Christians Who Date

Let’s talk about The List. This is the mental (or literal) checklist of things we want in the person we marry. In this episode, we’re unpacking our old lists and asking questions like: - What are the most unrealistic or ridiculous things we’ve had on our lists? - What happens when someone checks every box… but still isn’t the one? - What does our list say about what we value or fear? - Now that we...

For centuries, philosophers and theologians have been wrestling with the question: “If there’s a good God, why do people suffer?” Or the classic: “Why do bad things happen to good people?” We’re not here to tie this episode up with a pretty bow. We’re sitting in the tension of believing in a good God and experiencing grief. We talk about what it’s like to walk through grief, how to be there for pe...

A lot of us have a picture in our heads of what a relationship should look like. In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk about the difference between healthy standards and unrealistic expectations, and how to know if your “ideal” is actually keeping you from seeing the good thing (or good person) right in front of you. If you’ve ever said, “It just didn’t feel right,” or “I’ll know it when...

What does it mean for us to wait on God? What happens when we’ve been waiting a long time for our dreams for marriage and a family? In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea share openly and honestly about seasons of waiting on God for dreams - whether that be a relationship, finances, or other desires of their heart. They share how they’ve handled “waiting fatigue” when you feel like you’ve been...

What makes a good marriage? In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk about 9 real-life (not celebrity) power couples that have given them vision for what they want in a marriage. They cover things like: Why marriage isn't the end goal Inviting kids into the fullness of your life Being intentional about growth The difference between “what can I get from this?” to “what can I give?” Whether y...

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman has sold 20 million copies around the world. Millions of people have taken the Enneagram personality test (although Christians have been questioning its origins in the last couple of years). In what could be their most controversial episode yet, the Christians Who Date weigh in on these two personality frameworks. Are they helpful in dating? Do they oversimplif...

What does it actually look like to date with intentionality? In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down with Kerry and Dane Earl as they drop all kinds of wisdom and practical tips on how to date well. They cover things like: How to create safety as a man in dating (lol, don't worry, Dane took this one) Why letting your friends set you up  can  work (if you do it right) How to separat...

Are there ways we over-spiritualize dating? How do we bring God into the process in a healthy way? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea share their fails when it comes to over-spiritualizing dating and talk about what they do now instead.

Is wanting things to unfold “organically” holding you back? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea chat through the tension between letting things be organic and dating with intentionality.

Do women make too big of a deal out of height? How much does it actually matter? Does love at first sight happen? Is it legit? Is splitting the check ever the move? Is movie taste a deal-breaker? Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren jump into some hot takes on all the questions above. Let us know what you think in the comments.

How much do you communicate when you’re first starting to date? What about when things are getting more serious? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through things like: - All-day texting - The “Good Morning” Text - Defining the relationship - Communication fails

What are the markers of a fun date? Bungee jumping? Helicopter rides? Fancy outfits? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea break down some of the most fun dates they've ever been on and why they were fun. Feel free to steal any of these date ideas for yourself. Shout out to The Adventure Challenge .

If you've said "yes" to being a bridesmaid (or groomsman) 17 times, and there is not a man or woman on the horizon for you to date, this one's for you.  Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea get real about what it's like to be the last one single in your friend group.  They talk through questions like:  • How do you navigate moments when being single feels so in-your-face?  • If you keep getting invited to be...

Whether you're single, dating, or somewhere in between, this conversation is all about owning your life—right now. Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea unpack what it looks like to stop looking for someone else to give you the life you want and start building it right now. The ladies talk through: - Taking ownership of your finances, future, and friendships - Shifting from “someday when I’m in a relation...

"There are no good options out there. They're all taken." From the mountains of Montana, to the streets of LA, to the taco trucks of Austin, people everywhere are saying their city is the worst city to date in. BUT IS IT REALLY TRUE?! Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down to unpack why it's tempting to agree with this idea, but also challenge it with some cold, hard facts and fun stories about meetin...

Is there one right person for everyone? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through their ideas about “the one” and how they’ve seen this idea play out in dating.

How do you bring other people into the dating process? When do you introduce someone to your friends? Family? In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren unpack: Why it’s so important to invite people you trust into your dating life When to bring someone around your friends and family Why we don't always want to let people in How to give and receive feedback with grace

How much does attraction matter in dating? Do you have to be attracted to your boyfriend or girlfriend 24/7? In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea dive into all the questions about chemistry, attraction, and what to do when you’re just not feeling it. We talk about: - What attraction actually is (and what it’s not) - Why it’s normal for attraction to ebb and flow - How attachment style (and o...

You have needs. Physical needs. Emotional needs. Spiritual needs. But if you've ever felt like you should be "low-maintenance" or "not too needy," you're not the only one. In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren unpack how to identify your needs and get them met in a healthy way—whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship.

How soon is too soon to bring up faith when you're dating? And how do you bring it up naturally instead of making it feel like an interview. In this episode, Lauren and Andrea talk through the real-life questions they ask to bring up THE most important thing in their life: their faith. It's what shapes their worldview. It's the lens they look at everything else through, and it's an ESSENTIAL conve...

How slow or fast is a healthy speed to move in a dating relationship? What does building trust look like? Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk through their biggest pacing fails and what they've learned about setting a healthy dating pace. Resource: How to Develop a Relationship: The Intimacy Ladder with Jason Vallotton

Andrea, Kalli, and Lauren sit down to recap the highs, lows, and unexpected plot twists of their dating lives in 2024—what worked, what flopped, and what they’re hoping for in 2025. The ladies talk about: The biggest lessons they learned from dating last year What they’re looking forward to in 2025 How they’re staying hopeful, intentional, and open to all that 2025 holds (dating-wise and for life...

Valentine's Day feels HIGH stakes. If you're dating, it feels like there are a lot of expectations. If you're single, it feels like you're 100% gonna be sad all day. But is it possible to have a Valentine's Day and just... enjoy it? In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk about how even though they've spent a LOT of Valentine's Days single, they don't hate i...

3 best friends taking on the dating world with jokes and Jesus.

The Christians Who Date sit down with arguably one of the most entertaining couples ever to talk about setting healthy boundaries, prioritizing fun in your relationship, and dating in community. Jess and B-Real Gulino share their dating story and the advice they would give their single selves.