167 of Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen as she teaches...

A teenager's body has wildly fluctuating hormones and moods that seem to hit the highs and lows like the world's best rollercoasters.  They can be angry, excited, anxious, nervous and happy all in a few minutes.  Just because THEY are on this ride does not mean WE need to be on the ride with them. In episode 166 of Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen, learn tips to stay anchored and calmly...

Life incudes loss and our teens need us to show them how to feel, process and manage deep sorry and grief.  Helping them learn to process this human emotion (and not avoid it), sets them up in life to know how to process, feel and handle the inevitable grief that that will encounter. Listen as Heidi shares five tips and tools to use as our teens experience grief and loss.  Our teens need us to val...

Recently I attended a funeral where I learned about early "chapters" in the life of a dear family member, whom I've only know in the last chapters of their life.  These remarks profoundly moved me and I wished I had known this person as a mother of teenagers, like I am now.  I wish I had seen us as more alike than I did.  Our lives are all a compilation of so many small little chapters and we ofte...

For good and bad, our teens know what we are thinking, what makes us happy and sad, what stresses and overwhelmed us, our beliefs and values and much more.  They "track" our body language, facial expressions, all of our non-verbal communication and they create mental "maps" that predict how we will act and react.  These survival skills are what humans do between each of our "lanes" - it is how we...

In a casual conversation recently, a friend and I were discussing how principles of thought work, emotional regulation and all things coaching have changed us.  My list continued to grow and I realized the changes are quite profound and touch every area of my life. I'm sharing with you in this episode the 17 ways coaching principles have changed my life.  A few include: My words and actions are a...

Confident people set their internal GPS and know what they "intend" to do in small and large daily tasks.  Confident people bring to their consciousness the purpose and desired result of time with their children, at work, relaxing, conversations.  Intensions can be to connect, to relax, anything.  Without know what we WANT, we're living on default and may, or may not, get where we want to go. List...

Our minds can easily spend time in the past and the future, two places where we have NO control.  By contrast, the present moment happening right NOW, is the only moment we can control and really experience life.   Listen as Heidi explains how she was present in her body and mind for a once-in-a-lifetime event last week with her family.  She shares how she managed her mind and allowed a lot of emo...

We take things personally (or are easily offended) when our brain thinks we are constantly being attacked.  We think there is danger in the words, actions and inactions of everyone around us.  Regardless of why we may take things too personally, it IS possible to become more confident, stronger emotionally. Listen to episode 159 of Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen to hear Heidi share ver...

We are responsible to express and take care of our own needs and wants - this is one of the core responsibilities we have in OUR lane.   Our confidence and personal power grows when we stop, ask ourselves what we need, are able to identify this need and then can fill the need - even if it requires asking for help.  We are always insecure, disempowered and will stay stuck if we're dependent on othe...

Our relationships with other people are actually much simpler to define than we are led to believe.  Because we cannot control the thoughts and feelings of another person, our relationship with them is based on these three aspects: What we think about the other person The stories we tell and imagine about what this person thinks about us What we think about ourselves All of these relationship buil...

The energy and emotions we carry with us are either repelling or attracting people.  Positive emotions like love, kindness, acceptance, peace, curiosity all send energy to the people we interact with that we value and like them.  Positive emotions send energy that the other person is doing okay. Negative emotions and energy such as worry, judgment, shame, assuming, criticism and perfectionism repe...

We all see the world through different and unique "lenses" formed by our life experiences, biases, strengths, weaknesses, race, and much more.  We see the world through our literal eyes and with our brain.  This lens is formed by basic beliefs we have about the world - such as that the world is safe place or is a dangerous place.  These beliefs can be changed just like lenses to glasses can be cha...

Corinne Crabtree is a phenomenal example of changing her confidence, her identity and pursuing her dreams.  She lost over 100 pounds and has kept it off for 15+ years and has built an 8-figure business helping other women break generational curses of health and wealth. Listen as Corinne shares with Heidi her courageous story, where her belief was when starting (she says it was a -10!) and how she...

In the third episode in this special Stay In Our Lane series, listen as Heidi explains what happens between our lanes, between people as we communicate, behave and show up in the world.  There is more than just one person being totally responsible for their emotions and not taking accountability for their influence on others. Heidi explains the Channel of Influence that runs between us and everyon...

In this special Stay In Your Lane series, Heidi explains foundational concepts that help us stay anchored and calm in our "own lane".  This happens when we understand what everyone else is responsible for in "their lane". Listen in episode 152 as Heidi discusses what everyone else in our life is responsible for and hear examples of how to get out of other people's lanes.  When we allow people to m...

Confidence is rooted in taking full responsibility for our life, or "our lane".  We are responsible to understand and manage our own thinking, feeling, doing and what we are creating.  These all create a "wheel" that is constantly directing and moving us in whatever direction WE move it.   Listen as Heidi begins a "Stay In Your Lane" series that explain newly updated foundation concepts and tools....