Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

Do you ever notice how one small trigger can send you into a full-blown spiral? Maybe your partner takes too long to text back, or a conflict makes you think the relationship is doomed and suddenly you’re catastrophizing, overthinking, or blaming yourself. In this episode of Codependency Alchemy , I walk you through my 3-step “Stop the Spiral” framework (Root, Regulate, Redirect) to help you come...

Do you ever feel like it’s your job to make your partner (or kids, or parents) feel better when they’re upset? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, we explore the codependent pattern of taking responsibility for someone else’s emotions and how it leaves you feeling resentful, anxious, and disconnected from yourself. I share how to shift from fixing their discomfort to creating safety within yo...

Do you ever notice how even when you know something isn’t working — the job, the relationship, the habit — you still put off making the change? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I share what I’ve been navigating around stepping away from being the “fixer,” why we cling to what feels familiar even when it drains us, and how to use shadow work and inner child healing to move through the fear...

A year ago today, Justin and I got kicked off a flight, and what could have been a total meltdown moment turned into one of the biggest relationship lessons of my life. Over pints in the Amsterdam airport, I realized I’d been carrying the same fear in new clothing and it was quietly robbing me of experiencing the love I already had in my relationship. In this episode, I share the full story and th...

Do you ever wonder why you still feel triggered, even in a healthy relationship? In this live episode of Codependency Alchemy , I share what I’ve been navigating with my partner around boundaries, conflict, and the uncomfortable truth that our partners can’t always meet us the way we want. We explore what to do when one person needs space and the other wants resolution now, why codependency pulls...

Are you in the middle of heartbreak, doubting yourself, or terrified of being “too much” for others? In this intimate session episode of Codependency Alchemy , I guide a member through shadow work and inner child healing as she moves through fresh breakup grief, religious trauma, and the fear of disappointing others. Together, we uncover how old wounds show up in relationships, how to set boundari...

Are you tired of sharing your feelings only to be met with blame-shifting, minimization, or deflection? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy , I break down what’s really happening when your partner won’t hear you and how to stop silencing yourself just to keep the peace. We’ll explore why invalidation feels so triggering, the role of self-abandonment, and the four key steps to shift the dynamic...

Please listen to this episode with care, and caution. It may be triggering for people who experienced sexual abuse and trauma. I trust and honor your autonomy. This is the final episode in my four-part Camino series— and it’s the one that scared me the most to record, not because of the conversation with my dad, but because a lot of people don’t understand our relationship. In this conversation wi...

This is part three of my four-part Camino series — and I’m not going to lie: this was the hardest conversation I’ve ever had in my life. In this episode, I sit down with my mom to talk about the moment on the Camino when I finally told her the truth— the truth about how her choices impacted me, how much I’d been holding in, and how often I’d protected her feelings instead of honoring my own. It wa...

This is part two of my four-part Camino series— where I’m sitting down with the people I love most to talk about the moments that changed everything. In this episode, I’m joined by my brother to talk about a pattern we didn’t even realize we were stuck in for years: me always trying to help, support, and take care of him… and how this codependent dynamic was negatively impacting our relationship....

Nine years ago, I walked the Camino de Santiago— thinking I was just going on an adventure with my little brother. But what I found on that path was something I didn’t expect: the truth about the role I was playing in my family’s pain. This is the first episode in a special 4-part series where I’m sharing the moments that changed my life and my relationships forever. In this one, I talk about thre...

What do you do when your partner says something in a fight that really hurts ? In this episode, I respond to a Codependency Alchemy member who felt deeply disrespected during an argument with their partner and doesn’t know what to do next. They didn’t want to shut down, fight back, or threaten the relationship… but they also knew they deserved more care and respect. We talk about: * How to respond...

Do you feel guilty or afraid to say no—even when your body says you’re at capacity? In this episode I guide Hannah through healing the fear that setting boundaries might lead to rejection or losing the connections and community she’s built and grown for herself. Together we explore how people-pleasing patterns stem from the mother wound, and how to reconnect with the inner child who learned it was...

