Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen

Loneliness isn't a flaw — it's a signal. A message from your nervous system saying: connection matters. When our kids launch and life shifts, our roles, routines, and nervous-system rhythms shift too. You can love this season and still feel the ache. Two things can be true. This episode breaks down what loneliness really means, why it shows up even when you're surrounded by people, and how to meet...

🎧 Episode 199 – Bittersweet Theme: 💫 Learning to honor and allow the emotion of bittersweet — the ache where joy 🌤️ and sadness 🌧️ intertwine. In this first episode of Heidi's Emotions Series , she explores one of life's most tender paradoxes — bittersweet — that space where the heart stretches between what was and what's becoming . 🕊️ Heidi shares personal stories of sending all three children...

🎙️ Episode 198: How Words Shape Us 🌱 The words we speak are not just descriptions—they're blueprints for the lives we're building. In this empowering episode, Heidi explores how the language we use daily plants seeds that shape our identity, relationships, and even what we believe is possible. Whether you're talking about yourself, your children, your future, or your bank account—your words are e...

🎙️ Ep 197 – How to Apologize 💛 Repairing Relationships with Confidence and Calm Apologizing isn't about shame or groveling — it's about emotional strength, humility, and staying grounded in discomfort. In this episode, Heidi breaks down how to make heartfelt apologies that build trust, not tension — and why this matters deeply for the emotional health of your family. You'll learn: 🧠 How real apo...

🎙️ Episode 196: Creating Connection 💞 In this heart-opening episode, Heidi explores what it really means to connect — not just with words, but with energy, presence, and intention. 💫 You'll learn: ✨ Why connection is an energy loop — and how we either open or close that loop 🐧 How penguins pebble and what that teaches us about human connection 📱 The subtle bids your kids, spouse, and friends...

💬 Episode 195: Self-Reflection with Grace What do you do when self-reflection stirs up guilt, shame, or regret? 😣 In this episode, Heidi walks you through how to face your imperfections with  compassion , truth , and grace — so your self-awareness actually leads to growth, not shutdown. 🌱 ✨ Learn why it's hard to see ourselves clearly 🛑 Understand how perfectionism and shame hold us back 🧠 U...

✨ NEW EPISODE! ✨ 🎙️  Ep. 194 - Two (Opposite) Things Can Be True Ever feel proud and heartbroken as your child leaves for college? Relieved and guilty for enjoying the quiet house? Worried and trusting all at once? 💡 You're not broken. You're human. And BOTH can be true. In this episode, I share: ✨ Why our brain resists emotional complexity 🧠 How to train your nervous system to hold two truth...

✨ NEW EPISODE! ✨ 🎙 Ep 193: The Power of Self-Reflection is LIVE! Ever blamed someone else… only to realize later you were the source of the problem? 😅💡 Yep, me too – and this week I'm sharing a funny lightbulb moment (literally 💡🌙) that reminded me just how powerful self-reflection is. Inside this episode: 🪞 How to tell if the "problem" is yours or theirs 🧠 Why self-reflection only works w...

🌟 New Podcast Episode: "Helping Kids Handle College Rejections" 🌟 Parents, are you navigating the emotional rollercoaster of college application season with your kids? This week's episode is for you! 🎧💬 Rejection letters can be tough, but they're also incredible opportunities for growth. In this episode, I share: ✅ How to support your child when they face rejection. ✅ Ways to help them proce...

🎙️ New Podcast Episode! 💡 Ep 191: Quieting the Commentators and Narrators Are you living your truth or letting the "commentators" shape your perspective? In this episode, I share lessons from the BYU-Alamobowl game, personal stories, and practical tools to help you: ✨ Distinguish between others' narratives and reality. ✨ Identify biases in yourself and others. ✨ Trust your intuition and mainta...

Key Message: How we give and receive energy are deeply connected - our ability to do one affects our ability to do the other effectively Key Points : • If you have trouble receiving help or gifts, you may unconsciously be:   - Limiting abundance in your life   - Blocking positive connections with others   - Judging others when you give help   - Teaching your children unhealthy patterns • Tips for...

