Clarity on Fire

Do you remember that scene in E.T. when he (E.T., that is) shuffles out of a closet wearing a dress, high heels, a blonde wig, and a little bowler hat? Yeah, I didn't really remember it either, until Rachel brought it up. She was using that very vivid mental picture (you should really Google "E.T. in a wig" if you want a good laugh) to describe how she's always felt about dating—she's E.T. in a wi...

Lately, we've had multiple clients approach us with the same exact question (which is how we know it's time to talk about it on the podcast!). It goes a little something like this: "So, my intuition was convinced that this thing (job/relationship/what-have-you) was right for me. I felt a strong sense of knowing. But then … that thing didn't work out. What gives?? Was my intuition wrong? How do I k...

I tend to get wrapped up in my own thoughts.  A lot. As in, I've gone on solo road trips and not even turned the radio on for hours. I'm very comfortable with silence. Because of this, I've heard the same kinds of comments from people close to me for my whole life: "You got really quiet all of a sudden. What's going on?" Or,  "You have to tell me how you're feeling — I can't read your mind!" Or, u...

Rachel and I often encourage our clients to do informational interviews when they're trying to discern whether a certain career path will be a good fit for them. Why? Because nothing quite beats hearing real people's stories and getting honest feedback about the all questions you have (but maybe feel weird asking in a real interview). Usually when I suggest this, though, my clients feel super resi...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. If you squint a little, the theme of this month ended up being "deal breakers"—in friendships, at work, and in romantic relationships. We answered questions from:...

A while back I was catching up with one of my very first clients-turned-friends. (Random aside: This is one of the things I love about coaching. You get to connect with really cool people who often end up becoming lifelong buddies.) In our conversation she mentioned that an off-the-cuff (and definitely not super serious) analogy I'd made had actually really helped her to see life differently. So m...

We all know how good it feels to get rid of actual stuff — clothes that are out of style, clutter that's taking up space in your closet, décor that belongs in another decade. We'd argue it feels just as good, if not better, to get rid of your metaphorical crap — the beliefs that weigh you down, the assumptions that you inherited from someone else, and the fears that are no longer relevant to the t...

One of my clients, Haley, had a doozy of a 2019. In April she found out she was unexpectedly pregnant with her second child. It felt like a joyful permission slip—she'd been feeling the urge to quit her corporate job since her first daughter was born two years before, but hadn't been able to justify that decision. By early May she'd given her two weeks' notice, and by Memorial Day she was a full-t...

As much as we all think we want to be happy— "I'll be happy when I get my dream job!" or "I'll be happy when I have a relationship"—humans aren't actually very good at happiness. As long as the happiness remains an idea in our mind, it's safe to linger on. But when happiness because a reality, all of a sudden, we start to trip over ourselves. We wait for the other shoe to drop. We fret about losin...

Ever felt like you're a ghost wandering the halls of your workplace? Sure, you're physically there, but the REAL YOU is nowhere to be found. You're mentally checked out, emotionally drained, and showing up as a watered-down, hollow version of yourself. In this Magic 8-Ball episode, we're bringing back someone who was all too familiar with that feeling: Lana Jackson, who was Kristen's first-ever in...

Nussi Einhorn hasn't yet turned 27, but he's achieved a lot in his relatively short life. He started out as a young husband and father (to three small boys!), without a traditional university education, working at a job that paid him $13 an hour. Through ingenuity, willpower, and a lot of confidence, he hustled his way into a cushy corporate job that paid him well and allowed him to comfortably su...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. The theme this month ended up being "salty and cynical" (Rachel loved it). On this episode, we're answering questions from: Another Rachel, who hijacks Rachel Ran...

We've had a lot of fun these past few months, as we've all been stuck in quarantine, whipping out one of our woo-woo oracle decks and giving you all a message from the Universe. We hope that it's helped you stay a little bit more grounded and trusting in a time of heightened anxiety! This will be out last regular Message from the Universe episode for a while, but don't despair. We'll still do them...

Calling all fellow bookworms, library nerds, and general lovers of literature — it's time for another book club episode of the podcast! Whenever there are five Fridays in a month, we devote the extra Friday to a book that we can't get enough of. In this episode, we're diving into the mega #1 New York Times bestseller Untamed by Glennon Doyle. Glennon's books are the opposite of your average self-h...

It's time for another "Magic 8-Ball" episode! AKA, where we shake up the nearly 200 episodes we've released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today. Have you ever heard something that felt so true that it resonated in your very bones? Even if you couldn't explain why you knew it was true? You just knew. That's how I felt when I read...

We all know how good it feels to get rid of actual stuff—clothes that are out of style, clutter that's taking up space in your closet, décor that belongs in another decade.   We'd argue it feels just as good, if not better, to get rid of your metaphorical crap—the beliefs that weigh you down, the assumptions that you inherited from someone else, and the fears that are no longer relevant to the tim...

It's that time again! Every-other-Tuesday, as long as we're all stuck in quarantine, we're whipping out one of our woo-woo oracle decks and pulling a few cards for all of us. In times like these, it can be especially hard to tune into your intuition and receive guidance. Fear and uncertainty create a LOT of noise, both internally and externally! And, ironically, it's exactly when we're most afraid...

Introvert vs. extrovert. Type A vs. type B. Hard skills vs. soft skills. Labels can be helpful shortcuts for understanding ourselves better and giving other people a quick snapshot of how we operate. But more often than not, the debate around "are you this type of person or THAT type of person?" is wayyy too limiting. No one is 100% introverted (even Rachel, one of the most introvertiest introvert...

It's time for another "Magic 8-Ball" episode! AKA, where we shake up the nearly 200 episodes we've released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today.   Today's episode is one of the first side chats we ever did on the podcast way back in April 2018, and it's all about how to tell if you're a highly sensitive person. It's one of my (Kr...

We've all been living in this strange new world for a few months now, complete with stay-at-home orders, face masks, and social distancing. And many of us are settling into whatever version of normal we can find. And yet, there's this lingering uncertainty that we're all facing, both personally and globally. When will this pandemic end? Will I be able to keep my job? Will anyone I love get sick? W...

You're in for a treat today! Instead of us whipping out one of our oracle decks like we've been doing every-other-Tuesday for a while now, we decided to bring in some bigger guns, so to speak, to deliver a message from the Universe to you today. Our friend Francisca Hernandez, who you might remember from her normal person interview , as well as her expert interview about learning to meditate , is...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. On this episode, we're answering questions from: Cassie, who can't help but feel bad that she's able to stay afloat right now, given how many people are strugglin...

It's time for another "Magic 8-Ball" episode! AKA, where we shake up the nearly-200 episodes we've released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today. Today's episode is a side chat from September 2018 about the grief of transitions. It's one of my (Rachel's) favorite episodes we've ever done, and very relevant to what we're all experi...

*Cue Destiny's Child* All the women, who independent, throw your hands up at me. All the honeys, who making money, throw your hands up at me. Sometimes as woman (especially if you're over 30) it's easy to gloss over everything you've accomplished in life—finding a career you enjoy, evolving as a person, developing deep friendships, making an impact in your community, eating well, staying fit—if yo...

It's that time again! Every-other-Tuesday, as long as we're all stuck in quarantine, we're whipping out one of our woo-woo oracle decks and pulling a few cards for all of us. In times like these, it can be especially hard to tune into your intuition and receive guidance. Fear and uncertainty create a LOT of noise, both internally and externally! And, ironically, it's exactly when we're most afraid...