Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

Did you miss the Hold the Standard masterclass? Good news—welcome to the replay! When people talk about standards, I tend to notice one of three patterns: either someone is copying someone else's standards because they sound good, without stopping to actually consider whether those standards match with what they're looking for; someone doesn't set ANY standards because they don't know what they wa...

Too many people allow their EXTERNAL circumstances to determine their INTERNAL reality. The way you feel is going to be one of the most important things you will ever tend to in your life, because your feelings influence every area of your life. It's a powerful, powerful thing. So if you allow anything other than yourself to influence the way you feel… You're giving up your power. And that is NOT...

When you walk into a designer store, you do it differently than you would walk into a Walmart. You enter with a different price tag in mind. You probably already know what you want—or at least know that you're there to make a purchase, not browse. You're not wasting your own time or anyone else's.  Because of the way Louis Vuitton conducts itself through marketing, atmosphere, and treatment of the...

How often have you immediately blurted out "You too!" when somebody compliments you? "You have such pretty hair!" "You too!" "You're so smart!" "You too!" "You're so beautiful." "You too!" It's like we can't stand to just sit and HOLD attention when it's given to us…we have to throw it back as fast as we can. Why? Because we've trained ourselves to be uncomfortable holding it. Because we don't thi...

Last week, we had a chat about what it looks like when your standards are actually conditions, and you're too wishy-washy about standing firm in the standards you've set… This week, I want to talk about what happens when you're TOO strict with your standard-setting, and it actually ends up narrowing your dating pool unnecessarily. I've heard a lot of people asking whether their standards are "too...

I don't actually believe in the idea of "lowering" your standards. I don't believe that STANDARDS can be lowered. A standard is something that just IS. It is the way things are, no unless, ifs, ands, or buts… And if you disagree, I'm willing to bet you haven't been setting standards. I think you've been setting conditions. If your "standards" rely on outside factors and are constantly lowering and...

If you get a bad taste in your mouth when you hear the words "dating apps"...this is the episode for you. Dating apps are NOT the problem. Odds are, it's not the apps that need to be ditched…it's likely your approach that needs some rethinking. Luckily for you, I have gathered up my top five tips for navigating dating apps in a way that's going to help you actually ENJOY the process of dating thro...

I have a question for the entrepreneurs in the audience… How do you react when someone misunderstands your meaning, your intentions, etcetera? If you get panicky, feel the impulse to COMPLETELY overhaul your approach + personality, or get defensive in the comments of your IG post…you're not gonna make it as an entrepreneur. A lot of people in the entrepreneurial space think that if somebody misund...

There are soooo many lessons that I've learned from being in a relationship for just over a year now.  Firstly: if you think that once you get in a relationship, your triggers all pack up and head out the door…that's just not it. It is NOT IT, friend. Secondly: If you want trust at the core of your relationship, you want to consider getting REALLY honest with yourself and your partner. Thirdly…wel...

Let me know if this sounds familiar at all: "Why am I STILL getting triggered by this? Why am I still responding this way? I DID this work already." Mmm…did you, though? Or did you just listen to a podcast episode about it and call it a day? Inner work takes TIME and PATIENCE…and as uncomfortable as it can get, true elevation requires you to sit and hold yourself when things come up for you…even i...

Tune in to find out how Self Love Over Codependency (now called Self Trust Alchemy) alum Sara DEEPENED her connection to her intuition, built her confidence, and found self-love Self Trust Alchemy, my 16-week shadow work group program on how to step into your sovereignty as a POWERFUL leader over your life who makes decisions with clarity and DEEP levels of self-trust (formerly known as SLOC), beg...

Tune in to find out how Self Love Over Codependency (now called Self Trust Alchemy) alum Jordyn went from OVERTHINKING, fear of the unknown, and doubt to deep levels of self-trust in being provided for money wise AND job wise as well as manifesting a contract position right after a job loss. Self Trust Alchemy, my 16-week shadow work group program on how to step into your sovereignty as a POWERFUL...

