Change My Relationship

Self-evaluation is healthy and necessary. The problem is that codependents, including Christian codependents, tend to take too much responsibility and end up invalidating themselves. This video will show you how to evaluate, not invalidate yourself.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrel...

People in the church have adopted the idea of soul ties. They are believed to explain the strong connections between people that are difficult to break. It is important to analyze whether this is true or whether there are other explanations for them that make as much or more sense. They are also presented as biblical, but are they? Is there evidence of them in Scripture? Knowing scriptural truth a...

Do you believe you should deal with the situations that make you angry before you go to sleep at night? Ephesians 4:26 tells us to be angry and not sin. That may mean you should go to sleep without confronting.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube:...

Does God want us to suffer? Christians say many things, giving the impression that He does. We hear that God brings suffering to make us rely on Him. We hear that God wants us to grow and mature through trials. We also hear that God is glorified through our suffering. There are Bible verses that teach all those things.  If God wants us to suffer and it brings out so much good, should we seek out w...

Is it okay to want a good life as a Christian? Is it okay to strive for material possessions to give our children a good life? I answered this question for one of my subscribers. Find out what I said.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://yo...

Are generational curses causing the problems in your toxic relationship? Some Christians think they are. The scriptural truth matters because what you believe is causing the problems will guide your approach to dealing with them. There are many combinations of problems you may have to deal with, and many options for how to address them. You want nothing more than to help your loved one and fix you...

How can you get unstuck in your life and toxic relationships? If you're in the middle of a maze of problems and unable to resolve them, you are frustrated and overwhelmed. If you are in a dysfunctional relationship, you are confused. You can find suggestions everywhere on what you should do, but what will work? What is the next step? Too much information can make it worse. What you need is simple,...

How can you identify a difficult person? The answer to that question is critically important because you need to know who you are dealing with whether it is someone you are married to, related to, or have just met. Listen to this video to find out how to identify a difficult person.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: ht...

You are told to listen to what people say with an open mind and to try to understand their perceptions, but what do you do if the person has distorted perceptions? Listen to find out.     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/aXRUjZna...

Manipulative undermining occurs when a person deliberately and deceitfully does whatever it takes to take away your power. Learn more about this manipulative tactic by listening to this podcast.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be...

Are you living congruently in your relationships? You are not if you are not setting boundaries and living in a way that aligns with your values and convictions. Dysfunctional and difficult relationships often weaken our resolve to stand up for what we believe is right. Watch this video to find out how to live congruently in your relationships.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Face...

Many things are said in Christian circles that lead us to draw conclusions about scriptural truths that aren't completely accurate. One of those is that God breaks those who love him. Have you gotten the impression that even though God is good, He wants us to be broken so He can teach us? I know I have. I hear things said all the time that lead to that conclusion, but in this video, I challenge th...

You know the saying, "Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result." This applies to dysfunctional families, dysfunctional relationships, and toxic relationships. They can literally make us do crazy things. And the dynamics are so complicated and confusing that it is difficult to figure out how to change our reactions. Remembering simple relationship tips is helpful. One of th...

Dysfunctional families have lots of friction and disagreement that isn't easy to navigate. There are a myriad of problems. One of those is when you don't like your child's partner. There are many reasons that it might be that way. Yet, how you react to this situation is similar regardless of the reasons. There are things you can do that will damage your relationship and cause more relationship pro...

Dysfunctional families have lots of relationship problems. One of the big ones is when your wife doesn't like your family. Whether it is one or both of your parents, your siblings, or anyone else, it causes a huge amount of stress and subsequent landmines you have to navigate as a husband.  Not only is your wife unhappy, you know your family isn't happy. You are in the middle and need help to navi...

In your abusive relationships, is power over you an illusion? I know it doesn't seem like it is. The abuser exerts control, and it feels impossible to challenge it. You feel stuck, victimized, confused, and powerless. It takes a lot of work to be able to stand up against verbal abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and any other abuse controllers use. One of those things you can begin to do to f...

Holidays are painful for people who are going through grief, loss, dysfunctional relationships, and painful memories among many other things. Listen to this video to get ideas on how to deal with holiday triggers.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTub...

Self care for the holidays is essential for everyone but critical for anyone dealing with dysfunctional family dynamics. Watch this video for some practical ideas.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/2fHR1tqiteE

Healing from sexual betrayal is a complex process that involves navigating the six stages of grief. Betrayal trauma recovery is necessary when trust has been violated by someone who should have been faithful and trustworthy. It is necessary to heal from all types of infidelity: emotional and sexual affairs, sexual addiction, prostitution, and any other sexual acting out. The betrayal involves many...

Toxic relationships are full of complex dynamics, unresolved problems, and painful feelings. We react to all those things by trying to fix, control, and change people. Even when it doesn't make sense to hang on, we do. We don't realize that the only choice we have is to let go or be dragged. Whether it is love, guilt, trauma bonding, codependency, or fear, we keep trying to make things right even...

Bobbie Tea describes an unbelievable lifetime of abuse starting at two years of age. Her story is living proof that abuse victims continue to pick abusers until they get strong enough to say, "No more!" In Bobbie's case, her abuse history included a pervasive family history of sexual molestation that strongly suggests there is a spiritual generational component.   According to the U.S. Department...

Shame-based people react to anything you say that criticizes them or threatens to expose their weaknesses. They also do other dysfunctional things that range anywhere from codependency to addiction to abuse and more. Watch this video to get more understanding about why shame-based people do what they do and also learn how to respond to them.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Faceboo...

Christian codependency can affect whether you are a healthy or a codependent caregiver. When you need to care for someone in your life, it is never easy. Whether it is caring for an elder parent, a mentally ill or disabled child, or a chronically sick spouse, you will need to be intentional about the boundaries you set. It is hard to figure out how to take care of yourself when the demands are ove...

Holidays are difficult for people who have dysfunctional families. They are also painful for people with loss and bad memories. While you cannot change the circumstances, one of the things you can do is to change your expectations. Watch this video to see how this simple change can make a big difference. #changeexpectations #holidayemotions #dysfunctionalfamilies   Website: https://www.changemyrel...

Sex in your dysfunctional, painful, toxic marriage is impacted by the problems. Sexual dissatisfaction is high when you have anger, hurt, and rejection and many unresolved problems. You don't feel like being intimate with a person who causes you pain and doesn't care. Christian marriage advice often tells you to have more sex because your body belongs to your husband. Yet, doing that only makes yo...