Come To Bed

If you don't make your own meaning about sex, it'll be made for you. (And often, that meaning is not one that is helpful or leading to more fulfilment!) From navigating intimacy as youths to community influence, media consumption and our lack of consciousness in an AI era, our mindset is sneakily shaped by our experiences. Let's talk about how to redefine sex for ourselves to actually start enjoyi...

It's my birthday! Since I'm turning 32, I want to celebrate with a little chit-chat about 32 things that are top of mind for me lately. From moaning and queer sex, to libido and communication about intimacy, this is a speed round of bite-sized advice and observations that I hope will inspire even more reflection within yourself long after listening!  Mentioned in episode: Waitlist for Vibes Not Vi...

Your libido isn't broken, babe. Instead of thinking of it as a fixed trait or something we cannot change, here's a new way to approach your libido to rewrite your identity around it! Email me here for 1 of the 3 free Breakthrough Sessions mentioned in this episode: hello@cometobedsarah.com   Or message me on Instagram at @cometobedbysarah Download the free Desire Menu now and start building your p...

If knowledge is power, this stuff is going to supercharge you. Learn more about the true size and functions of the clitoris to tap deeper into your pleasure, dust off centuries-old shame, and get new ideas for further exploration. Mentions: My Unlocking O's Guide 2001 orgasm gap study:  Understanding orgasmic frequency: A case of Finland 2022 New York Times piece: Half the World Has a Clitoris. Wh...

Are you having enough sex? What does "enough" even mean? Despite what Google or your best friend may tell you, there isn't one answer to this question—only a correct answer that is unique to you. In this episode, I chat you through some questions that'll help determine what "enough" sex means for you and why you may be feeling distress over this in the first place.  ~ Come To Bed dives into conver...

This is for my stubborn babes. Look, I love our feistiness but we have to be real about the damage it can have on our relationships! Listen for an actionable tip you can use in these moments. We unpack why this is unhealthy, some of the reasons we may be having an intense reaction, and how to bring our partners in on helping us shift it. You got this! ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around...

When it comes to a topic as vulnerable as sex, it's critical not to make assumptions. To remember that 1+1 doesn't always equal 2. When things don't go as expected or uncomfortable emotions bubble up, lead with curiosity instead of panic or disappointment towards partners.  If not, we can start to form blocks and doubts within our intimate relationships. These are trickier to overcome than the ini...

This is for manifestation babes and skeptics alike. These practical tips will help you become more aligned with your desired relationship so you can actually step into it.  After all, manifestation is not just wishful thinking. It is about embodying small changes to reach new outcomes!  ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the...

If you've been grinding too hard to experience pleasure lately, this is for you. TLDR: In order to feel like a sensual being, you need more being. And less doing.  I can already feel your resistance to slowing down, but just press play and hear me out. ;) We're in this together.   ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relat...

Why can there be so much resistance around using lube during play? Let's unpack many of the reasons we may need it, lubrication's relationship to arousal, how to decide which lube to use, and more.   ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly—the relationship with ourselves! We'll unpack how to build and nourish our intimacy identit...

Isn't it wild that orgasms are so taboo and we received no education about them yet...it's so often considered a failure to not have them? There are way too many "shoulds" when it comes to orgasms so let's poke holes in a few of them. I hope this episode helps you feel lighter and feel less pressure around reaching an O during intimacy!   ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and...

Moving in with partners can be an amazing experience but...when it's not? It's often due to a combination of factors in this episode!  If you've been flirting with the idea of coexisting, here are some considerations to help you feel more grounded in your decision—whatever it ends up being. ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengthening our relationships. Most importantly...

We've probably all heard of how social media can affect relationships when it comes to wandering eyes or betrayals of trust but...why is there such little discussion around how it can affect relationships on a subconscious level? This episode is a reminder that social media is a machine which runs on extremes—which can vastly skew our perspectives on intimacy and relationships if we're not careful...

In this quickie, I ask 4 questions for you to reflect on that can help you gain a deeper understanding of your relationship with sex. Our beliefs shape our reality (and especially our intimate partnerships) so it can be really beneficial to feel connected to our foundation. This helps us grow in intimacy whether it's solo or partnered. Please note that while I do give my own responses after each q...

Calling all HSPs and people who love them! If you identify as an HSP or resonate with some of the traits, this episode may feel familiar to you. Because of our high sensitivity, there are commonalities we share when it comes to how we experience intimacy and some of them can be frustrating to manage.  For instance, why does it take so much to calm our bodies and feel pleasure? Why do emotions come...

The goal of this short meditation is not necessarily to have an orgasm, but to help build and recognize sensations in your body! There is absolutely no pressure to achieve any outcome here. This practice can help you become more familiar with how it feels to build this energy so it can be recalled again for future experiences.  ~ Come To Bed dives into conversations around intimacy and strengtheni...