Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting

Do you ever feel like the attitudes, the whining, and the fighting sometimes just really over take your entire home? That's how I felt 2 weeks ago. I decided something needed to change and I discovered ONE thing that makes all the difference. We moved from constant sibling fighting, frequent whining, hitting/kicking/pinching to try and solve problems, and me feeling a lot of annoyance, anger, and...

Last week, I asked what was the hardest thing about connection focused parenting; one of the responses I received was that when feeling exhausted it was especially hard to try to respond to behaviors positively or with connection.   I. Hear. That.!!!   Today, I wanted to share what to do if you're finding yourself in this same situation...and you might be surprised by my recommendation!   If this...

Do your kids struggle to get along? It can be really disheartening, patience testing, and frustrating when your kids just can't seem to figure out how to play together for 5 minutes! But the good news?! You can help! Today, I dive into 3 keys to approaching sibling conflict in a connection focused way that will help model and reinforce this approach for them in future scenarios that involve disagr...

There is so much out there when it comes to how you "should" respond to your child's behavior or the "right" thing to say for xyz situation. But who can remember all of that?   Plus, what if said account or expert never told you what to do for the specific situation you are dealing with? Let the panic set in!   No, don't do that.   Instead, listen in today as I share one piece of advice that will...

One of the biggest challenges I continue to hear over and over from moms is that the behavior can be a struggle, yes, but overall it's figuring out how to stay calm through that behavior that poses the biggest obstacle.   Today, I wanted to share some insights with you! If you are aware of what your triggers are but haven't yet processed them, or even know how to do that, I am walking you through...

I hosted a challenge last weekend called 3 Building Blocks to Better Behavior and it was so much fun! If you weren't able to join and you want to get the replays + resources, send me an email or DM me over on IG. Only available through January 21st!   Today, I wanted to share one of those trainings with you because I think it's a key factor in your child's ability to learn to self-regulate (well,...

Happy New Year!    Even though everyone is talking about goals and resolutions for the new year I do think it's a great natural time to evaluate a few things in motherhood...   *how do you feel like you're managing your triggers? *are you feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, and/or struggling regularly with more frustration than enjoyment in motherhood? *is your child struggling with behavi...

Do you ever feel like sometimes you'd just rather not go and do the things because you know the behavior that will happen afterwards?  Or do you ever struggle to know what to do when your child has a tantrum in the middle of the holiday gathering? Or do you find it really challenging to manage your child's behaviors and your responses to them when you are also overwhelmed or overtired? Today, I ta...

Today, my chat with Maureen from Yes Peas Nutrition continues!   We cover: -strategies to make meal planning and meal prep less overwhelming -tips to encourage your child to eat a wider variety of food during your meal planning and prep -holiday food -navigating sugar with your child(ren) during the holidays **and MORE!   Find her at: @yespeasnutrition over on IG or her website: https://www.yespea...

Do you ever struggle with a child who refuses to eat what you've made for supper?  Have you tried the..."eat x amount of bites before you can..." either have more of something already finished or something else entirely? Today, I chat with Maureen, a mom and nutritionist who breaks down mealtimes for us in a way that perfectly parallels the way in which I encourage you to respond to behaviors...wi...

Have you heard of Elf on the Shelf??  What am I saying? Of course you have!  Are you currently doing it? Or Shepherd on the Search? Last year, my thoughts were completely different so today I wanted to dive into the topic a little further. Tune in as I share 2 things you should stay away from if you are going to participate! As well as modifications if you are needing something extra simple this y...

If you're like me, you are in a current season of motherhood overwhelm; whether it's due to behaviors or life circumstances there are a few strategies I've been working on implementing that I hope will bless you too!   Do you have any other recommendations? Share them here: kjzeiher@gmail.com   Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com   Want to schedule an info call and see i...

Timeouts are such a common practice when parents are trying to get their kids to listen; I would even venture to guess it's a recommendation from professionals and something regularly talked about as a helpful behavior strategy on the internet.   But, did you know that sending your child off to a timeout is creating more disconnection. When there is disconnection, your child's "thinking" brain is...

If you need a step by step guide to (nearly) eliminating your child's aggressive/physical behaviors, check the show notes. If you're not ready to jump all in or you don't feel like you can maintain your cool, try the strategy I share about in today's episode. It may push you outside of your comfort zone or the societal norm for managing this kind of behavior, but I guarantee you'll get results AND...

Do you struggle to bring your child out in public because he/she runs from you?  Do you get frustrated and try to utilize manipulation strategies (consequences/threats, bribes) to get the behavior you want and find it doesn't work? Or not consistently anyway? Have you or have you thought about buying a "leash" for your child because you just need to be sure your child is safe while you are out in...

Tune in today as I answer your questions!   We chat about: *when the calming strategies don't seem to be helping *how to support a child through big feelings when you have other children around *what to do when a child is melting down everyday after daycare *aggressive behaviors *a child who is overly attached to one parent over the other   If you have a question you'd like answered, email it to m...

If you like birth stories, tune in today as I share our 3rd child (and first girl), Luella's brith story!   In case you missed them, here are the birth stories of my boys: Myles' Birth Story: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000595792704   Huxton's Birth Story: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-help...

When your child's behavior feels like a lot or you are feeling really chaotic and possibly even triggered, I think the natural inclination is to exert your authority in ways you might not normally because you are in need of more control.   When you want to gain more control over your child's meltdowns that often comes in the form of more talking. But, that's usually not going to get you anywhere.....

When I was struggling with my child's intense behavior, I was looking for all of the ways to "fix" it. As I was searching, I came to find that a lot of my patterning and conditioning impacted SO much of my parenting and how I came to my child's behavior.   So many moms have told me they struggle more with managing their own triggers than dealing with the behavior. If this sounds like you, join me...

Laura is a wife and mama to 10 amazing people. She is the founder of Mama Systems, a coaching business that helps mamas bring peace to their homes through systems so they can be intentional with their people and show up as the best mama possible.    Ways to Connect with Laura: www.mamasystems.net www.instagram.com/mamasystems www.facebook.com/mamasystems.net https://www.mamasystems.net/advocate-li...

The morning of the day I recorded this episode was just one of those days...do you know what I'm talking about? When every time you turn your back your kids are fighting or a meltdown starts...   Well let's just say I didn't handle it as well as I usually do. I was majorly triggered. And despite knowing I was doing things, like yelling, that I hate doing and didn't want to do, I just couldn't help...

Has your child ever had a public, in the middle of the aisle tantrum? Did you feel judged? Embarrassed? Unsure of what to do?  Today I share 3 ways to respond when this happens; the responses are based on where you're at on this connection focused parent journey as well as where you're at on the being triggered spectrum.   Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all o...

Is your child back in school or daycare? Or heading back to school or daycare soon? Maybe you are starting a year of homeschool? With a big transition like this, children often have an uptick in behavior.  Today, I dive into 4 tips that will help make this transition as smooth as possible and with less behavior challenges. Even if you aren't heading into a school year because your littles aren't s...

Have you been struggling to get your child potty trained?   Is your child able to go sometimes but not others, refusing to go at certain places, holding in BMs?    Or maybe your child is potty trained but struggles with picky eating or other controlling types of behavior...   Then this episode is for you. Join me as I share why I don't recommend using treats and bribes during potty training and th...

If you haven't listened to last week's episode, take some time (before or after this) and do so; I discussed communicating about problem solving with kids and tips on how to increase independence with problem solving even from a young age.   Today, I dive into praise.    When I first came across this style of connection focused parenting, I heard a lot of recommendations not to praise...like, at a...