Clarity on Fire

Life is hard. We know this now, maybe more than ever. And we all know that getting what you want isn't always rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes you've got to do crap you don't want to do because it's good for you, and it helps you get to the good stuff in life. So, if we're struggling to commit to something difficult, does that mean we're copping out? Shouldn't we just suck it up and get on with...

In case you hadn't heard, every-other-Tuesday we're publishing "Magic 8-Ball" episodes! AKA, we shake up the nearly-200 episodes we've released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today. Today's episode is a blog from March 2018 that's especially for all of you to default to saying "yes" to everything, and then feel overwhelmed, resent...

This one goes out to all of you who feel like making a choice, any choice, is hard. Who are these mysterious people who just … decide things? Without any angst, or second-guessing, or spinning out, or FOMO, or shiny object syndrome?? Rachel Lowe can't relate! Which is why she's this month's brand-new interview with a normal person. On this episode, Rachel E. And Rachel L. are getting into what it'...

Two weeks ago, Rachel whipped out one of her woo-woo oracle decks and pulled a few cards for all of us. We got so many comments and messages saying how much you all liked it that we've decided to make it an every-other-Tuesday thing, at least while we're all stuck in quarantine! In times like these, it can be especially hard to tune in to your intuition and receive guidance. Fear and uncertainty c...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer audience questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. Panic, depression, and fear turned out to be the theme of this month's episode, which is appropriate given what we're all weathering right now. We hope it's exact...

In case you hadn't heard, every-other-Tuesday we're publishing "Magic 8-Ball" episodes! AKA, we shake up the nearly-200 episodes we've released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today. Today's episode is a blog from April, 2018 about our collective hang-up around what "creativity" means. Considering that a lot of us all of a sudden h...

We all know that person . The one who's read all the books, taken all the personality tests, and been to therapy for years but somehow is exactly the same as when they started? They could talk to you all day long about their issues—they know exactly why they are the way they are—but haven't actually changed . None of us want to be that person. But going from intellectually understanding stuff to i...

In times like these it can be especially hard to tune in to your intuition and receive guidance. Fear and uncertainty create a LOT of noise, both internally and externally! And, ironically, it's exactly when we're most afraid and unsure when we most need to be able to receive wisdom and inspiration. So, if you're having a hard time getting calm, quiet, and tuning in (understandable, if so!), we th...

We've had a few clients come to us recently with career conundrums they just could not figure out. They'd looked at it from every angle and were only getting more confused about what they should do. And yet, like magic, when we asked them to stop thinking of their job (either the one they have, or the one they want) like a job, and start thinking of it like a person they were dating , all of a sud...

In case you hadn't heard, every-other-Tuesday we're publishing "Magic 8-Ball" episodes! AKA, we shake up the nearly-200 episodes we've released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today. Today's episode is a Side Chat from last summer about how to hone your intuition (and tell the difference between that, and fear). Pretty relevant rig...

We all have our laundry lists of insecurities, self-doubts, and things we don't particularly like about ourselves. But when those self-judgments turn into full-on self-hate, that can open the floodgates for all kinds of numbing, self-sabotaging behaviors. For Adam Miller, that manifested as drug addiction. Throughout his process of recovery, he learned that the best cure for self-sabotaging, addic...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer audience questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. On this episode, we're answering questions from: Miranda, who took the Passion Profile Quiz and can't tell if she's a "real" Thriver, or whether she's only gettin...

Every-other-Tuesday we're going to be publishing "Magic 8-Ball" episodes. AKA, we shake up the nearly-200 episodes we've released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today. For our inaugural Magic 8-Ball episode we're re-releasing something from the very first day we launched this podcast! The original title was "How to work like a wom...

A few weeks ago, we hosted a live online workshop about getting what you want in 2020. In typical fashion, the two of us were bouncing ideas and insights and jokes back and forth, and had a great time (and hopefully enlightened a couple people, too). But something that one of our attendees commented on stayed with us long after the hour was over. She said: "I have never had a female interaction li...

We've been obsessed with the Enneagram ever since we discovered it last year, and we're pretty sure we passed that obsession on to many of you! One of Rachel's clients recently said that discovering her Enneagram type felt like "a punch to the soul." And damn, that's exactly how it feels when you pinpoint your type—like you've been truly seen , but in the most vulnerable, cold-sweat inducing way!...

Remember in Harry Potter when Fawkes the phoenix would near the end of his life cycle? He'd get all wheezy and bleary-eyed, and generally look the worse for wear, and Dumbledore would encourage him to "get on with it." Then, of course, he'd burst into flame and emerge again from the ashes, a tiny and somewhat ugly little chick who would soon grow into his former glory. Well, as we near our 200th e...

When I first met Amanda, she was lugging around shame like it was an anvil strapped to her back. In her mind, she didn't deserve to feel light or free because she'd left her marriage of almost 20 years in a way that she felt very guilty about. But as long as she was carrying guilt and shame like a penance, she wasn't able to pick anything else up. It's hard to move on with your life, or get clear...

"I think I'm bad at joy,"  said my client Laura at the start of our last coaching call. She went on to tell me about a mini road trip she and her boyfriend took over the weekend. There was a moment in the car when everything felt right in the world — the sun was shining, the windows were down, her favorite music was blasting, and her boyfriend smiled over at her and put his arm around the back of...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer audience questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. On this episode, we're answering questions from: Jade, a college sophomore who feels like she's doing her college experience "wrong" by not being able to pick a m...

Have you ever met someone who's always known what they wanted to do? They were 5 years old and sure they'd be a writer or a nurse or an engineer, went and did exactly that, and are still doing it to this day? You probably have. And while those people didn't set out to make the rest of us feel bad … it sort of happens inadvertently, doesn't it? Liz Gilbert (the author of Eat, Pray, Love and Big Mag...

Calling all fellow bookworms, library nerds, and general lovers of literature — it's time for another book club episode of the podcast! Whenever there are five Fridays in a month, we devote the extra Friday to a book that we can't get enough of. In this episode, we're diving into the #1 New York Times bestseller E-Squared by Pam Grout. We've recommended this book to so many people over the years b...

One of my favorite things about January is that I always get a few extra update emails from previous clients who have been doing some New Years' reflecting on their past year and want to share it with me. After reading a few of those, I can't help thinking about how freaking much can happen in the span of just one year.  A lot has happened for me personally, of course, but I'm especially amazed by...

We all know how good it feels to get rid of actual stuff—clothes that are out of style, clutter that's taking up space in your closet, décor that belongs in another decade. We'd argue it feels just as good, if not better, to get rid of your metaphorical crap—the beliefs that weigh you down, the assumptions that inherited from someone else, and the fears that are no longer relevant to the times we'...

If you're hanging 'round these parts, you probably have an affinity for coaching and all the things that come with it: Personal development, self-awareness, growth, vulnerability, and asking big, existential questions. But the coaching world is as lawless as the wild west. Anyone can call themselves a coach and get away with it! In fact, we've met quite a few people who've come away worse than the...

If you hadn't noticed, we're big advocates for feeling your feelings. What's the alternative? Being shut down, repressed, or so bent out of shape that the slightest twinge of anger or sadness causes you pain? Uh thank you, but next . But we realized we haven't told you one of the most IMPORTANT parts about feeling your feelings in a healthy way: Not everyone can be trusted to handle you and your f...