Alyssa Zander

Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

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Codependency Alchemy is a space for healing codependency through shadow work and inner child healing. Join Alyssa for the vulnerable conversations, personal stories, and hard truths that help you reclaim your voice, set soul-aligned boundaries, and create relationships rooted in self-trust and authenticity. alyssaaazander.substack.com

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Alyssa Zander

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Society

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alyssaaazander.substack.com

Latest episode

Jul 8, 2026

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Episodes

Am I still loved if I say no? 23.07.2025

Do you feel guilty or afraid to say no—even when your body says you’re at capacity? In this episode I guide Hannah through healing the fear that setting boundaries might lead to rejection or losing the connections and community she’s built and grown for herself. Together we explore how people-pleasing patterns stem from the mother wound, and how to reconnect with the inner child who learned it was...

3 questions to unblock the part of you that’s afraid to let go 16.07.2025

Ever feel like no matter how much healing work you do, something still keeps you stuck? In this episode, we’re exploring the hidden blocks that sabotage your growth, steal your peace, and keep you spinning in old patterns—even when you’re trying so hard to move forward. I’ll walk you through 3 powerful questions that will help you identify what’s really in the way, where it came from, and how to g...

Afraid of making the wrong choice in love? 09.07.2025

Do you ever spiral over whether you’re making the “right” choice in your relationship? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy , I guide Julie—a brave member of our membership community—through a powerful healing session exploring the fear of choosing wrong in love. Together, we unpack the inner conflict between her craving for connection and her fear of repeating painful patterns. Through shadow...

8 lessons that changed my relationships forever 02.07.2025

Are you tired of doing all the work in your relationship—or wondering why healing still feels so triggering, even with a good partner? In this raw and honest episode of Codependency Alchemy , I share the eight biggest lessons I’ve learned in my 30s that completely transformed how I show up in love. From fixating on my partner’s healing journey to weaponizing my love language, to learning how to ho...

Why your nervous system craves unhealthy relationships 25.06.2025

Do you feel physically pulled back into relationships you know aren’t healthy, even when you’re committed to healing? In today’s powerful episode, I guide Sarah—a member of the Codependency Alchemy community—through shadow work and inner child healing to uncover why her nervous system feels addicted to chaotic relationships. We explore the hidden reasons behind why we chase unhealthy connections,...

Boundaries crossed? How to repair family conflict with grace 18.06.2025

Do you struggle with setting boundaries in your family—or find yourself triggered when those boundaries get ignored? In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of setting and enforcing a boundary with my grandma, and the powerful process of repairing after a rupture. You'll learn why boundaries aren't about controlling others but taking responsibility for our own emotional safety,...

Why healthy relationships still trigger you (& that's OK!) 11.06.2025

Do you hold yourself and your partner to unrealistic expectations, believing healthy relationships should never feel triggering or difficult? In this intimate session, I guide a member of the Codependency Alchemy community, through shadow work and inner child healing to explore her anxieties around relationship triggers, unmet expectations, and fears of being alone. We uncover the root causes behi...

Mastering Boundaries: How to set and actually enforce them 04.06.2025

Do you struggle to set boundaries—or feel defeated when they're ignored? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy , I dive deep into the true meaning of setting boundaries, breaking common misconceptions, and offering a practical three-step framework you can start using immediately. Through relatable stories from my own life and our community, we'll explore how boundary-setting can initially feel u...

The practice I use when codependency creeps in (and how you can try it too) 30.04.2025

Have you ever wondered why you keep getting triggered by the same things — even after all the journaling and self-awareness? In this episode, I share the simple guided practice that’s helped me (and hundreds of clients) begin to truly heal codependency using shadow work, somatics, and inner child healing. You’ll learn how to meet core wounds with compassion, curiosity, and presence. We’ll walk thr...

Breaking patterns of people-pleasing & self-abandonment 23.04.2025

Do you carry guilt from past self-abandonment or struggle deeply to forgive yourself for not holding boundaries? In this heartfelt episode of Codependency Alchemy , I guide a member from our membership— who's been on her recovery journey for over two decades—through shadow work and inner child healing. Together, we explore her patterns of people-pleasing, self-harm, and difficulty setting boundari...

Compassionate parenting for raising confident children 16.04.2025

Am you parenting from a place of punishment, or are you guiding your child toward autonomy, self-respect, and healthy emotional expression? In this episode, I share my insights as a M.Ed and Montessori educator on how to foster respect, emotional resilience, and healthy boundaries in children. I discuss practical strategies to prevent people-pleasing behaviors, handle challenging moments through p...

Attracting unavailable partners? How to break unhealthy relationship patterns 09.04.2025

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, struggle with feeling abandoned, or constantly doubt your own judgment in relationships? In this episode, I guide Sierra, a member of our Codependency Alchemy community, through a powerful healing process after a painful breakup. Sierra openly shares her experience navigating feelings of abandonment, betrayal, and shame after a promising rel...

