Comfort’N Chats With Carnisha

There is no better time to heal than now. It’s easy to put off doing the inner work because it can be hard. There will be times when self reflection can seem brutal and discouraging. We can be our own worse critic but if your criticism is in a constructive way it can truly benefit you. Just make sure you’re not tearing yourself down to a place you can’t pull up from. The goal is to see, reflect, a...

When you realize the power of your thoughts you will start to be more intentional about guiding them. Your focus will be more on how they play a role in where you are in life. Are your thoughts encouraging, fostering creativity, bringing joy? Hold yourself accountable for the things you input into your mind which become your thoughts.

It is so important to recognize what things are causing us not to have good interactions with others. It could be feelings that we have towards them that we have not yet recognized or confronted within ourselves. This can create internal tension between us and them. Just because we’re not saying the things that bother us, doesn’t mean they are not coming out in our behavior towards the person. It’...

Relationships CAN be fickle but they do not have to be. When there is intentional effort to connect and make a commitment to be a good friend you will see a difference in that relationship. When you provide and receive genuine support it creates a solid foundation in your friendships. HOW friends show up matters to me. If you’re coming with the energy of not wanting to be present, stay home. Trust...

How you take care of yourself when you’re under stress can determine how you come out of these moments. When you do things that nourish your body it helps to endure these challenging times and can prevent mental and emotional breakdown. Don’t wait until you’re drowning. Use those life savers before you start to sink!

Often times there is upset and frustration regarding the expectations others place on us. Have you ever thought about the ways you may have contributed to these expectations? When you do not reveal all parts of yourself and only your representative, this creates a false narrative of who you are. It is your responsibility to show up authentically. It helps build genuine connections with others as w...

Are you able to describe the image you see of yourself? If you’re having a hard time answering this question I encourage you to do some self reflecting. Self reflecting helps you to evaluate why you function the way you do. There is always a “why” attached to your thought process and behavior you just have to figure out what it is. It’s time to unlearn what’s not healthy for you.

Saying good-bye can be hard. The good thing is, usually this means other opportunities to look forward to. Life goes on whether we are ready or not so, it’s better to do your best to embrace the changes. Self reflecting on the pros and cons of 2023 can help you continue to thrive on your life journey. Remember to give yourself and others grace as you take it all in and move forward. Saying goodbye...

Being in community with others and having a shoulder to lean on can do wonders for our well-being. I am a believer that two is better than one and three or more is even better! We are stronger in numbers and our strength combined can move mountains. So let’s us connect, uplift, and step in for one another. Let us challenge ourselves to help in any way we can.

Don’t let life get the final knock out keep going! You have every thing you need to push through every challenge you face. Be your own cheerleader and get back up. Keep your eyes on the prize and remember if you don’t give up there is a great reward at the end. So hang in there!

How you discover yourself makes a difference in how you show up in the world. Being eager to learn new things about yourself, no matter what age or experiences you’ve had in life thus far. It’s good to keep an open mind to explore different things and embrace the unknowns verses avoiding them. As the saying goes, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right? Of course without putting yourself i...

Strengthening your mental capacity is not about being tough. It is about gaining self-awareness to break down barriers to change unwanted behaviors and attitude towards situations. It takes constant work on yourself as you navigate life and challenging situations that may come along the way.

There are many things that could be hindering your move forward with personal goals. Identifying these stumbling blocks are a great start to move them out of the way to get going. Don’t let your fears of not knowing where to start or being 100% prepared for what’s to come stop the process of you becoming better!

We have all heard the saying love is a beautiful thing. Sometimes it does not feel that way after a break up. But don’t allow this chapter to stop you from experiencing healthy companionship. Do your best to heal by embracing the hard feelings and emotions so you can move forward and love again. You can still have your happily ever after with love.

Consistency is an important part of our journey and can be defined in a way that helps to take ownership of our future. Changing your narrative of what consistency looks like can help you stay on track with being more disciplined and responsible in achieving your goals.

We all have barriers we are facing or have faced in our life. This is real for most of us and it definitely impacts how we show up in the world. It is not easy challenging today’s norm of being placed in a box and being shamed when refusing to remain within the walls others have created to keep you in a space to make them feel safe. The good thing is, God is the Author and the Finisher of your lif...

We often focus on the thoughts and opinions of others but what if it is you who is in your head causing confusion and chaos? Sometimes it can be hard to admit and even recognize that you are responsible for holding yourself back with negative self talk creating lack of self confidence. The good thing is, You can also change this. First by speaking positively to yourself and then taking action for...

We have all come across someone who needed help finding their way. Maybe they were knocked down really hard by life and can’t seem to get back up. Supporting someone in a low place can be difficult. There may be few who will stay until the end to help see the person through. It takes empathy and compassion to stay with a person who is struggling but your presence maybe all this person needs to pus...

Unexpected moments will surely come so how will you handle them? No need to make quick decisions take your time. Allow yourself time to approach the uncertainty with an open mind. Be brave and confident in taking on the challenge. When you embrace these moments verses avoid them, it teaches you how to bounce back after difficult things.

Dealing with life challenges can be so hard and when you throw emotions in there, it can become even more challenging. When life is life-ing, who can you go to to process what you are going through? Processing challenges in a safe place can make a great impact on how you overcome struggles. Emotional support is just as important as someone physically being present. I encourage you to identify thos...

There are times when we all get overwhelmed with life. The weight of responsibilities and expectations become so heavy that even those who were able to carry a lot have to put some things down. Its okay, it happens to even the best. Best meaning, you have succeeded in so much and usually taking it all on is no big deal. Until it is. Don’t worry, you are still the Best! 

It is true that we are all beautiful in our own way. We all bring different things to spaces with our  beauty that comes from within. No woman is more or less based on the color of her skin. Your identity is unique. And because of this make up, when we come together as women, we can accomplish most things. 

It’s Black History Month! So I would like to focus on black women as we continue talking about All women issues. I want to encourage black women to make self-awareness a priority so that you may walk boldly in your authenticity. You Are The Bomb! So don’t let anyone tell you differently. Take pride in the makeup of YOU! You are one of a kind. Think It, Say It, and Believe It. Remember that You Are...

There is nothing wrong with claiming what is yours. I encourage you to reach for the stars and Go For It! Whatever it is, stand firm in your ability to obtain it. You can conquer anything you put your mind to as long as you have the will to do It. What is for you is only for YOU. You will not have to beg for it, chase it, or over extend to get it. You are simply making your efforts intentional in...

Trials are life lessons. Not intended to be lifelong setbacks or barriers to keep you from moving forward. We are to find ways to move through them. When we decide that change is needed and we want it to take place, we become motivated to make it happen. Change may not be easy but it is definitely necessary for growth. You may stumble and that’s okay. What is more important is that you keep going....