Class with Kate

So I made a video that said "stop telling your kids how their behavior makes you feel" and it got a lottttttt of pushback. Let's discuss what emotions are and how to handle them in the relationship contexts of parenting, marriage, and with your own parents/estrangement situations. Find more @CodependencyKate on YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok

The MOST misunderstood topic IN THE WORLD in my opinion.... emotions. In this episode I'll tell you how to understand them and how to process them. Find more @CodependencyKate on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube

We hear sooooo much about emotion regulation but nobody talks about how to do it in a practical and actually USEFUL way. Introducing... my BEND method. BEND is an acronym that stands for behavior, emotions, needs, and desires.  This is the first episode of a series on BEND, so let me know your questions so I can answer them in the coming episodes! Click to sign up for more info- https://forms.gle/...

THE MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION... what is the gray area when your partner is exhibiting harmful behavior AND is resistant to change. Hopefully this perspective helps the journey... because it truly is one. Find more @CodependencyKate on TikTok, IG, YouTube

The million dollar question... plus some BIG NEWS on a personal front. But beware... it's not all fun and games, I talk about the controversial video I posted this week regarding Israel/Palestine and its structural similarities to the parent-child dynamic.  See more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, TikTok and YouTube

Yeah.... we had to talk about it. Unfortunately, Abby and I have opinions that only the minority of people share regarding the whole "Kendra fell in love with her psychiatrist" fiasco playing out on TikTok. Abby is a therapist specializing in childhood trauma, specifically childhood sexual abuse, and we get into why we believe Kendra. Find Abby on TikTok and Instagram @peoplemakesense Find more @C...

Listening is the #1 skill that transforms relationships in my opinion. Here I'll elaborate on what your role is when it comes to listening (whether that's with your own parents, in your relationship, and with your kids) and more specifics on how to do it. If you're a parent or a married man, guard your ego because I'm coming for it! Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube

Shawna Lander is the crazy talented actor behind her skit series on family dynamics. It features characters Shawna, her husband John, her MIL Barb, SIL Jen, and others… I was lucky enough to connect with her and talk with her about her work and mission, motherhood, and most specifically, her extremely triggering character Barb! Hope you all enjoy this as much as I did! Find Shawna @shawnathemom on...

So I may have posted a controversial take on "meanness" and how to address it in parenting... and it triggered a LOT of people. I think these same people that were triggered by it would really benefit from how my take applies to their marriage. Listen and let me know! Find me @CodependencyKate on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube :)

This episode was such a big deal for me to have out on time. I have been blocked and blocked from a creative standpoint but after using BEND and (many) hate lists I got right back on track. It's a heavy subject today.... but finally addressing physical abuse in estrangement and asking the tough questions that come from that. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube

On this episode I cover a topic I am MOST passionate about- internalizing. Don't listen to this episode unless you're ready for some hard truths.... all said with love of course. This information might be the missing link to your emotional health that you've been looking for... I hope so at least! Find more @CodependencyKate on TikTok, Instagram and YouTube

In this episode I'll answer people's submitted questions! 1. How do I help my 15/17 year olds detach and have their own boundaries? 2. How do I help my 18 year old with anxiety? 3. My adult daughter is blaming me for her relationship problems, where do I go from here? Find more @CodependencyKate on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube

In this episode I talk about revelations I've had this week... specifically about the role of "enmeshment" in issues of estrangement. In summary, enmeshment is the heart of EVERYTHING relationship problems and I believe MOST people are enmeshed. I explain what it is, what it looks like, how I believe it came to be, and examples of it/what to do about it. It is not the end for you!!! Find me on Tik...

Intellectualizing is what is holding you back in your relationships! It can show up as defensiveness or being "logical" when the situation calls for presence, attunement, compassion and curiosity. It can hold you back in your relationship with your KIDS especially! Learn everything you need to know to change this behavior so you can finally learn the felt sense of connection.  Find more @Codepende...

In this podcast we put a pause on Conversations with Sierra to address the videos I posted this week! I'll get into the 4 skills of emotion regulation to prevent crashouts (self-compassion, BEND, hate lists, and forecasting your emotional weather) rumination, emotional eating, gratitude, and BRIEFLY financial generosity and emotional negligence. It is not a very organized episode, just a lot of me...

This is part 1 of Conversations with Sierra. Sierra is a vibrant, intelligent, goofy 25 year old who happens to be estranged from her mother. This is not necessarily uncommon in this day and age but the part of it that is...is that her mother posts about this estrangement online. Hear the story of how Sierra grew up, what led to the estrangement, and how she's found peace today. If you are struggl...

Kate sits down with fellow TikToker Sister Kathryn, a Muslim author and mom of 5. They initially did not have a very pleasant interaction, but wanted to turn it into a learning experience for others. Watch the TikTok that started it all, and then listen in as they discuss what therapists need to know about their Muslim clients.  Watch full video on YouTube Find Sister Kathryn on TikTok or her webs...

part 3/3 of the Class with Kate series on "being" With all the tragedy and loss happening in the world, learning to just "be" kind of doesn't make sense. It doesn't seem useful or helpful.. like, what's the point? Well, I argue that life is about more than productivity and "doing." And "being" does NOT mean escaping to the mountaintop like a monk. Find out what it can mean for you and make sure to...

Do you identify with the term "empath" but are not sure what to make of it? If not "empath," what about highly sensitive person (HSP), codependent, or anxious attachment? If you've REALLY scoured the internet, you might've come up with the term "enmeshed." If any of these apply to you, you might struggle with boundaries and standing up for yourself. But the good news is, this is NOT YOUR FAULT. Li...

Do you not know how to just "be"? Does it feel either overwhelming or empty when you sit down and take a second to relax? If so, you are NOT alone- it is so common for high-functional people to go to therapy after feeling this way. But DON'T WORRY, this is fixable! Let's get you your "sauce" back. Listen and give feedback on this episode's insta post Follow Kate on TikTok@ restoringrelationships S...

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Kate (MFT student) and Kelly (LPC-temp) discuss the issue of diagnosing yourself from online mental health therapists. Kate, being an online content creator, gives these mental health professionals the benefit of the doubt. But Kelly is not so sure. Will they find middle ground? Watch on YouTube Subscribe at www.restoringrelationships.com Find Kate on TikTok@ restoringrelationships

Kate meets with therapist, author, speaker, and fellow TikTok creator KC Davis. They met about 6 months ago, when Kate challenged one of KC's TikTok videos on anger and boundaries. KC responded, but a resolution between the two was not found. In part 1, Kate gets to know the person behind the creator, and part 2, airing on KC's platform " Struggle Care " November 6th, will answer the question- can...

Kate interviews Meg, who is the therapist behind the popular Instagram account, @antiworktherapist. In her private practice, Meg treats mostly therapists that are just burnt TF out on the "work" side of therapy. Listen in as Kate finds out what really happens in these sessions and how Meg navigates both her clients and her own mental health in the search for work-life balance. Watch on YouTube- ht...

Kate and Kelly discuss.    Watch on Youtube- https://youtu.be/sFuKnqYINR0 Also on Spotify, Apple, and Google Podcasts Subscribe to get updates- www.restoringrelationships.com Find Kate on TikTok@ restoringrelationships