Comfort’N Chats With Carnisha

Sometimes the roles women take on overshadow other things in our life like prioritizing ourselves. Reconnecting with who you are outside of your roles helps you learn who you are as a woman outside of these things. It can help you prioritize taking care of yourself too. Self-care is one way to take breaks when you need them and to focus on just you. Re-learning yourself is like dating you to find...

Connections can be a good thing. It depends on how you view connections and who you are connected to that shapes your experience. When you find an uplifting community it can be a positive thing in your life. Christmas may be over but let’s continue the season of giving and sharing. As we enter into the new year, let’s focus on being in community with one another. Remember that we are stronger...

Remember the song that says Friends, How Many of Us Have Them? That’s a good question. I often think are friendships even valued now-a-days. I hear so many phrases like no new friends and boasts about not needing friends. It makes me wonder what experiences were had or not had in friendships for people to feel this way. I think we can sometimes focus so much on the type of friend others are, we ar...

It’s good to recognize what we are bringing to relationships. Take inventory of your energy and the vibe you are giving off when connecting with others. Do a feelings and emotions check on yourself to see what space you’re in. We are about building and uplifting. Use this season of giving and serving to represent that well. 

No one said giving grace to others would be easy. It is actually challenging most of the time if our focus is on whether or not a person is deserving of it. When we start taking on the responsibility of determining whether or not grace should be given, we are putting in more work than needed. Just Give It. You’ll reap the blessings in return. I’m sure we could all think of a time or two when we we...

It’s easy to get into the habit of hustling. Especially when you have goals to achieve. There are ways to get things done without getting caught in the cycle of hustling. It’s OK to level up and work hard. Just try to find balance so you are not always grinding. Burnout is real and you don’t want to exhaust yourself to the point of breaking down. Find your pace and see it through. There may be a l...

Life gets hard and sometimes we question how we got to where we are. It may even cause you to doubt what you know to be true about yourself. Affirm yourself so that you may see the great woman that you are. Don’t let your light dim. Find the fuel to keep the fire going. We have to push through the barriers that stand in our way. Your care for others matters. Never take for granted that You Are One...

It is so easy to get caught up in your day to day that you don’t realize the chaos you are co-signing on. Sometimes we create these dysfunctional patterns because they have helped to get things done, right? Therefore, it’s easy to rationalize doing things in this manner because of the mindset of the good outweighing the bad. Sometimes the negative impact can be minimal but that doesn’t mean it doe...

We are not encouraged often to show our True Colors. We are often encouraged to adapt to our environment verses being who we really are. I am giving you a pass today to show up in All spaces as your authentic self Unapologetically. No more hiding behind the person you have created to survive. There is a time for change and there is a time to be content. You are enough. Learn to embrace All parts o...

Women can be known for putting others in check. What if you’re the one who needs checking? I know we would like to think we don’t need it but girlfriend you are not exempt. A part of growth is being able to listen and take critique from others. Put your big girl pants on and take it like a champ. 

There is absolutely no need to bare hard things alone. We all need help at some point in our lives. Be courageous and ask for help when needed. There is no “strong independent women” award valuable enough to take on life alone. Let’s not be empowered by not asking for help. 

I would love for us even as strangers to be our sister’s keeper. We are all sisters, we all benefit when we are able to show up for one another as women. Can you imagine what would happen if we as women created a safe space for other women to be vulnerable and share things we struggle with without the side eye? Let’s commit to being that safe space. Let us keep the positive energy flowing between...

Check out this episode where I’m sharing ways you can hold yourself accountable to change. Often times we are holding others accountable for their actions and behaviors but not our own. This is very easy to do taking the focus off ourselves and acknowledging the way WE show up. Accountability goes both ways. Be mindful of undesirable behaviors like lashing out when the heat rises in situations. Th...

When looking in the mirror what do you see? Do you see a beautiful and intelligent woman? I hope you see a woman who is fierce and bold in her being. Accepting ALL parts of you is a powerful thing. When you learn to embrace yourself in a healthy way it makes life‘s journey so much easier. So why complicate things? Let’s be intentional about how we care for ourselves. Take the responsibility of pou...

One of the most intimate forms of love is self-love. It is the most genuine and unmatched love. Unfortunately it is sometimes the form of love we lack the most. As women it is so important to have self-compassion and love ourselves as we do others. Self-care is one of the ways to pour back into you. Also accepting all parts of you the good, bad, and ugly. Learn to be unapologetic about who you are...

Often times as women we are so wrapped up in busyness we do not take the time to stop and rest. Rest is not a luxury it is Essential for physical and mental wellness. Take the time to recognize when you are overwhelmed and evaluate if this is a time to push through or rest and reset. You must take care of yourself or else you will find yourself mentally and physically drained. You cannot help anyo...

Often times as women we are so busy taking care of others that we forget to take care of ourselves. It is not often that we get to authentically talk about how this impacts us mentally. The guilt and shame that is often felt when we feel like we are not measuring up to the Superwoman image society has created for us. Some of us have created this for ourselves. Know that you are still strong when y...