Closeness

Every woman wants to be the best he's ever had, and almost none of them have ever been told how — because the one person who could give them a straight answer, their partner, has quietly learned to keep his mouth shut. In this episode of Closeness, I explain why that silence exists and then give you ten practical, do-it-tonight ways to become exactly that. The silence isn't an accident. There are...

Sex after marriage is one of the most searched and least honestly discussed topics in relationships — and after nearly a decade sitting with couples who are quietly struggling, Tari is saying the thing everyone is thinking and nobody will put into words. If the sex isn't good now, it is not going to get better after the wedding. That's not a cynical take. It's not a scare tactic. It's what Tari ha...

Wanting space isn't the problem. Taking it badly is. If you've ever asked for space and watched it blow up — him spiraling, you feeling guilty, the connection somehow worse — this one's for you. This is the women's companion to "5 Things Men Need to Know When She Needs Space." Tough love, the loving kind: 5 ways to take the space you need without losing the man you want to keep — how to name your...

She didn't stop wanting it. You just stopped doing it. Most men in long-term relationships have quietly given up on flirting — not because they don't want to, but because somewhere along the way it felt awkward, got shut down, or got buried under the comfort of everyday life. The problem is she's still waiting for it. She's still hungry for the moment you look at her like you mean it. In this epis...

One of the most common frustrations men bring into my office: "Why do I always have to be the one to start things?" In this episode, sex and intimacy coach Tari breaks down the real psychology behind why most women won't initiate — even when they want to. You'll learn why women and men are wired completely differently around rejection, what the "secret universe" of female desire actually sounds li...

If your partner has ever said you don't take sex seriously enough, this episode is for you. Intimacy Tari has spent over a decade working with couples, and one pattern comes up more than almost any other: men who use humor, jokes, and playfulness as an escape hatch the moment intimacy starts to deepen. This isn't about being too silly. It's about never having been given a model for masculine eroti...

Signs a woman is sexually satisfied go far beyond what most men understand — and most men are never taught what to look for. In this episode, Tari from Closeness breaks down 15 specific indicators that tell you exactly how she’s experiencing you, sexually and emotionally. A well-loved, well-sexed woman is not something you can manufacture overnight. It takes presence, focus, skill, and a genuine c...

Most men experience a breakup as something that happens suddenly — a conversation that blindsides them, a decision that seems to arrive from nowhere. The truth is almost always more complicated. By the time a woman says the words out loud, she has typically been living with that decision for months. Sometimes years. In this episode, Tari from Closeness breaks down one of the most painful and misun...

While there are women who do enjoy sex with no strings attached, most women in relationships are tolerating their love life from their partner. Here are a few things to consider.

The title speaks for itself. Please enjoy. Are you a highly sexual woman who has never quite gotten the sex you actually want? You’re not alone — and it’s not your fault. In this episode, Tari from Closeness introduces the concept of the highly sexual woman, or HSW — a woman whose sexual nature is intense, real, and largely hidden. Not because she’s repressed or broken, but because the men in her...

It's been a while since we've posted an interview style format so we're bringing it backwith a bang! (So to speak) For regular listeners who are used to relationship oriented sexual material, don't worry there will still be plenty of that in future episodes. But for today's guest, Venus is here explore how to make a one night stand a special and fun experience. Closeness also posts videos on all s...

For a sexual woman, or a woman who enjoys regular sex, nothing feels more devastating than being deprived of intimacy, closeness, and the feeling of being desired. In long-term relationships, this scenario is more common than many realize and can lead to her disconnecting, shutting down and even feeling deeply resentmentful. In this episode, we explore what you can do if you've been neglecting you...

If you want to know how to make your wife feel sexy — really feel it, not just look it — this episode is the one to send to every man you know. Most men assume their job is to show up and respond. Wrong. The real work is in creating the conditions that awaken her desire: the right look, the right touch, the right energy, the right voice. Closeness coach Tari walks through exactly what that means —...

In this episode, we tackle 13 common barriers that can stand in the way of a thriving sexual connection with your partner. Whether it’s logistical issues, bad timing, or emotional disconnection, these roadblocks can quietly chip away at intimacy. The good news? Every one of these obstacles can be addressed easily, paving the way for better connection, desire, and satisfaction. It’s Not Just About...

Ah the case of the extra horny wife! What to do when your wife or girlfriend has a high sex drive and you’re struggling to keep up? This episode looks at one of the biggest challenges in relationships today. Whether you’re dealing with mismatched drives, low libido, or confusion about how to take the lead, this episode gives you actionable tips to handle the situation with confidence and connectio...

In so many ways, dating a single mother is an entirely different experience compared to dating someone without children. In this episode, we explore the unique dynamics, challenges, and many rewards of stepping into a relationship with a single mother. From navigating your needs, to her unique priorities and needs to understanding her relationship dynamic with her ex, this episode breaks down the...

In this heartfelt episode of The Closeness Podcast, Tari explores the subtle yet profound ways a woman expresses love towards you and how to nurture that connection. Love isn’t just a feeling, you can also see it written all over her face, as well as in her actions and gestures towards you that reveal her affection and devotion. From admiring glances to shared laughter and vulnerably sharing herse...

This episode dives into that unspoken, magnetic force that women love, men are strangers to and has the ability to keep relationships alive: sexual tension. To begin, do you know what it is? How would you describe it to someone? Far from a fleeting moment of attraction, sexual tension is a dynamic between you and your partner. An energy that is felt. A strong feeling. A deliberate energy that fuel...

How to Navigate Conflict and Stop the Cycle of Petty Fights As much as we want our relationships to be full of passion and connection, they can also be bogged down by repetitive, exhausting conflicts. In this dense yet insightful episode, we dive into the dynamics of how fights start, why some partners provoke or blindside you, and what you can do to handle conflict in a healthier way. Fighting ov...

Grappling with Intimacy: A Closeness Client’s True Story In this unprecedented episode, we step into the intimate world of a Closeness client as she candidly shares her struggles with intimacy and her desire for dominance and assertiveness in her relationship. Read by the podcast host, this two-part interview offers a unique listening experience—complete with a “director’s cut” featuring host comm...

Feeling like roommates instead of lovers? You’re not alone. One of the biggest struggles in long-term relationships is when passion fades, intimacy stalls, and everything starts to feel stale. In this episode, we dive deep into why this happens and, more importantly, how to fix it. Whether you’re a man or a woman, you’ll learn immediate actionable strategies to reignite the spark and take the lead...

Sometimes, the things you aren’t doing in bed can be just as damaging as the things you are. In this episode, we explore 10 key reasons why your wife or girlfriend might not feel inspired to be intimate with you—and more importantly, what you can do to turn things around. Spoiler alert: It’s not about asking for sex or sticking to the same moves you’ve been using for years.  Mindset Matters: How D...

A striking and unusually intelligent, intellectual college student explores her boundaries of sexuality, and intimate desires for nearly two hours with Tari. How men and women at her university level interact with each other in the dating world is different than what we've seen before. Together, we explore who should initiate and seduce in the bedroom, male and female nature, her experiences with...