Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting

What if your child's challenging behavior isn't just an opportunity for their growth—but yours too? In this episode, I share why I believe there is a formula for improving behavior, despite what some Christian voices may say. We talk about why understanding child development and behavior doesn't compete with Scripture, it complements it. I also share why blanket encouragement like "you're a good m...

My brain naturally wants to lecture when my kids are fighting or when someone misbehaves or disobeys. What I've also learned is that it doesn't work when my kids (or me) are dys-regulated. However, my brain continues to try and push me to do it in the heat of the moment...why? Today, we are talking all about it. There are 5 main reasons I believe we do this and I'm going to shed some light on them...

Do you want to avoid the public tantrum with your child so much so that you give in to more screen time than you'd like? Or rely on threats or bribes to get you through? Do you sometimes avoid going out altogether? Then today is for you!    You will learn the one thing that will help drastically decrease (or remove them pretty much altogether, though I can't make promises) the public tantrums with...

If you've never heard of this "hack" it's spreading around social media like wildfire...the idea is that when your toddler/young child is having a meltdown you start shouting a random name and this distracts your child out of the meltdown. Listen in as I share why I do NOT recommend this. I dive into reason's why that specifically relate to your child's development and emotional processing. I also...

I've shared all of my other kids' birth stories and thought I'd share Lylah's. You can listen to the other ones here: Luella's: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000632069769   Huxton's: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000600263314   Myles': http...

Triggers have deep roots because they are a set of patterns that have been repeatedly enforced throughout your life, but there are a few other things that I think contribute to how frequently we are triggered and how easily frustrated we can become as moms to little kids. Today, I dive into one thing that I think is incredibly important to assess and reflect on that can significantly impact how we...

I’m so excited to be BACK!!!   Today, I’m sharing why I’m back and how the podcast will be shifting slightly.   If you’ve enjoyed the podcast/previous episodes I would love if you would be willing to scroll to the bottom of the show and submit a rating and review! This will help other moms find the behavior help they are looking for and grow our community 🙂   If you have questions about 1:1 coach...

I have been really deeply reflecting on my more challenging parenting days lately and even thinking back to when I was really struggling with my oldest to determine what is one of the main contributing factors to both. And what I've discovered is that in both instances I have had expectations that went unmet.  These expectations weren't inappropriate or unrealistic for my child's age, however, it...

Podcasts are such a wonderful, free tool to utilize for ourselves as we are trying to learn different skills or information, but it is also a great option for our kids too! Sometimes it can be hard to make sure that the information and words are kids are hearing are appropriate and fruitful so today, I wanted to share some podcasts that my kids LOVE. They enjoy listening to podcasts during quiet t...

I've shared my personal and professional recommendation not to use sticker/reward charts on a previous episode, but today I wanted to chat more about rewards. In this episode, we discuss: *bribes vs rewards *why I don't use bribes *how I use rewards (with examples) *how to utilize age/child appropriate expectations to decrease needing to rely on bribery or consequences to get the desired behavior...

Today, I wanted to ask you a simple question to get you thinking about where you are going to for advice and guidance first. Coaches, teachers, podcasts, books, are all great resources, but there's only One who knows exactly what you need and can guide you in the direction that's best for you and your family. I hope this message blesses you!   Connect with me via email: kjzeiher@gmail.com or DM me...

I am a part of a few business broadcast channels on IG and I got a message a couple weeks ago talking about the bare minimum or baseline standard for what you would do each day to keep your business moving forward, for establishing a consistent foundation. I thought this was also really pertinent to managing triggers... ‘if you don’t set a baseline standard for what you’ll accept in life, you’ll f...

While this way of parenting has been completely transformative for me and my family in SO many ways, that doesn't mean it has always come easy. Sometimes the challenges we face can make us question if this way is really the best way. It can also be discouraging if we aren't seeing the results we are expecting at the rate at which we are expecting them.   Today, I wanted to share 5 pieces of advice...

I'm guessing you've heard people talk about and maybe even felt like you've lost yourself in motherhood. And while there can definitely be truth to that, today I want to share the perspective that we actually don't lose ourselves in motherhood. Instead, it can be the exact place where we find who we were created to be.   1:1 Coaching, Courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815   Don't forget to get my...

Most of the time we address the behavior we see; it's much easier and honestly, just comes naturally.  However, if we really want to see behavior shifts we need to get to the deeper rooted issue and find out what is really going on at a heart level so we can make consistent change. Today, I wanted to share with you a question framework that will help you do this with your child, no matter the age!...

Last weekend in church the pastor was talking about the 5th commandment: Honor your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.   He prompted us as parents to reflect on what we are commanding (or instructing) our kids....is it because the behavior truly needs to be corrected, a heart issue, or is it because we are getting frustrated or annoyed?...

Do you have a child who cries frequently or who will go through days where he/she starts and stops all day long?? Then this is the episode for you!   Tune in as we chat through my favorite listening tool: Stay Listening   1:1 Coaching 50% off in preparation for the holidays!! [October 17th, 2024 - October 21st, 2024!!] DM or email me to take advantage!   Get the free step by step guide to Stay Lis...

Faith and my spiritual growth has a lot to do with how I am able to consistently incorporate this style of parenting. One of the things that has bothered me most is seeing christian influencers on IG share how this way of parenting is unbiblical. And while they, of course, are entitled to their own opinion, I think most often they don't truly understand what is behind. this way of parenting.    I...

Do you ever find yourself struggling with your mood? Like you woke up on the wrong side of the bed? Or the day started off well but then you got triggered by something your child did or said? You want to shift back into fun, joyful, playful, connection but it just feels hard...maybe even impossible. Today, I share 5 simple ways you can create that shift AND do it with your kids - I don't know abou...

Today, I thought it would be fun to share with you a little peek into my parenting.    Spoiler alert! No matter how much someone is trained, practices what they teach, knows their stuff, etc, etc they are STILL human and the STILL need to make shifts and adjustments. That is what I want to share with you today. Some of my personal experience with a nagging behavior that has been happening here and...

Don't forget to get my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behavior course (currently $197) for FREE!! Here's what to do: leave a rating and review, screenshot it and email it to kjzeiher@gmail.com . That's it!   Do you ever struggle with what you should say to your child? Maybe it's during a meltdown or a difficult situation and you want your child to feel heard and validated.    Have you seen t...

Hey there, I'm so excited to announce that the Chaos to Connected podcast is coming back!!!  I took a break about 6 months ago and had no idea whether I'd be back or not, but I'm making some big pivots and wanted to share them with you today. New episodes will begin airing in September when I re-launch, but in the meantime I would LOVE to hear from you! What questions do you have? What topics do y...

It can be really easy, especially when you are parenting a child who is struggling with behavior or lots of strong emotions, to forget that your child is just a mini version of you. While life experience and higher level executive functioning skills aren't the same, the way the brain processes and responds to hurts is. It can be easy to forget this when you are triggered from behavior so today, I...

One of the most common questions I get asked is what types of deep input activities I would recommend for a child who acts or plays aggressively (hitting, kicking, throwing, etc). Previously, I would go into detail on how to incorporate into a sensory diet, but now, through additional training and experience I recognize that this alone isn't the answer.   Today, I share how sensory processing work...

If you're a mom to more than one child you've probably experienced one child's excitement over a birthday while another child was less than happy about it. Having to wait for all of the attention and presents can be a big challenge for kids and it does matter how you handle it. If you are someone that gets the other child a present too or you wonder if that's the "right" thing to do, I wanted to s...