Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and Dené

Dr. Candice is an award winning Psychologist, Sexologist, and Professor of counseling psychology and researcher of sexual wellness and liberation, host of two dope ass podcasts “Fuck the System” and “How to Love a Human.” She has also been published over 50 times.    Some Big Takeaways from Our Conversation with Dr. Candice: Racial Discrepancies in Sexuality: The differences between growing up and...

This is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. In today’s episode, we’re helping two listeners with questions that arise around potentially ending a long term relationship.  We’re discussing: Recognizing cyclical patterns in relationships and the difficulty we often have interrupting our patterns unless something comes into play that forces us to addr...

Vicky Vox is a profound healer, a performer, spiritual empowermentor, a psychic medium, and a sorceress. She has spent a lifetime inspiring others through her work in the arts, standing unapologetically in the truth of her gifts, and raising the vibrational frequency to one of love and acceptance in every single space she enters.  We sat down to talk with Vicky about: 1. Navigating a world that fe...

This episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. Today’s question is: How do you avoid resentment? We’re discussing: The role of personal accountability in avoiding resentment How resentment relates in situations where abuse or intentional harm was present The ways peeling back layers of anger and grief to face your wounded inner child can help...

Traver Boehm is the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, author of Today I Rise, Man UNcivilized, and a two-time TEDx speaker, men’s coach and podcaster.  Traver draws upon an eclectic background ranging from work as a professional bodyguard, Mixed Martial Artist, and utilizing his Master’s Degree in Traditional Chinese MEdicine and Meditation. Traver counsels men, women, and couples on how...

This episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. Today’s question is: Why is it such a bad thing for your partner to need you and not just choose you? We’re discussing: 1. Turning the question on yourself - why do you want to be needed? 2. The idea that the feeling of being needed, in any chosen relationship, gives us a sense of purpose and/or f...

We had an opportunity to do an Instagram Live with Dr. Shefali, three time New York Times best-sellers author, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family.  We sat down to talk about her most recent book, The Parenting Map, and: 1. The importance of raising our children to be sovereign beings, rather than a possession that fit into our idealized parenting fantasie...

Trauma Bonds and Addiction is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. In this episode, we’re discussing: 1. The longstanding concept that drugs, alcohol, and other types of addictions can be a way to feel more in touch with Self/Source and numb the feelings of inadequacy 2. How safety in chosen relationships can initially come from a place of societal...

Jeremie Lotemo is a Transformation Coach who supports both men and women with cultivating tools to create radical, lasting changes in their lives and relationships. We are thrilled to have Jeremie joining us for a second time after the incredible response we had to our first conversation with him (ep. 118).  We sat down to talk about: 1. The insights he gained after making the conscious decision t...

In this solo episode, we take a look at a Buzzfeed opinion article that examines the idea that kissing and cuddling can feel like a contract for sex. In this episode we discuss: 1. The unspoken expectations for sexual intimacy that, many women feel come with any physical contact from our partners 2. The common differences in how men and women get to a place where they feel emotionally safe enough...

Jeff Guenther, (also known as Therapy Jeff) is a licensed professional counselor from Portland, Oregon who has created a huge social media following by offering relationship advice, tips, pep talks, and other resources to maximize your mental health. We sat down with Jeff to discuss: 1. working to be realistic about who people are, and the capacity they have to show up in certain ways  2. the chal...

This week’s episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by you, our listeners. In this Cheaper than Therapy conversation, we get into the nitty gritty realness of motherhood and the societal shortcomings to support moms.  If you have a question you’d like us to discuss, click here .  🌟 What You’ll Gain From this Episode: Accepting the Twists: The journey of acce...

In this live coaching session, we sat down with Jane to talk about some struggles she’s been having with infidelity in relationships and her own self-trust.  We explore: 1. How to create safety within ourselves and what that looks like, so that we are able to recognize safety, or lack thereof in relation to others 2. The opportunity to love ourselves so fully that we won’t allow anyone in our sphe...

