Character Outs

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I talk about some of the personality traits that I have as a result of growing up in a toxic family and being raised by a narcissistic mother. I rattle off a list of things that I have noticed about myself and discuss how my narcissistic mother exacerbated these traits. And as if I didn't feel abnormal enough because I came from a toxic family, I...

On this episode, I read a letter written by Alice that details her journey of survival and hope. Alice is the scapegoat, oldest daughter of four. She is a survivor of the evil, sadistic, and insidious emotional abuse of her narcissistic mother. While her mother tried to destroy her and almost did, Alice prevailed. As she says, 'Going no contact has allowed me the opportunity to prioritize my m...

Soooooo....... On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I speak from a place of vulnerability. Imma lay it all out there friends...I am in a funk this week. Recently, something triggered me on a deep level and opened some unhealed wounds that took me a minute to process. This left me feeling extremely vulnerable and giving me all the feels of abandonment, unworthiness, you name it.. ya know....

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I chat with Mac who I like to call-Batman. Mac is a Dad of 2, host of the podcast: Dimming the Gaslight and currently in the fight of his life to protect his children, defend his character and find others who have suffered emotional abuse at the hands of their narcissistic spouse. He gives insight to the emotional hijacking, parental alienation and fal...

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we will talk about how to handle the people who cannot handle that we have gone no contact with your toxic family. You know the type: Oh, my goodness, you don't talk to your family? But: *it's your mom? *you need for forgive *you will feel bad when they die Yea... This episode is about empowering YOU! I share a few concrete things that you can...

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I have Doug Buggle back for part 2! Doug takes a deep dive into the abuse that he endured while married to his covert narcissistic ex-wife Tammy. We talk about the ways in which she insidiously invaded the relationships with his children. The controlling, humiliating and abusive ways in which she treated Doug. And, what happened to his relationships wh...

Ready for adulthood? Not if you had a narcissistic mom. On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we discuss ways in which our narcissistic mothers failed to prepare us for adulthood. From the lack of character-building conversations, to enabling us, and making us dependent upon her. To teaching us that the only relationship that was important in life was......our relationship with her. This...

On this episode, I sit down with Doug Buggle. A man with a heart of gold and quite a story to tell. Doug is a father of two and a recent survivor of narcissistic abuse from his covert narcissistic ex-wife of almost 12 years. Having had no knowledge of what a narcissist even was, he recounts what it felt like to be under the spell of the narcissist, the toll it took on his physical and mental healt...

In this episode we dive into: *What no contact IS: -the last resort -putting a stop to the cycle of abuse -peace in knowing your worth -strength -survival *What no contact IS NOT: -a trend -a result of one misunderstanding -a grudge -the inability to forgive -weakness This episode is to empower YOU when confronted by the judgemental comments and questions of people who can't wrap their heads aroun...

In this episode we will compare and contrast the healthy mom vs. the narcissitic mom. This Summer has been wild and full of change and emotions in this house! We dropped two kids off at college and our oldest daughter bought her first apartment and moved out on her own! SHOWEEEEEE!!!!! Oh the emotions.... As I walked through the emotions of it all, I couldn't help but reflect on how my narcissisti...

are you still feeling like an ass hole? Well, are you? Are you still feeling like an ass hole for walking away from your toxic family? For preserving your peace, protecting your kids, breaking generational cycles and ending the cycle of narcissistic abuse? Wait, YOU feel like the ass hole? So..who is making you feel like an ass hole? Is it the comments of a well meaning friend? Is it a stranger wh...

generation gap On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we discuss something I have named: generation gap. It's the generation standing in the gap. The generation comprised of individuals who have gone no contact with their toxic family. The generation that is simultaneously breaking toxic generational cycles, while healing their own childhood trauma, all while raising our children completely...

On this episode we take a trip down memory lane and talk aboout the day to day life with the narcissistic. I share my epiphanies about how I oftentimes mirrored my narcissistic mother, how I modified my behavior to keep the peace and how that left me with nothing but a muddied life. Mirroring the narcissist : When we are so concerned about being discarded by our narcissistic mother and the only go...

STORIES EPISODE Join me on this Stories Episode of the Character Outs Podcast as I read Marie's story. Marie not only endured a lifetime of physical and emotional abuse at the hands of her narcissitic mother, but she also had an enabling father and narcissistic brother who turned their backs on her. Growing up in a Korean family, she was immediately at a disadvantage for simply being born a girl....

the round and round cycle of the narcissist The cycle of the narcissist, its a predictable pattern. And guess what, I'm gonna say it, my friend, it is never, ever going to change. If you were in Vegas, I would tell you to put all your money on your narcissistic mother or father never changing. Like, ever. It is so difficult for us not only to embrace the reality that our mother, the one who was su...

Bella's Story Join me as I speak to Bella. She is a Psychologist from Brazil, as well as a survivor of the oppressive emotional abuse of her narcissistic mother. Bella is an eloquent, intelligent and brave mom who is determined to maintain her peace as well as break toxic generation cycles. She speaks openly and honestly about her trauma and how she was able to break free. Bella is candid about he...

Ok so the past few weeks have been pretty shitty. And ya know what, that's ok. You don't have to have it all together. I sure don't. This episode is a reminder to you that you may not have all the answers on this no contact journey with your toxic family, I don't either. No contact with toxic family can feel like the the uncertainty of the ocean. Sometimes the waters are calm and the sun is shinin...

Welcome to the first episode of a new addition to The Character Outs Podcast. If you were raised in a toxic family, you probably thought the things that happened in your home were totally normal right? I bet you never questioned a thing. But bring yourself back to the moment when you realized that other families didn't use tactics like manipulation or belittling. That mothers didn't use the silent...

Ooohhh..Part 2 gave us Wednesday Addams vibes. On this episode, we dive deeper into the psychotic and controlling nature of my covert passive agressive mother and how she impacted my daugher, who is now 22. She also speaks about her grandfather, his wife and how losing that relationship has affected her. We have real talk about how it feels to be without a 'village.' We have real talk about though...

Worried about how no going no contact with your toxic family will affect your children?  On this episode, I interview my 22 year old daughter. She speaks candidly about her relationship with her narcissistic grandmother.  She speaks about how the manipulation and control of my mother began at a very young age and how this just seemed completely normal. So normal in fact, that she didn't even tell...

life with my covert passive aggressive narcissistic mother: part 2 In this episode I continue the discussion about my relationship with my covert passive aggressive narcissistic mother. The manipulation and toxicity looks very different in adulthood than it does in childhood. As I grew, and then began to set boundaries, speak my truth, and be my authentic self, my mother set out on an all out war...

Growing up with a covert passive aggressive narcissistic mom... She confuses your mind so deeply that sometimes you don't even recognize the depth of the toxicity until you break free. The overwhelming sense of responsibility to take care of her, not hurt her feelings, keep her happy...all things you were taught at a very young age. Confusing because you have an inherent desire to love and trust y...

sadness- Bleep. Bloop. That damn emotion that slaps you up side the head, even during our strongest moments. Add to the mix that you are probably an an empath. So this emotion of sadness as it pertains to your no contact journey with your toxic family can be a tricky one to walk through.  On this episode we discuss: ~What we can do when this emotion of sadness overwhelms us. ~How we can be purpose...

On this episode, I discuss 3 tips that helped me stay strong after going no contact with my toxic family. ~1: Recognize the abuse ~2: Rebuild your self-worth ~3: Remain silent Going no contact with toxic family is never a walk away and forget it deal. Join me as I discuss things that I did to help me rewire my brain from the emotinal abuse of my covert passive aggressive narcissit mother. How I de...