Christians Who Date

Like a lot of women, we've struggled with comparison, jealousy, and insecurity. We've also been hurt by people in the church. But at the end of the day, our friendships with other women who love Jesus have been some of the most healing, life-giving relationships we've experienced. Here's more of our stories and why we love being women in the church.

Going on a first date? We got you. Here's your pump up.

Okay, we'll admit it. We've all had a crush on someone who wasn't a Christian before. Here's what we learned from our experiences.

What happens when you feel a romantic connection, but the other person... doesn't?  In this episode, we unpack the disconnect that can happen in early dating, especially when a relationship starts long distance.  We talk about how to handle the disappointment of feeling "summed up" or "dismissed" after a few dates or one in-person meetup.  If you’ve ever been caught off gua...

In this week's episode, we invited our very first returning guests, Naomi Specht and Katie Hern, to chat through the question many of us have asked at one point or another: Should I get back together with my ex? If you've ever wondered if you gave up too soon on someone great.... Or if it's a good idea to give someone a second chance... This one's for you.

If you've ever wondered... Why it feels like men and women are speaking a different language sometimes Why women have an easier time being vulnerable What to do when it's that time of the month for your girlfriend and she's having some emotions How to find good community (and why you need it) This episode is for you!!

We're BACK!! We missed you guys. We're bringing you alllll the life updates from December to February. P.S. This episode was recorded at the end of February for context. 😉

How long should you date before getting engaged? When do you introduce someone to your family? What do communication and conflict look like in the serious dating stage? We talk through all of these questions and how we're currently navigating moving from “getting to know you” to “we're really doing this.” If you’re dating seriously, or hoping to be soon, this one's for you.

You're dating someone, everything's going great, and then it happens: you get "the ick." He wore the wrong shoes. She chewed with her mouth open. Can you come back from this?! Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through these burning questions.

If you've ever wished someone would give you the full deets on how they approach dating apps - this is your episode. In this 1.3-hour-long episode, Lauren and Andrea break down  everything : what makes us swipe left, how we’ve built our own profiles (and why), what we actually say when messaging someone new, and what we look for before a first date. We cover: • The biggest profile red flags ✋ • B...

History has been made, folks. For the first time ever, all three Christians Who Date are in relationships at the same time.   We’re spilling all the tea on: - Kalli's ginormous news - Andrea's pickleball romance - Lauren's dating bootcamp Grab your favorite mug, your emotional support water bottle, and strap in for some major life updates and plenty of jokes.

We grew up hearing we should pray for our husbands. There are entire books and journals around it. But what has it actually looked like? This week, we're unpacking what it's looked like for us to... Toe the line between praying for marriage and idolizing it. Ask boldly for something that was God’s idea Trust that God's not waiting for you to get married before healing your loneliness,...

As Christians, we can get really fixated on finding someone with the same “calling.” But how much does that actually matter? In this episode, we talk about the balance between making your calling  too  big of a deal and not making it a deal at all. If someone’s dream is to live overseas and yours isn’t, that’s probably a no-go. But we’ve also seen people (and been people) who take this idea to an...

What happens when you're "just friends" with someone and... They have a crush on you You have a crush on them You both have a mutual crush on each other, but you're in denial Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down to answer this topic idea thrown out to us by one of you 🎉 : "Healthy friendship boundaries between single guys and single girls." How do you take care of your o...

Does anxiety in a relationship mean it's not from God? This week, we sit down with our friends and dating experts, Joy and Mathieu Rossignol. After experiencing their own anxiety throughout ten months of dating, they were finally able to work through it and get married and engaged IN TWO WEEKS. Joy is a marriage and family therapist, and together, she and Mathieu have coached hundreds of peopl...

What happens when you’ve convinced yourself you’re content being single… then realize maybe you’re not? In this episode, our friend Kate (37) opens up about her story of coming to the Lord, spending 10 years on the mission field, and getting really honest with herself about her desire to be married. We talk through... ​Pride that can come from being single ​Transparency vs. Vulnerability ​Letting...

In a 2024 survey, 50% of people said they're single and not looking for a relationship. Meanwhile, in the church, marriage and family are talked about all the time. Marriage even feels elevated as the godliest relationship status sometimes. As three people who are not married and have been single in the church for most of our lives, we wanted to weigh in on the question: Is the church doing enough...

Andrea is finally bringing the question to the table that all of us singles are asking: "How do you actually get a boyfriend?" (Or girlfriend, for you guys out there.) Kalli and Lauren open up about how they met their boyfriends, we trade tips on dating with intention, and we talk honestly about the balance between putting yourself out there and still living your life to the fullest.

What if your best stories don’t have to wait until you’re married? In this episode, Andrea and Lauren sit down (without Kalli 😫) and talk through: How they met and became friends on the mission field Going from being super single to dating up a storm Dreams they’ve gone after in their single years Myths they no longer believe about singleness How they’ve chosen to live each day to the fullest, wi...

Camp crushes hit different. In this episode, we're spilling all the details on: Lauren’s “camp” (that was mostly manual labor) where she fell in love with a guy mid-lunch prayer Kalli’s crush who sang a song in front of the whole camp… that wasn't for her. Andrea’s crush who gave her a nickname that made her feel less than delicate.

We sit down for our 50TH episode and chat through: Our favorite moments from the first 50 episodes The episodes that surprised us in how people responded Our funniest behind-the-scenes moments What we talk about pre- and post- recording How our dating experiences have changed since starting the show How do we hope this podcast shapes the dating conversations happening in the church five years from...

Dating has a way of shining a spotlight on our insecurities. And while compliments feel good in the moment, they can be fleeting if we haven't rooted our worth in something steady. In this episode, we’re talking about the insecurities that creep into every stage of dating, why they can feel so overwhelming, and how to keep them from running the show. You’ll walk away with practical encourageme...

It's easy to feel like marriage is the goal, especially in the church. In reality, marriage is just one way Jesus helps us reach the ultimate goal, which is looking more like Him. In this episode, we sat down with Namaan and Delcie Mian to unpack their 4-year journey from friends to dating to marriage. We talked through: - Holding God’s guidance about dating with open hands - Making a choice w...

How far is too far? What counts as crossing a line? Where should we draw physical boundaries in dating? If you’ve ever asked those questions (or heard them a thousand times in youth group), you’re not alone. But maybe there’s a better question: What’s your goal and how are you going to get there? In this episode, we’re talking about how physical boundaries aren’t about following a bunch of rules o...

In this episode, we’re talking about popular dating advice we've all seen floating around out there.  We share our honest, unfiltered thoughts on:  - Will you really find love when you stop looking for it? - Should you play "hard to get"? - Do opposites attract?  - Should it be you and your bf/gf against the world?  Let us know which takes you agree (or disagree) with!