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35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #10 For a long time, I treated joy like a reward. Something that would come after I worked hard enough, achieved enough, or reached the next milestone. Lately, I'm learning something completely different. Joy isn't the destination. It's the direction. In this episode, I reflect on what it means to use joy as a boundary instead of fear, pressu...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #9 For a long time, I believed that everything I shared needed to be useful. A lesson. A takeaway. A transformation. Something people could immediately apply to their lives. I realize now that this wasn't just showing up in my content. It was showing up in my friendships, relationships, work, and pretty much every area of my life. Somewhere along the...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 - Lesson #8 For most of my life, I only showed myself when I felt strong. When I had something to prove. When I had results. When I had answers. When I could show the polished version. And when I didn't? I disappeared. In this episode, I reflect on what it means to let the messy middle be seen. Not because it's strategic. Not because it's inspiring. B...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #7 For most of my life, I interpreted silence as rejection. If someone didn't call, text, respond, initiate, or seem interested, I assumed it meant something about me. That I wasn't enough. That I wasn't interesting enough. That I hadn't done enough. In this episode, I reflect on where that belief came from and how it shaped the way I sho...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #6 For most of my life, I interpreted silence as rejection. If someone didn't call, text, respond, initiate, or seem interested, I assumed it meant something about me. That I wasn't enough. That I wasn't interesting enough. That I hadn't done enough. In this episode, I reflect on where that belief came from and how it shaped the way I sho...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #5 For a long time, feeling cringe was a sign that I should stop. Stop posting. Stop sharing. Stop showing up. Stop being seen. But lately, I'm learning that cringe is often just the feeling of doing something before it feels natural. In this episode, I reflect on my journey with social media, visibility, and learning in public. Because the truth is,...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #4 For most of my life, I believed pressure was a good thing. Pressure made me work harder. Pressure made me achieve. Pressure made me productive. And to be fair, it worked. It helped me build businesses, create projects, push through challenges, and accomplish things I’m proud of. But it also came with a cost. Stress. Exhaustion. Performance. Constantly...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #3 For most of my life, I assumed that if I was good at something, I should keep doing it. It sounds logical. But lately, I'm learning that competence and alignment are not the same thing. In this episode, I reflect on the Playground experiment and the decision to cancel it, even after people had signed up. From the outside, it looked like it was wor...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #2 For a long time, I believed that being loved meant being needed. If I could help, fix, support, carry, solve, advise, or be useful somehow, then I felt valuable. Then I felt chosen. But lately, I've been realizing that this way of loving came with a cost: overextending myself, overgiving, and making my worth dependent on what I could provide. In t...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #1 In this episode, I reflect on something that has been showing up in different areas of my life: the feeling that what I do is never quite enough. I share two recent examples — one from my portrait series and one from a friendship — that helped me see how often I confuse my worth with my effort, and love with usefulness. The more I sat with it, the mor...

In this episode, I reflect on discomfort — and how staying in it might actually be the thing that helps us grow the most. Lately, with content creation and showing up online, I’ve noticed that the more I stop trying to control everything, the more natural and true my voice becomes. It’s uncomfortable. It’s awkward. Sometimes it feels cringe. But I also realized that when I stay in that discomfort...

In this episode, I reflect on my relationship with social media, content creation, and finding my voice again. At the beginning of the year, after my 21-day challenge, I realized I was scripting myself too much. I focused on saying the right thing, sounding smart, and meeting people’s expectations — especially when certain posts started going viral. But slowly, I’m coming back to a more inside-out...

In this episode, I reflect on grief, old dreams, and the way life keeps moving. Launching the Playground reminded me of the dance school I built for seven years. A beautiful adventure that gave me so much, but also took a lot from me. I talk about the space I once dreamed of creating in the Netherlands, and the peace that comes with realizing that dream is changing now. Not disappearing — evolving...

In this episode, I talk about gratitude in a way that feels different for me now. Not just writing it down or saying the words, but really feeling it in my body. Gratitude for this life, for where I am, for what 2025 taught me, for the things I’m still grieving, and even for the moments that felt hard. I reflect on how gratitude can bring us back to ourselves, to our heart, and to what really matt...

In this episode, I reflect on my recent Playground launch — and why I decided to stop it, even after people had signed up. For weeks, my body had been screaming at me through anxiety, sleepless nights, eczema, and stress. And I finally had to admit something to myself: I was still trying to prove that I was okay after everything 2025 brought me. This one is about listening to your body, recognizin...

In this episode, I reflect on friendships, relationships, and the kinds of people we allow into our lives. A conversation with a friend made me realize how much life experiences can change the way we see love, support, connection, and emotional capacity. We talked about conditional love, overgiving, people-pleasing, and how exhausting it can be to constantly try to earn belonging through caring fo...

In this episode, I talk about something simple: play. For me, play means this: Permission to Live As Yourself. I share how, these past few months, I’ve been trying things, making mistakes, learning, and just… playing. With my podcast, my videos, and my projects. And I realized something: when we take life too seriously, our body feels tight, stressed, and heavy. But when we play, everything feels...

In this episode, I talk about how happy I felt sharing my first post about the Playground Weekend. It made me look back at the last four months and realize how much I’ve done — even though last year was really hard for me. I felt lost, tired, and didn’t know who I was anymore. This year, I made a decision: I want things to be different. So I started again. Slowly. Step by step. Posting, creating,...

In this episode, I reflect on the 3-day residency I just experienced — and what really stayed with me. Beyond the logistics, beyond the event itself, the biggest lesson always comes back to identity. Stripping away the titles. The labels. The roles. And coming back to who you are at your core — and choosing to define that for yourself. This one is about sovereignty. About language. About owning yo...

In this episode, I reflect on the first four months of 2026 — and how much can change in just one year. Looking back at my vision board from last year versus this year, I realized something: this time, I chose for me. Not for expectations, not for a business, not for anyone else. And now, almost 75% of what I wrote down has already happened. Not because I forced it — but because I became it. This...

In this episode, I reflect on the role of intention behind everything I do. Because motivation comes and goes. Some days you feel it, some days you don’t. But intention — your why — is what keeps you grounded when the energy drops. I talk about how coming back to that intention helps me stay consistent, keep showing up, and continue building what matters to me, even when I don’t feel like it. This...

In this episode, I reflect on something that’s been coming up in my friendships: reciprocity. What it means to really show up for each other. Not only in the hard moments, but also in the wins, the risks, the decisions that take courage. I share an experience where I noticed a gap — between the way I support my friends, and what I sometimes receive back. Not from a place of blame, but from a place...

In this episode, I share a moment that made me realize what audacity actually looks like in real life. I was at a friend’s event, filming for my portrait series, when two women came up to me, asked about what I was doing… and ended up offering me a job on the spot. And it hit me: the difference wasn’t the project. It was how I spoke about it. The energy. The belief. The way I owned it without shri...

In this episode, I share a moment that started with a breakdown — and turned into something else. The realization that I’m starting from scratch. And that instead of seeing it as something scary, I can also see it as a chance. A chance to choose differently. I talk about my dad, about recognizing parts of myself in him — especially around performance and proving — and how that awareness is shiftin...

In this episode, I reflect on something I hadn’t fully seen before: how I’ve been sabotaging myself. Not because of everyone — but because of a few people. I talk about social media, about muting people, and still feeling their presence. Still feeling watched, judged. Especially now that I’m transitioning — from the version of me people knew, to a version that feels more exposed, more honest, more...