Ever feel like no matter how much healing work you do, something still keeps you stuck? In this episode, we’re exploring the hidden blocks that sabotage your growth, steal your peace, and keep you spinning in old patterns—even when you’re trying so hard to move forward. I’ll walk you through 3 powerful questions that will help you identify what’s really in the way, where it came from, and how to g...

Do you ever spiral over whether you’re making the “right” choice in your relationship? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy , I guide Julie—a brave member of our membership community—through a powerful healing session exploring the fear of choosing wrong in love. Together, we unpack the inner conflict between her craving for connection and her fear of repeating painful patterns. Through shadow...

Are you tired of doing all the work in your relationship—or wondering why healing still feels so triggering, even with a good partner? In this raw and honest episode of Codependency Alchemy , I share the eight biggest lessons I’ve learned in my 30s that completely transformed how I show up in love. From fixating on my partner’s healing journey to weaponizing my love language, to learning how to ho...

Do you feel physically pulled back into relationships you know aren’t healthy, even when you’re committed to healing? In today’s powerful episode, I guide Sarah—a member of the Codependency Alchemy community—through shadow work and inner child healing to uncover why her nervous system feels addicted to chaotic relationships. We explore the hidden reasons behind why we chase unhealthy connections,...

Do you struggle with setting boundaries in your family—or find yourself triggered when those boundaries get ignored? In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of setting and enforcing a boundary with my grandma, and the powerful process of repairing after a rupture. You'll learn why boundaries aren't about controlling others but taking responsibility for our own emotional safety,...

Do you hold yourself and your partner to unrealistic expectations, believing healthy relationships should never feel triggering or difficult? In this intimate session, I guide a member of the Codependency Alchemy community, through shadow work and inner child healing to explore her anxieties around relationship triggers, unmet expectations, and fears of being alone. We uncover the root causes behi...

Do you struggle to set boundaries—or feel defeated when they're ignored? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy , I dive deep into the true meaning of setting boundaries, breaking common misconceptions, and offering a practical three-step framework you can start using immediately. Through relatable stories from my own life and our community, we'll explore how boundary-setting can initially feel u...

Have you ever wondered why you keep getting triggered by the same things — even after all the journaling and self-awareness? In this episode, I share the simple guided practice that’s helped me (and hundreds of clients) begin to truly heal codependency using shadow work, somatics, and inner child healing. You’ll learn how to meet core wounds with compassion, curiosity, and presence. We’ll walk thr...

Do you carry guilt from past self-abandonment or struggle deeply to forgive yourself for not holding boundaries? In this heartfelt episode of Codependency Alchemy , I guide a member from our membership— who's been on her recovery journey for over two decades—through shadow work and inner child healing. Together, we explore her patterns of people-pleasing, self-harm, and difficulty setting boundari...

Am you parenting from a place of punishment, or are you guiding your child toward autonomy, self-respect, and healthy emotional expression? In this episode, I share my insights as a M.Ed and Montessori educator on how to foster respect, emotional resilience, and healthy boundaries in children. I discuss practical strategies to prevent people-pleasing behaviors, handle challenging moments through p...

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, struggle with feeling abandoned, or constantly doubt your own judgment in relationships? In this episode, I guide Sierra, a member of our Codependency Alchemy community, through a powerful healing process after a painful breakup. Sierra openly shares her experience navigating feelings of abandonment, betrayal, and shame after a promising rel...

Have you ever felt lingering tension in a relationship—like unspoken resentment, fear, or anxiety creating distance between you and your partner? In this episode, I dive into conscious clearing , a practice that helps clear unresolved conflict and deepen connection. Rather than seeing conflict as something to avoid, I reframe it as an opportunity for growth, intimacy, and repair. I break down the...