Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and Dené

Taune Lyons is an integrative therapist, writer, and coach in the San Francisco, Bay Area. She specializes in understanding our attachment sounding, intentional relating, sexuality, unraveling our conditioning, and the integration of our painful experiences. We sat down with Taune for an IG LIVE to talk about: 1. straddling the line between the “disconnection dance” in relationships and acknowledg...

Ep.122 How we process pain  In this solo episode, we sat down to unpack some of the feedback we got on one of our recent episodes. We discuss: 1. The differentiation between allowing ourselves time to fully feel the most challenging moments in our lives vs letting those moments define us. 2. How what we’re grappling with on an individual level is so often mirrored by what we struggle with as a col...

In this live coaching session, we sat down with Steven to talk about the issues of betrayal and differing levels of desire within a marriage.  We explore: how our attachment wounds inevitably start to play out in our adult relationships and how understanding our codependent tendencies becomes the first step we take toward our own healing why the people in our lives often start taking us for grante...

Danielle LaPorte is a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100—a group that, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” The former director of a future studies think tank in Washington, DC, where she managed a team creating global scenarios. She now speaks about the intelligence of the heart. Her most recent book, How To Be Loving… when your...

In this solo episode, Vanessa and Dené hit record on one of their conversations during a recent trip they took to Hawaii.  They explore: how each of them has defined their own relationship to spirituality why it might not be helpful to demand perfectionism of ourselves and others when attempting to understand our cultural differences how the work of spiritual seeking is ultimately about staying in...

Jeremie Lotemo is a poet, writer, and coach who utilizes his insights on relational dynamics to help men live from their deepest core. Through his writing, his podcast, 1:1 coaching and building community, Jeremie supports others in the integration of their deepest shadows. We sat down with Jeremie to discuss:   1.  The invisible initiation society puts young boys through, where they are socialize...

Cheaper than Therapy is back for Season 3!   In this solo episode, Vanessa and Dené talk about what they’ve been up to during the podcast’s hiatus and some of the patterns they’ve noticed coming up lately in conversations. They discuss:   1.  What it feels like to be witnessing a massive reclaiming of the feminine energy that the current patriarchal structure of society has conditioned us to suppr...

Shaun Galanos is an internationally recognized love coach, podcast host, and speaker on a mission to help people have better, more loving relationships.  We sat down with Shaun to talk all things dating – the stigmas, what it’s like to date right now, emotional availability, and intimacy. He also shares how he himself struggled to form healthy relationships – always finding it easy to give great a...

Tricia Huffman is a podcast host, speaker, and founder of Your Joyologist. She specialized in working with those in the public eye to keep them in integrity with who they want to be while also enjoying their life. Tricia empowers others through her social media, her Claim It! Podcast show, Your Joyologist product line, and Own Your Awesome daily inspiration app. We sat down with Tricia to discuss...

In this episode, Dené drops in on a TAT Lab session on codepency led by Vanessa. We discuss the differentiation between intentions and outcomes, the codependent survival strategy of making ourselves and our needs smaller to maintain connections, the importance of not deciding for others which truths they can tolerate hearing, and asking ourselves, “what do I imagine it would feel like if I actuall...

Bryan Reeves is a former US Air Force Captain turned life coach, author, podcast host, and blogger with over 30 million readers. Since 2014, he has been coaching couples and men to help them discover and live out their dreams. His new book “Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her)”, discusses men’s challenges with intimacy and boundaries and thriving in intimate relationships. We talked with Bryan abou...

In this solo episode, we hit record on a passionate conversation we were having based on some questions we received from all of you. We dove into the question, “what do I do if my partner no longer finds me attractive”, to unpack the social and cultural pressures placed on what monogamy “should” be.  We love having conversations about various ways of breaking out of codependent paradigms and culti...