Key Points: Host Heidi Benjaminsen discusses the importance of "quiet wins" - personal victories in emotional life and relationships that often go unnoticed These wins build confidence and strengthen family relationships, even when others don't explicitly acknowledge them Notable Quiet Wins Discussed: Staying calm and curious during difficult conversations, especially with children Not participati...

Uncertainty is the breeding ground for stress and anxiety.  But it is always about a future possible event, it isn't about the present. When our body feels uncertain, our nervous system works up into a tizzy to try to protect us from any future possible danger. Listen to episode 188 to hear Heidi teach you how to calm your nervous system so you can anchor back into the present.  Learn about: Belly...

Have you ever felt like you're butting heads with your strong-willed kid? Well, you're not alone!  Episode 187 shares some fantastic tips for dealing with those headstrong, independent-minded teens we all know and love. First off, let's celebrate these traits! Heidi reminds us that having a strong sense of self and the ability to think independently are actually superpowers. We're not trying to sq...

Hey there, moms! If you're getting ready to send your kid off to college, this episode of Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen is definitely for you. Heidi dives into understanding our nervous system and how it affects our emotions and reactions, especially during big life changes like your child leaving for college. She explains that our nervous system is like a background program constantl...

Episode 185 of Confidence Coaching focuses on achieving freedom from drama in life. The host, Heidi Benjaminsen, starts by defining drama as exaggerated behavior or reactions, often performed for others. She then outlines six key strategies to reduce drama in our lives . The first strategy is to create space for thinking and curiosity about situations and people's motives. This involves slowing do...

A friend told me she was sad and asked if she could call me.  Episode 184 is step by step how I validated, witnessed and helped her process her sadness. We will all feel sad, it is a normal human emotion. The skill of zooming in and seeing the sad is what helps all of us get to the other side of the sadness. Listen to hear what color her sadness was and where she felt it in her body. She now knows...

Our life made up for billions of moments/experiences and each experience has three layers: The actual experience. Our awareness of the experience. The story or meaning we create about the experience. Listen to episode 183 as Heidi Benjaminsen shares and breaks down several experiences of her life into these three layers. You'll learn that actual experiences only last a short period of time.  Heidi...

It sounds like a kind desire to have towards others - wanting them to be happy and feel good. This desire works... until it doesn't and this thought becomes toxic and creates stress (in us and them). And disconnects us from the people we love most who experience human and negative experiences. When others are sad, grieving, disappointed and more, they don't need us to tell them we really want them...

Humans are like magnets.  Something in our make-up attracts or repels certain people. I believe OUR VIBE or our energy attracts certain people, certain successes, and certain failures in our life. And our VIBE repels others. Our vibe includes our nervous system - how we hold our body, the words we use, our mannerisms, how we dress, act, don't act, how we talk about ourselves and others. This is th...

Because our brains are "wired" on default to look for the negative, feeling more joy in life isn't an automatic process. It requires focus and intention and practice.  First, we have to recognize what is STEALING our joy.  And neutralize these "joy thieves". Listen to a replay of episode 11 to hear the many human ways we all let joy be stolen from us. And hear Heidi explain HOW to increase our joy...

All moms worry if they are "good enough"; we are biologically wired to care about this. This "worry" becomes a problem when we look to our children or external factors to determine if we are good enough. It's an even bigger problem if we think we need to be "perfect". Listen to episode 179 to hear advanced certified life coach Heidi Benjaminsen discuss what makes us a good mom. When we think we ar...

Summary In this episode, I discuss the tendency common to everying - wishing others were different from who they are. It's something I've noticed in the people I coach, and it's a struggle I've faced in my own relationships with family and friends. Throughout the episode, I explore how these wishes create barriers between us and the people we care about, hindering our ability to truly understand a...

We all want to be liked.  It's a human survival desire. It feels good when people like us. BUT we all encounter people who don't like us.  Our brain thinks this is a problem.  This isn't a problem!   If someone likes us, this represents their brain and their lane - not us! Listen to this "best of" episode to learn how to manage what you think, feel and do when someone doesn't like you. Let other p...

Learning how to say no when someone requests something of us is a critical skill.  This skill anchors and steadies us as we stay in our lane and take more control of our life. Listen to episode 176 (a replay of episode 9) to learn: Importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing time Reasons why people struggle to say no Awareness of the consequences of saying yes to everything Strategies for po...