Conscious Clearing: How to repair after conflict 02.04.2025

Have you ever felt lingering tension in a relationship—like unspoken resentment, fear, or anxiety creating distance between you and your partner? In this episode, I dive into conscious clearing , a practice that helps clear unresolved conflict and deepen connection. Rather than seeing conflict as something to avoid, I reframe it as an opportunity for growth, intimacy, and repair. I break down the...

When you're unhappy but scared to leave 26.03.2025

Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship, unsure if you should stay or walk away? In this week’s session episode, T, a member of the Codependency Alchemy community, comes to the call seeking clarity about whether her relationship is still aligned. But what emerges is something deeper—a lifelong pattern of feeling responsible for the care and well-being of others, rooted in childhood parentificat...

When anxiety hits: Tending to the parts that need you 19.03.2025

Do you ever feel anxious but can’t quite pinpoint why? In this podcast live episode I am sharing my personal experience of navigating discomfort and anxiety, walking you through my process of identifying triggers and reflecting on the frustration of revisiting the same wounds. We’ll talk about the importance of self-compassion in the healing journey, and practical ways to tend to intrusive thought...

Healing the Fear of Being Seen 12.03.2025

Do you ever feel afraid of being truly seen? In this episode, Amba, a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership shares her transformative journey from seeking external validation to embracing self-love and inner trust. After reconnecting with her ex following deep inner work, she reflects on how she is struggling with fears of judgment and being seen in her work. Through a shadow work and in...

Navigating Tantrums: Emotional regulation for parents and children 05.03.2025

Do you feel overwhelmed when your child has a tantrum? In this episode, we break down the natural cycle of tantrums—beginning, middle, and end—and explore why they are a healthy release of pent-up emotions. We discuss how children attune to parent’s nervous system, the importance of regulating your own emotions, and practical techniques to help children (and adults!) process their feelings. By doi...

Shadow work for unlocking fears around your desires 26.02.2025

Ever feel like your dreams are just out of reach, especially when the fear of failure or embarrassment keeps holding you back? In this episode, Assisi from our Codependency Alchemy membership shares how our recent Shadow Work Sunday Chat 💬 helped her start questioning her career path and the deeper desires she’s been suppressing. We dive into a shadow work and inner child healing to help her tend...

Overcoming limiting beliefs and embracing your desires 19.02.2025

Have you ever felt weird about being happy that you totally self-sabotage it with limiting beliefs that make you spiral in fear or doubt? In this live episode hosted on Substack, I share about a moment of joy that took a quick turn into self-doubt and fear of judgment. After celebrating a big win, I found myself spiraling with thoughts that completely knocked me off the joy high I was riding. Toge...

Overcoming intrusive thoughts and self-sabotage 12.02.2025

Do you struggle with intrusive thoughts about your partner's past or find yourself self-sabotaging when things feel too good? In this episode, a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership shares her journey of recognizing codependency after a self-sabotaging moment during the holidays. Together, we explore the fears of not being "enough," the challenges of embracing happiness, and the power o...

Needs, wants, and desires: The missing piece in relationship communication 05.02.2025

Have you ever felt like your partner just doesn’t get what you need? Maybe you’ve asked for something (more than once!) and felt crushed when they didn’t follow through. It’s frustrating, right? In this episode, we’re diving into the tricky—but super important—difference between needs, wants, and desires in relationships. I’ll share some hard-won lessons about what’s really hiding underneath those...

Feeling invisible: Inner child healing for belonging and self-worth 29.01.2025

In this episode I guide Jo, a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership, through a session of shadow work and inner child healing to address feelings of invisibility and unworthiness within her partner’s family. Together, we explore the emotional impact of being unseen, create a safe space for Jo's inner child, and discuss practical ways to integrate this work into daily life. This episode i...

Navigating intimacy in relationships 22.01.2025

In this live episode, I share my personal journey of rebuilding trust and navigating intimacy in relationships. We’ll explore the challenges of physical intimacy, the importance of self-validation, and how inner child work can transform triggers into opportunities for growth. This episode is for anyone who: * Struggles with vulnerability and fears rejection in relationships. * Finds physical intim...

Overcoming relationship anxiety: navigating intimacy through shadow work 15.01.2025

Do you ever feel anxious or inadequate in your relationship, especially when intimacy isn’t present? In this episode, I guide a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership through the shadow work and inner child healing to uncover the core wounds that are fueling her fear of failure in love (specifically around intimacy, or lack of). Together, we work to validate her inner child, release the n...

When you feel dismissed in your relationship 08.01.2025

Have you ever felt dismissed or unseen by your partner, especially during stressful times like the holidays? In this episode, I share real-life moments from my relationship with Justin, unpacking the triggers that surfaced during our trip home. Through shadow work and inner child healing, I reconnected with my younger self, gained clarity on my needs, and approached the conflict with more compassi...

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