This week we’re welcoming Kristi Born and Rainier Wylde who are partners in both life and in podcasts as cohosts of the Love Like Hell podcast. Kristi is a Marriage and Family Therapist who has worked extensively with families, couples, and adolescents in a variety of contexts to bring peace of mind and decrease suffering. Rainier is a teacher, guide, and writer who works with men and women around...

In this live coaching session, we sit down for our first-ever couples coaching session with Gloria and Jay to talk about their struggles with navigating parenting and vulnerability in the midst of a developing relationship.  We talk with them about the value in modeling acceptance of our imperfections for our children, the fears that inevitably come to the surface when we’ve found someone to love,...

Jamie Graber is a coach, mind shifter, energy mover, crystal lover, meditator, author, yogi, speaker, teacher, and mother who helps others live their best life through conversation and meditation. We sat down with Jamie to talk about how her path has unfolded throughout her life and how we can connect with our humanness by remembering we’re all struggling with the same thing: self-worth, and how t...

In this live coaching session, we sit down with Kay to talk about control and her struggles and frustrations with letting go of it both at home and at work. We talk with Kay about navigating martyr syndrome, exploring the payoff we’re taking away from our codependent tendencies, the opportunities for growth we rob others of when we don’t let them fall and playing the tape through on the worst-case...

Janelle Hardy is a writer, artist, host of the Personal Mythmaking Podcast, and the creator and teacher of an online transformational memoir-writing course called, “The Art of Personal Mythmaking.” She has been a trauma-informed bodyworker for over 13 years and has integrated her expertise to support people in their creative healing work. We sat down with Janelle to learn more about her origin sto...

In this live coaching session, we sit down with Liz about her recent separation and her struggles with co-parenting and navigating her family’s new reality. We talk about reframing our narratives around what a family ‘should’ look and operate like, challenging ourselves to ask what love would say when we start to feel fear come to the surface, holding the complexity of grief and multiple truths ex...

Kute Blackson is a transformational speaker, teacher, national bestselling author, and host of the SoulTalk with Kute Blackson podcast. His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically, and fulfill their true life’s purpose. We sat down with Kute to hear more about the unique gifts he developed through his childhood, his experience o...

In this live coaching session, we sit down with Bethany to talk about navigating the vulnerability that inevitably comes up when we attempt to allow ourselves to be seen by another in a romantic relationship.  We explore the concept of talking to our inner child like we would talk to our own children, differentiating what is our to self soothing work and what is useful to bring to our partner for...

Allison Chawla is a psychotherapist, writer, life coach, mother, and spiritual counselor. In addition to many years of clinical training and a Master’s in Social Work and Psychotherapy from Fordham University, she has spent over a decade training in eastern philosophies of healing–cultivating a diverse set of skills that influence the change-focused, empathetic, and unique approach that she provid...

In this live coaching session, we sit down with Marie to discuss how she is navigating the liminal space of midlife. We explore the challenges of maintaining a social life as a co-parenting mother, how to be okay with defining ourselves for ourselves, embracing the seekers path and learning to drown out the noise when we feel misunderstood by society, and looking at what might be considered “failu...

We feel so lucky to have not one, but two incredible guests that we treasure so deeply. We’re thrilled to bring back two of our favorite guests, Mildred Murillo and Ashley Torrent.  Milly is an astrologer and spiritual coach who believes astrology is about guiding her clients to discover the divine wisdom and strength that is within them.  Ashley is a psychospiritual counselor, intuitive medium, a...

It’s the 100th episode of Cheaper Than Therapy! We are humbled by this journey and deeply grateful for all of you who have walked alongside us, listening in and engaging with us every week. We hope the podcast has served as a consistent, safe space for you - as much as it has for us - during a time as a collective we’ve experienced so much turbulence across every aspect of life. For this milestone...

Michael Anthony is a transformational coach and the founder of Think Unbroken, a community committed to the support and growth of Trauma Warriors. We sat down to talk with Michael about his incredible journey of overcoming adversity through deep, dedicated work and healing. We explore the importance of consistently taking daily action steps toward building the life you want for yourself, going dir...