Tune in to find out how Self Love Over Codependency (now called Self Trust Alchemy) alum Krystal went from feeling trapped, stuck, and unhappy at her job to gaining the courage to LEAVE and ultimately finding a position that was a 360 turn around with MUCH better management + a schedule that aligns with her lifestyle.   Self Trust Alchemy, my 16-week shadow work group program on how to step into y...

You may think you know the ego…but if there's one thing I've learned over my journey through the self-development world, it's this: Just when I THINK I know everything, something I've never heard before comes along and turns my whole world upside down. You're never done learning. And if you can get into that mindset now, I promise you that you will experience expansion in a way you never thought p...

The biggest lie avoidant attachment will tell you? That you're safer never showing anyone the REAL you. People with avoidant attachment get squeamish AF when someone starts to open up to them. They can't stand the idea of being vulnerable in front of someone else. Their avoidant attachment tells them that the only reason anyone would want to get to know them on a deeper level is so they can have s...

Where are my people-pleasers at?  Buckle up and get ready to sit with some hard truths today. I'm here to talk about all things people-pleasing…why we do it, why we can't STOP doing it, and why…stay with me, here…we actually really enjoy it. You heard me right. I said we actually ENJOY people-pleasing, no matter what we might say about wanting to stop. The Ego Whisperer is in top form today, and I...

Brace yourself: this concept may just blow your minds. Attachment styles aren't just for romantic relationships. OMG. WHAT? This was a HUGE epiphany for me, and it definitely didn't dawn on me until I started trying to figure out why making friends—something that used to be sooo easy as a kid—suddenly felt IMPOSSIBLE as an adult. It took shadow work, breaking down some limiting beliefs, and really...

PAUSE. Before you go any further, let me start by saying this: If you truly, deeply, in your heart of hearts, DO NOT WANT a relationship? That's great. That is absolutely great for you. But more often than not, when I come across people in my coaching and personal life who claim they don't want anything to do with relationships…the truth is something very different. If you've had to convince yours...

WE MADE IT! Can you believe it's already the end of 2022? This will be the last episode of the year, and believe me, this Self Love Fix Finale does NOT disappoint! While many other creators are doing a year-end wrap-up, I want to do something a little bit different. I want to share one particular part of my self-development journey where I have grown leaps and bounds this year: my mindset surround...

Here we gooo… It's time for an exciting episode I have been looking forward to for QUITE some time now. New cover photo. New intro. New focus. New Instagram bio. New EVERYTHING. Welcome to the new Self Love Fix. I'm your host, Beatrice Kamau, and you can call me the Ego Whisperer. In this episode, I'm going to spill the tea on all things EVOLUTION—because just like my brand, just like me, YOU also...

There are so, so many facets to developing self-love, self-confidence, and self-trust, and we're going to talk about quite a few of them today… That's right, I said WE. I am so, so pleased to be able to welcome another SLOC alum, Natalie Ashton, onto the podcast to chat about her experience in the program! Natalie is such an incredible person. I could talk about her for hours. She's come so far si...

Sometimes setting boundaries can take more energy than it's worth…or at least, that's what it feels like. But in actuality, it's one of the most important things you can do to PROTECT your energy. That's a lesson, my wonderful guest this week, Essi Wognakou, learned in my program, SLC—Self-Love Over Codependency, now called Self-Trust Alchemy ! Essi's here today to talk about her experience inside...

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Okay, friends. Take a moment and brace yourselves. Take a moment and check in with yourself about whether you're in a good place to hear this, because it's not an easy pill to swallow: Today, I want to talk about accepting change. Not just in yourself, but in others. If you get to change, other people do, too. And you'll only be able to hold space for yourself to evolve inasmuch as you are able to...

Does making friendships as an adult feel so impossibly out of reach, especially as a woman? Guess what: it's not only possible, but I can tell you how to make it happen.  I can't do it alone, though…so I've invited Michelle Panning, host of the Unfuck Your Relationships podcast and expert on all things shadow work and embodiment—and my amazing friend—to hop on and talk with me about what you need...