Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

"Dating is a waste of time." Have you ever said this before? I've been there too, but here's the thing: it's just not true. You know why I know that? Because it's a lesson I had to learn myself. The truth is, dating is not the thing wasting your time. Because if you claim to not want to waste your time, but then make yourself available for situationships, emotionally unavailable partners, or any o...

"We all have the same 24 hours in a day." The WORST, right? Nobody likes being told this when it comes to the discussion around time management. Here's the thing: while this (admittedly annoying) statement is absolutely true, the conversation around time management isn't actually about time…it's about attention. We all have the same amount of time, but we DON'T have the same amount of attention, a...

Does it feel like you've become a magnet to every emotionally unavailable, commitment-phobic person in the dating pool? Have you been blaming it on this generation's idea of dating, the fickleness of dating apps, or just about any other excuse you can come up with? Bad news: it's none of those things. It's you. Ultimately, it's not that we're attracting emotionally unavailable partners…it's that w...

Shadow work: it's a term you've probably heard before. But what is it, and why does everyone seem to be talking about it? Take out your flashlight, friends, because today I'm taking you on a journey into all the shadowy, invisible parts of your personality. Shadow work is all about turning the unconscious conscious, which means taking a look at some things you might've shoved so far down that you'...

I could talk about money all day long, and let me tell you—you're getting a masterclass about money manifestation all packed into one episode today. Manifesting abundance in your life isn't complicated…in fact, half of it is about recognizing the abundance already present in your life. We experience abundance in a hundred beautiful ways every single day, but without a shift in perspective, we migh...

Last week, I talked about managing your energy and your other resources. This week, I want to talk about the management of one of those resources, and what can happen when you don't manage it: money. There are four signs that you might have a yo-yo relationship with money: Lack of control around money Speaking poorly about money Only speaking positively about money when you have it in excess Makin...

Last week, I talked about how mismanagement of your energy and resources can lead to severe burnout. This week, I want to talk about four signs you can watch out for to identify whether you're struggling with energy mismanagement: Struggles with self-control around money Struggles with energy management Struggles with time management Struggles with self-control around food When you're operating in...

Quick trigger warning, friends: this episode involves discussions about suicidal thoughts, depression, and anxiety. If these topics are triggering to you, I suggest skipping this episode.   This isn't an easy topic for me to talk about. It's still very fresh in my mind, and I get really emotional trying to talk about it, but I'm doing it anyway. I'm doing it because I know someone needs to hear it...

These days, it's easier to follow, isn't it?   Follow your coach's example.   Follow your partner's lead.   Follow the way you've always done things.   Why is this? Because if you follow someone else's instructions or example, you get to blame them when things go wrong. If you never change anything about how you're pursuing whatever it is you want—a relationship, a job, a friendship—then you never...

We've been talking a lot about vulnerability lately...but what happens if you avoid that kind of intimacy with your partner?   For those who lean avoidant in their dating life, it's usually because you're trying to protect yourself. But when you hide behind walls to try and make yourself look better, you cut off the beating heart of connection and love: emotional vulnerability. When you refuse to...

Let's talk entitlement and scarcity...and how the two actually go together.   Entitlement says, "I deserve a relationship, because I am a wonderful person. I am a catch. I'm amazing." Scarcity says, "I can't have what I want (or deserve) because there isn't enough to go around, so I'm going to turn whatever I have into the thing that I feel I deserve."   When both of these mindsets show up to a pa...

So it's happened again. You've been seeing someone for a while now, but you're eternally caught in the "talking" stage, with no official label in sight. The person you're seeing seems perfectly content to continue on in your "situationship," enjoying the lack of pressure (and lack of commitment) and you're once again getting fed up. You don't understand why everyone you come across is happy to go...

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Anxious attachment is tricky, and it can definitely get you into some relationship trouble if you don't know how to deal with it. It can leave you scared of true intimacy even though it's also what you want above all else. Talk about a hell of your own anxious making. That's why in this episode of the Self Love Fix Podcast we'll talk more about: The pitfalls of anxious attachment How to navigate d...

There you are, hoping, wishing, praying for real and lasting love- an honest-to-goodness relationship…so why the heck are you continually settling for a situationship? You know what I'm talking about, right? The situationship- the kind of dating when the guy says stuff like "seeing where it's going, keeping it casual, just hanging out" and you pretend to be cool with it as your soul dies a little...

For most of us love is (or at least was) an elusive mystery we could only dream of. That's why today I'm so excited to welcome my guest Crystal Irom, a Love Coach specifically for successful women. As if women didn't have it hard enough these days, amiright? Why is it that especially women who are successful in every other aspect of their lives struggle to find someone to love? Is it because men a...

I'm beyond thrilled to welcome Elisa Liu onto the podcast today to talk about body image, diet culture, and ways to begin to trust our own hunger again.  For most of us, indulging in what our bodies may be asking for often comes with a hefty dose of guilt. Really intense restriction can mean that your overall control is absolutely shot. Diet culture is everywhere and it tells us that no matter wha...

Today we're going to talk about something that most people would deny- the fact that we all get jealous. But what if instead of shoving it down in a well of shame, we instead took a moment to process it? Chances are when you feel jealousy rear its ugly head, it's not even really about whatever you're envious of. You probably grew up in a household where you were constantly compared to others: a si...

Oh, comparison. It's the thief of joy or something like that, right? Well, I'd argue that social media has definitely proven that concept correct. Now more than ever it's important for us to redefine our personal journey and goals along the way, or we risk being swept up in unattainable expectations from relative strangers on the internet. On this episode of The Self Love Fix Podcast we'll chat mo...

Chances are you've likely heard about the new trend in parenting- gentle parenting. While it may sound permissive or ineffective, if you really look into it, it's the natural response to the inherent violence that has been culturally accepted in previous generations. In the latest episode of The Self-Love Fix Podcast I have a chance to talk with Leslie of LatinX parenting and go over: Why violence...

Today we're going to talk about burnout; you probably know the feeling. There you are, trucking along in your business when suddenly, seemingly out of the blue, you go from boundless enthusiasm to fatigue and cynicism. How? Why? And what the heck do you do? I'm glad you asked. Burnout is essentially stress, but it's the stress we feel after we have consistently taken on too much responsibility at...

I am so excited for this empowering episode! Today, three incredible women joined the podcast, each of them having gone through my Self Love Over Codependency program. They were kind and brave enough to share their journeys to self-discovery, what they learned from the program, and how it's changed them for good. I'm so inspired by each of their stories because it really shows the connections and...

Do you have an easy time trusting yourself when it comes to putting your trust in others? What about deciphering what resonates with you and what doesn't? If these areas feel a little shaky for you, then you'll find a lot of value in this episode! I'm talking all things self-trust, and it's definitely a juicy topic that is not to be missed. When it comes to self-trust, it can be easy to fall back...

Do you ever feel like people don't value what you have to offer or like things are SO easy for other people but so difficult for you, particularly in regards to your career? Then this is the episode for you. Today, I'm talking about how you can navigate feeling undervalued, unappreciated, and unseen - at work or in your love life.  We frequently take setbacks and assume they mean something about o...

Today, I want to talk about something that plagues many people, especially in the context of their careers. Anxiousness, self-doubt, and a fear of being seen may come up a lot, and these feelings prevent people from showing up authentically as themselves. I don't want you to experience this, so I dive fully into the topic on this episode. There are so many different facets that come into play when...