Imani Tutt is a Marriage and Family Therapist, an Intuitive, a Content Creator, and an incredibly powerful conduit in supporting those she works with in tapping into their innate wisdom and power. Imani specializes in working with those who are committed to exploring their journey through the process of self examination. She believes that everyone has the power to change when they give themselves...

This week’s episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. This week we’re discussing: 1. What it means to self-sabotage and the different ways this can show up in our lives and relationships.  2. How we can challenge ourselves to confront our shadow-self in order to pinpoint triggers and self-limiting beliefs and behaviors so that we can practice...

Kelsey Grant is a teacher, writer, musician, wisdom keeper, and creatrix who loves the magic of love and believes in the power of cultivating a sense of healing through fulfilling relational experiences.  We sat down talk with Kelsey to talk about: 1. The importance of being honest with ourselves as we attempt to construct the relationships we most desire  2. How shadow work can serve as a tool to...

Preston Smiles is a teacher, a transformational thought leader, a conscious content creator, and a man on a mission to empower others by amplifying a multi-generational movement of radical love on the planet.  We sat down talk with Preston about: 1. The unspoken war of the sexes and the challenges that arise for couples during the early stages of parenthood  2. Some of the blind spots that we’ve h...

Kelli Moore is the co-founder and CEO of Soulfire™ Productions: the premiere podcast network for thought leaders, free thinkers, and visionaries. She’s been the host of two top-rated podcasts, The Kelli Show and OK, Babe., and is deeply passionate about helping people see themselves more clearly.  Kelli believes in setting ourselves free from expectations, people pleasing, and the stories that hol...

In this solo episode, Vanessa and Dené passed a miniature microphone back and forth in the car to record a conversation they were having on the way to their New Year's retreat. They talked about: 1. How their perspective on interdependence differs from the ways others describe it in several personal development and psychology spaces.   2. How a woman’s experience of safety in a relationship can ha...

This episode is part of a series where we coach one of our listeners through a topic or question. In this coaching session, we sat down with “Anne” to talk about the internal struggle that comes from the societal norm to feel incomplete without a partnership. If you’re interested in joining us for a coaching session, click here . Some Takeaways from this Episode: Differentiating Between Comfort vs...

Flynn Skidmore is a therapist, content creator, and business mentor who specializes in helping people create lasting change in their lives, faster. Through Flynn’s courses, community driven content, and work with individuals he finds that clients deepen their self-acceptance and start taking tangible action steps toward getting unstuck.  We sat down with Flynn to talk about: 1. Figuring out what i...

In this live coaching session, we sat down with May to talk about some struggles she’s been having with codependent tendencies. We explore: 1. how to know the difference between looking out for someone because you care about them and controlling them 2. the opportunities for building resilience that are lost when we protect those we love from difficulty 3. how important it is to hold ourselves wit...

Yasmine Cheyenne is a writer, speaker, and self-healing advocate, born and raised in Brooklyn, NY. She helps people create and strengthen their individual self-care practices by teaching them the tools that empower lasting positive changes in their lives. An Air Force Veteran, Yasmine now focuses on her self-healing workshops as well as her writing. Her book, The Sugar Jar: Create Boundaries, Embr...

In this live coaching session, Dené and Vanessa sat down with Pam to talk about her experience of anxiety within a new relationship after a prolonged period of singlehood. They explore: 1. How to cultivate a toolkit for self-soothing some of the inevitable discomforts that comes to the surface when we’re opening ourselves up to love. 2. Sitting with the difficult truth that we cannot experience lo...

Quentin de Camp is a relationship coach, a therapist, and a healing teacher who’s spent the last decade searching, analysing, learning, and modeling the most efficient techniques and tools for self-development and human psychology. and communication, key success factors and more recently neurosciences, well being in workplace, trauma informed and leadership. He supports others in removing what is...