Confessions of a Recovering Micromanaging Perfectionist Martyr

Vacations are for letting loose, right? But what happens when our “vacation mode” habits take over—late nights, impulse buys, and ice cream for breakfast? This week, we’re embracing the chaos, silencing that inner critic, and exploring why giving ourselves permission to fully let go might actually help us appreciate life’s structure. Tune in for a dose of humor, honesty, and holiday vibes! JoinTea...

The holidays can be a whirlwind of to-dos, but what if we paused to ask: “What’s the most loving choice for me today?” This week, we’re diving into the art of balancing self-care with seasonal demands. From guilt-free gym skips to indulging in Christmas movies, it’s all about finding what feels best for you . Plus, a reminder about our favorite Confessions holiday—Fend for Yourself Day! Tune in fo...

Ever felt stuck in a situation where staying the course just doesn’t feel right? This week, we’re exploring the courage it takes to find and follow life’s exit ramps—especially in relationships. Whether you’re navigating a breakup, a divorce, or simply stepping into a new chapter, we’re talking about the power of saying no to make room for what’s next. Tune in to reflect, recharge, and rethink how...

Ever wondered why we’re still squeezing into the same bed when survival no longer depends on it? In this episode, we’re challenging sleep traditions and exploring how sleeping separately might actually save your sanity—and your relationship. From better rest to creative room makeovers, we’re diving into why breaking from tradition can be an act of self-care. Get ready to rethink how you rest and e...

In this quick confession, we’re diving into an Emerson quote that hits home: "What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say." It’s one I remind my kids of often, but today, I’m taking a closer look at my own actions, especially with the holidays approaching. Join me as I reflect on how to keep my words and actions aligned, soften those sharp edges, and make a little more r...

Why do family quirks still catch us off guard? This episode dives into the humor (and relief!) of letting go of surprise when loved ones show their “true colors.” Inspired by Dan Shay’s recent stories, we’re embracing family for who they are—quirks and all—just in time for the holidays. Join us for a lighthearted chat on how a small mindset shift can make family time feel easier and even more enjo...

Ever find yourself frustrated by the same things over and over? In this episode, Dan Shay, beloved teacher and fellow TeamConfessioner, shares a simple mindset shift he discovered on the golf course that helped him let go of frustration—even when things don’t go his way. Join us as we explore why letting go of “the surprise” can bring a little more calm and enjoyment to everyday life. It’s lighthe...

Do my worry-fueled warnings keep my kids safe—or just cynical? 🤔 In this episode, I’m digging into a mindset shift inspired by Hidden Brain and some eye-opening parenting moments. Join me as I weigh my “caution first” approach against my husband’s faith in the world, exploring how our views may shape more than we realize. It’s a lighthearted look at parenting, protection, and maybe trusting a lit...

Feeling the holiday pressure creeping in already? 🎄 In this episode, we're talking about the little things that turn holiday prep into holiday stress. From the “must-do’s” that don’t actually have to be done to finding simple ways to keep December as calm as possible, join us for laughs, honest confessions, and practical ideas to keep things festive—not frantic. This one’s for anyone who lov...

In this episode, I’m breaking down the sneaky ways I create my own stress—and how I’m working to stop it. From setting unrealistic deadlines to packing my schedule too tightly, I’ve discovered some surprising habits that turn simple tasks into stressful ones. Join me as I share tips on prioritizing what truly matters and how a bit of self-awareness has helped me reclaim more peace this season. Let...

In this episode, we dive into something we all face—mistakes! If perfectionism is wearing you down (whether it’s with yourself or others), this is an invitation to explore a lighter approach. We’ll chat about how shifting perspective can ease the frustration and bring a little more humor to everyday life. Let’s figure out how to be a little gentler, together. JoinTeamConfessions!

Feeling stuck in old habits? This week, we’re challenging the belief that “old dogs can’t learn new tricks.” Tune in as we explore how fear of change holds us back, and discover why embracing new tricks—at any age—can bring fresh energy and growth to your life. If you're ready to face fear and step into something new, this episode is for you. Let's learn to trust change and grow! JoinTea...

