Clarity on Fire

Bekah Trice is a self-described wellness junkie. There are a LOT of healing modalities out there — therapy, coaching, massage, acupuncture, human design, tapping, and energy healing, to name a few — and she's tried them all. I like to think of her as a wellness concierge; she's dabbled in everything, so she's naturally great at helping people figure out what might work for them. Of course, the ver...

I feel like I need to offer a massive correction to all of the people, you included, I may have fooled over the years: I'm not actually all that tough. I know the resting bitch face (which is very handy in repelling unwanted small talk at the gym or grocery store) may have suggested otherwise. Or the fact that I'm blunt, loud, and opinionated. Or that I very clearly do not suffer fools. The exteri...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. This month we answered questions from: Ellie, whose friends are all talk no action when it comes to personal development. What do you do when your close friends a...

Calling all fellow bookworms, library nerds, and general lovers of literature — it's time for another book club episode of the podcast! Whenever there are five Fridays in a month, we devote the extra Friday to a book that we can't get enough of. In this episode, we're diving into the #1 New York Times bestseller The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. This is by far the densest, most...

Calling all fellow bookworms, library nerds, and general lovers of literature — it's time for another book club episode of the podcast! Whenever there are five Fridays in a month, we devote the extra Friday to a book that we can't get enough of. In this episode, we're diving into the #1 New York Times bestseller The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. This is by far the densest, most...

All of us have either been the person who, even if they know it's happening, can't stop dating carbon copies of the same person over and over again; OR we've been the friend watching it happen, wanting to beat our head (and our friend's head) against the wall. And if that doesn't resonate, maybe you've been the person who keeps seeking praise and validation from a boss who's stingy with compliment...

There's a reason that the Hero's Journey is a circle—the hero or heroine can only appreciate how much they've grown and changed when they go back to the beginning. Everything at home is as they left it, but yet it feels incredibly different … because they are different. In the last four years, Brit Kolo quit a job, started a business, evolved that business into something new, lost her faith in tha...

Have you noticed that surfers tend to have nice abs even though they're not trying to? They're just out there doing what they love, and abs are the happy byproduct. Meanwhile, you might be in the gym, cursing your ab-less torso on what feels like your millionth rep of sit-ups. When you boil it down, there are always two approaches to getting what you want: Head-on, or sideways. The head-on approac...

Here's a metaphor for you: You're a tree. You've got lots of branches — career, romance, friends, family, hobbies, health — but one root system. If your "career" branch is feeling lackluster, does it really make sense to spend a lot of time pruning, clipping, and sprucing just that branch? Isn't it likely that if one branch is withering, all of the branches might be affected? And in that case, why...

Today's episode was going to be a new normal person interview, but our normal person wasn't feeling well at the last minute ( no expectations, right? ), so we're pushing that episode back until later this month and giving you a bonus side chat today, instead! Since we were planning on talking to our normal person about something big she abruptly quit, we thought it would be fun to continue with th...

I may have grown up watching my brother play football and seeing college and NFL games on TV every weekend for months on end, but 95% of it didn't sink in. I'd always rather be reading a book. Sorry, family! But you know what I do love? Friday Night Lights . You don't have to love football to be heart-eyes for Matt Saracen and Tim Riggins, and to want to model your entire romantic relationship off...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. This month we answered questions from: Margot, who's into our idea of having no expectations for the rest of 2020, but suspects she's overthinking it. She has a f...

In times like these, it can be especially hard to tune into your intuition and receive guidance. Fear and uncertainty create a LOT of noise, both internally and externally! And, ironically, it's exactly when we're most afraid and unsure that we most need to be able to receive wisdom and inspiration. Back in April we started doing regular "Message from the Universe" episodes to help get us through...

A while back, I happened upon a quote as I was scrolling through Instagram that felt like a benevolent smack in the face (if there is such a thing): "The true joy of life is being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances,...

Where were you on New Year's Eve 2019? Or, more to the point, what were you thinking about and planning on for the new year (and decade) ahead? Because we're pretty sure you didn't plan on … whatever 2020 turned out to be, globally or personally. And it ain't over yet. If there's a lesson to be taken from the supreme weirdness of this year, it might be the futility of trying to predict what's goin...

If you're someone who's been wanting to flex your creativity muscle, but keeps feeling stuck — by lack of inspiration, or a fear of not being good enough, or the struggle to find time for creativity — this episode is for you. Todd Searle is a creator by nature, and yet he kept finding himself in jobs where his creativity felt stifled. He's had dozens of ideas for businesses and creative projects o...

You know that uneasy feeling you get when you  know  you're doing something that's not good for you … but you keep doing it anyway? Maybe you're staying in a job or a relationship that isn't really working, or you keep making excuses for why you don't have time to go to the gym. Whatever's causing you to be out-of-alignment, it gives you that awful, knot-in-your-stomach, uncomfortable-in-your-own-...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. This month we answered questions from: Alexandra, who's noticing a pattern at work of being treated differently than her colleagues. When does feedback stop being...

Amin Lakhani was born with a neuromuscular condition called Charcot-Marie-Tooth Syndrome (type 1b) which causes his muscles to atrophy over time. Growing up, his parents gave him a very specific message – "Amin, you won't be able to perform physical labor, so you have to study and work hard if you want to succeed in life."

 So he did. He was a straight-A student, graduated from an Ivy League Univ...

All of us know at least one blatant, dare we say egregious , people-pleaser. Maybe it's your mom, or your best friend, or your boss … or maybe it's you. But we've noticed a pattern lately, and we think you need to be clued into it: Some of the worst offenders when it comes to people-pleasing don't realize they're people-pleasers! In fact, we've had clients who vehemently denied being a people-plea...

If you'd told me (Kristen) ten years ago that I'd be doing in infomercial FOR anger — as in, fully in support of and happily endorsing the expression of anger — I would've said you clearly have the wrong person. You see, as a lifelong people pleaser with a huge aversion to conflict of all kind, I prided myself on rarely (if ever) getting angry. I'm embarrassed to admit I even got on my high horse...

A trend we've noticed with almost every people-pleaser we've coached (or anyone who cares too much about what others think) is that they have a really hard time knowing who they are and what they want. It makes sense. When you've spent your whole life looking outward—"What will make these people happy?" "Who do I need to be to be liked, loved and accepted?"—Then there's no space to go inward and c...

Terece Hahn had it all — the job she'd always dreamed of, a 6-figure income, a loving husband, the ability to travel and buy a home and do all the things she loved. And yet, she was miserable. Her job was making her burnt out, anxious, depressed, and totally unsure of herself. Her confidence took a nosedive, and she started questioning everything in her life. So what do you do when your dream job...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. This month we answered questions from: Dallying Dumper, who knows she needs to break up with her boyfriend, but can't justify it yet because next month is the ann...

Calling all fellow bookworms, library nerds, and general lovers of literature — it's time for another book club episode of the podcast! Whenever there are five Fridays in a month, we devote the extra Friday to a book that we can't get enough of. In this episode, we're diving into the New York Times bestseller I'm Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown. The...