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What happens when you finally receive the recognition you've been waiting for, only to realise that you don't need it in quite the same way anymore? In this episode, a conversation on the way to the airport sparks a series of aha moments about external validation, creative ambition and the way we measure success. I look back at six years of building my dance school, creating experiences an...

What does it really mean to surrender? And why do we sometimes need life to turn everything upside down before we start feeling supported by something bigger than ourselves? In this episode, a stone wall in my new apartment in Sardinia sends me down a rabbit hole about faith, grief, my dad, and everything that happened in my life over the past year and a half. I talk about losing my dad, leaving t...

Why do some people have FOMO, while others seem to have JOMO — the joy of missing out? In this early-morning reflection from Cagliari, I talk about a new friendship, the funny ways we connect with people, and what these encounters are teaching me about commitment, boundaries, and listening to myself. What does it actually mean to “keep in touch”? Why do we sometimes turn a simple invitation into a...

I've been putting myself out there, receiving rejection, and realizing that maybe rejection isn't what I thought it was. In this episode, I share the fear of reaching out to my former dance community about Ghana Dance Camp, the stories I tell myself about how people might perceive me, and what happens when I choose to act anyway. We get into the difference between someone not wanting what...

21 days in Cagliari, and I'm starting to understand what this move has really done for me. I talk about redefining audacity as doing the thing before you feel ready, the difference between arriving somewhere and actually living there, and how changing your environment can bring you back to life. We get into movement, healing, listening to yourself, and why you don't need to have everything...

For most of my life, I was trying to prove something. Be the first. Be excellent. Be impressive. Prove people wrong. Build the thing nobody else was building. Do more. Do better. Keep going. And I fucking loved it - I built amazing things with this mentality. But I also realized how exhausting it is to have your entire life oriented around someone else's eyes. Now I'm in Sardinia . I still...

I’m backkkk! And after a very intense couple of months, I think I finally understand something about the way I want to move through my life: I don't need to know exactly how I'm getting there. I just need to know the direction. In this episode, I catch you up on what's been happening — moving toward Sardinia without having a house yet, starting a retreat consultancy and somehow finding 7 clients i...

In this episode, I share what changed after I finally bought my one-way ticket to Sardinia. On the surface, it was just a plane ticket. But underneath, it felt like a decision to stop negotiating with my dreams. Since making that choice, so many things have become clearer. The person I want to help. The work I want to build. The offers I'm creating. The way I show up online. Even my faith has...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #10 For a long time, I treated joy like a reward. Something that would come after I worked hard enough, achieved enough, or reached the next milestone. Lately, I'm learning something completely different. Joy isn't the destination. It's the direction. In this episode, I reflect on what it means to use joy as a boundary instead of fear, pressu...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #9 For a long time, I believed that everything I shared needed to be useful. A lesson. A takeaway. A transformation. Something people could immediately apply to their lives. I realize now that this wasn't just showing up in my content. It was showing up in my friendships, relationships, work, and pretty much every area of my life. Somewhere along the...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 - Lesson #8 For most of my life, I only showed myself when I felt strong. When I had something to prove. When I had results. When I had answers. When I could show the polished version. And when I didn't? I disappeared. In this episode, I reflect on what it means to let the messy middle be seen. Not because it's strategic. Not because it's inspiring. B...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #7 For most of my life, I interpreted silence as rejection. If someone didn't call, text, respond, initiate, or seem interested, I assumed it meant something about me. That I wasn't enough. That I wasn't interesting enough. That I hadn't done enough. In this episode, I reflect on where that belief came from and how it shaped the way I sho...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #6 For most of my life, I interpreted silence as rejection. If someone didn't call, text, respond, initiate, or seem interested, I assumed it meant something about me. That I wasn't enough. That I wasn't interesting enough. That I hadn't done enough. In this episode, I reflect on where that belief came from and how it shaped the way I sho...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #5 For a long time, feeling cringe was a sign that I should stop. Stop posting. Stop sharing. Stop showing up. Stop being seen. But lately, I'm learning that cringe is often just the feeling of doing something before it feels natural. In this episode, I reflect on my journey with social media, visibility, and learning in public. Because the truth is,...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #4 For most of my life, I believed pressure was a good thing. Pressure made me work harder. Pressure made me achieve. Pressure made me productive. And to be fair, it worked. It helped me build businesses, create projects, push through challenges, and accomplish things I’m proud of. But it also came with a cost. Stress. Exhaustion. Performance. Constantly...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #3 For most of my life, I assumed that if I was good at something, I should keep doing it. It sounds logical. But lately, I'm learning that competence and alignment are not the same thing. In this episode, I reflect on the Playground experiment and the decision to cancel it, even after people had signed up. From the outside, it looked like it was wor...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #2 For a long time, I believed that being loved meant being needed. If I could help, fix, support, carry, solve, advise, or be useful somehow, then I felt valuable. Then I felt chosen. But lately, I've been realizing that this way of loving came with a cost: overextending myself, overgiving, and making my worth dependent on what I could provide. In t...

35 Things I'm Unlearning at 35 — Lesson #1 In this episode, I reflect on something that has been showing up in different areas of my life: the feeling that what I do is never quite enough. I share two recent examples — one from my portrait series and one from a friendship — that helped me see how often I confuse my worth with my effort, and love with usefulness. The more I sat with it, the mor...

In this episode, I reflect on discomfort — and how staying in it might actually be the thing that helps us grow the most. Lately, with content creation and showing up online, I’ve noticed that the more I stop trying to control everything, the more natural and true my voice becomes. It’s uncomfortable. It’s awkward. Sometimes it feels cringe. But I also realized that when I stay in that discomfort...

In this episode, I reflect on my relationship with social media, content creation, and finding my voice again. At the beginning of the year, after my 21-day challenge, I realized I was scripting myself too much. I focused on saying the right thing, sounding smart, and meeting people’s expectations — especially when certain posts started going viral. But slowly, I’m coming back to a more inside-out...

In this episode, I reflect on grief, old dreams, and the way life keeps moving. Launching the Playground reminded me of the dance school I built for seven years. A beautiful adventure that gave me so much, but also took a lot from me. I talk about the space I once dreamed of creating in the Netherlands, and the peace that comes with realizing that dream is changing now. Not disappearing — evolving...

In this episode, I talk about gratitude in a way that feels different for me now. Not just writing it down or saying the words, but really feeling it in my body. Gratitude for this life, for where I am, for what 2025 taught me, for the things I’m still grieving, and even for the moments that felt hard. I reflect on how gratitude can bring us back to ourselves, to our heart, and to what really matt...

In this episode, I reflect on my recent Playground launch — and why I decided to stop it, even after people had signed up. For weeks, my body had been screaming at me through anxiety, sleepless nights, eczema, and stress. And I finally had to admit something to myself: I was still trying to prove that I was okay after everything 2025 brought me. This one is about listening to your body, recognizin...

In this episode, I reflect on friendships, relationships, and the kinds of people we allow into our lives. A conversation with a friend made me realize how much life experiences can change the way we see love, support, connection, and emotional capacity. We talked about conditional love, overgiving, people-pleasing, and how exhausting it can be to constantly try to earn belonging through caring fo...

In this episode, I talk about something simple: play. For me, play means this: Permission to Live As Yourself. I share how, these past few months, I’ve been trying things, making mistakes, learning, and just… playing. With my podcast, my videos, and my projects. And I realized something: when we take life too seriously, our body feels tight, stressed, and heavy. But when we play, everything feels...