This week, as G-Man and I celebrate our 23rd anniversary, I’m reflecting on one of the core dynamics of our relationship: detail-oriented vs. get-it-done. Over the years, I’ve evolved from resenting my husband’s “70% is enough” approach to actually embracing it—and even learning from it! Join me as we explore how both perspectives add value in a relationship and the power of choosing the right app...

As our kids head off to college, I’m finding myself with more quiet moments and space to reflect on my own journey of "re-covering." This week, I’m sharing what it means to reclaim parts of myself that got buried under the demands of parenting. From dancing to yoga, I’m rediscovering activities that bring me strength, health, and peace. Join me as we talk about the power of prioritizing...

This week, I'm sharing a thoughtful piece from TeamConfessioner NiCole Schlagheck, a dear friend and mother of four. In her submission, NiCole reflects on the challenge of redefining herself as her kids grow more independent. She shares three insightful strategies for tackling life’s next chapter: Re-position, Re-ceive, and Re-define. Listen in to discover how NiCole is embracing change with...

In this episode, Brianna Scott shares her honest reflections on the evolving challenges of parenthood. From managing a household of four to navigating a busy work, school, and extracurricular schedule, she offers insight into the ever-changing pace of parenting. How do we adapt as parents when life doesn’t get easier, just different? Tune in for Brianna’s wisdom and stay for a preview of next week...

Ever feel behind before you’ve even begun? Same here. I’m kicking off Season Nine by sharing a letter I wrote to myself last October—a reminder not to let the back-to-school chaos set me into a spiral. In this episode, I reflect on the power of taking things slow, showing up (even if it’s not perfect), and cutting myself some slack as the fall routines kick in. Join me as we set a kinder, gentler...

Join us in taking a look back to a past episode of Confessions. Inspired by Monty Don’s gardening wisdom, this episode explores the idea of “watering” teens with just the right amount of guidance. Just as a tree grows stronger by reaching for water deep in the soil, kids develop resilience when given the space to make their own choices. Let’s talk about balancing support with trust, the importance...

Road trip clutter got you frazzled? In this episode, I’m sharing my struggle with keeping calm in the chaos of travel, and how controlling “the stuff” (instead of the people) helps me find a little peace. Join me as we look back to a post from 2017 as I reflected on letting go of my control cravings to find a new way to enjoy the ride—wrappers and all. 🚗 Learn more about our... TeamC Summer Submi...

Ever catch yourself asking family questions that sound helpful but come off as judgmental? This Thanksgiving flashback, I reflect on how shifting from “why” questions to “how do you feel” questions make all the difference in family harmony. Join me as I explore how showing trust and curiosity, instead of subtle criticism, opens the door to feeling truly connected. If you’re ready for a more peacef...

How do you balance showing up for loved ones with showing up for yourself? In this episode, we look back to I reflect on the annual choice to step away for a few days, even in the midst of life’s busy demands. Join me as I explore how learning to prioritize self-care has shifted my beliefs about love, presence, and missing important moments. Tune in for a fresh perspective on what it really means...

This episode is a look back to 2023 to “birthday week” and Confessions’ 6th Anniversary! This week, we celebrate the journey by looking at the power of planning and how it can transform our lives. From marriage to family life to personal growth, having a “Please Love and Nurture” Plan has helped me flow toward my goals without micromanaging every step. Join us as we discuss why planning is less ab...

Ever feel guilty about taking time for yourself? In this episode, we look back to a post I wrote in April of 2021. In it, I share a friend’s wisdom on self-care and guilt—and why it’s sometimes a sign you’re doing something right. We explore the idea that nurturing your own needs is essential, not selfish, and how modeling self-care can set a powerful example for our kids. Tune in for insights on...

If you're sending yourself negative messages to yourself through your thoughts all day, you're going to want to listen to this. ALSO, please push play to hear all about our exciting opportunity, TeamC Summer Submission Campaign ! And, please be sure to re-listen to the posts, Ambition & Ready or Not before your inner critic tries to take over what you know in your heart you want to d...

Ever been frustrated in a group setting because things didn’t go your way? I’ve been there too! This episode, I’m sharing how using a “group conscious” approach during our family gatherings has transformed my perspective. By balancing speaking up with letting go, I’ve learned how to support both the group’s needs and my own peace of mind. Join me to explore how taking responsibility in group setti...